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My self-summary
I suppose as a typical oldest sibling, I lived my life predominantly for other people for many years. Eventually I became sort of burned out by that and began to rethink what I want out of life. Since then I finished a double degree, traveled the world, and landed a really good job here in Berkeley. This all came about, not because I sat down and mapped it out, but because I stopped letting other people's expectations have so much influence on my life.

I'm happier now than I've ever been. I'm looking to share it with the right person. The last 10 years have been really good in large part due to changes I made on my own, I found my healthy and happy place. I believe that a positive attitude in life can change your situation, but don't buy into gurus or self-help books that cling to flawed logic and make leaps of faith without regard for evidence based thought.

Fantastic life and a great relationship. Prior to 2004 it just seemed that it was an either or situation, but I'm trying to change that. I'm hoping there is someone who I can share both of those things with. If you think that could happen for both of us, then let's give it a try.

I'm outgoing, social, but often a solo traveler, live alone, self sufficient, and independent. I enjoy my own company, but relish social interaction too. I've always been a bit different, seen as an interloper unconvinced of the merits of conforming to group norms and conventions. I suppose it happens when you are always the new kid. I attended three high schools in 4 years. I'mnot sure how many grade school. It's kind of a blur. We moved a lot., mostly to small towns. Might be why I prefer bigger cities now. I have broad musical tastes, an eclectic and far flung group of friends, and love a good adventure or just chilling at the beach. I get along well with most people, even the ones I don't really like. Things you learn being the new guy all the time.

Living abroad honed my already formitable self reliance skill set. I spent almost 2 years working, traveling, and living abroad. I have learned there are very different ways of seeing the world without needing to judge them. I seem to make a few close friends in each place I live. I greatly value the friends I can still keep in touch with, especially the kind where it feels like we just talked yesterday even if we haven't.

I'm looking for a partner in adventure, a co-conspirator, someone to spoil with my cooking, who likes my nerdy side, and wants to show me new ways of looking at the world. She is generally confident, happy with herself even though she might be looking to improve on some things. She is fearless, able to roll with the moment, has a good sense of humor, not uptight, and would have fun playing cars against humanity knowing full well that it's just politically incorrect irreverent fun.
I have always loved storms. I once watched lightning make the night sky like day for a full 30 seconds from the 2nd story of the house we lived in. Amazing. I also remember a time when I watched heat lightning dance across the valley from the porch of the same house. If you would consider this a good time then we have something in common. If something like this frightens you then I'm not the one for you. I hold a mixture of traditional and progressive beliefs, for instance I am pro equality for women and same-sex couples, but I don't generally kiss on the first date and will open doors for you. I am a liberal, but believe that too many people who adhere to political correctness lack critical thinking in their approach to it.
What I’m doing with my life
I moved to Berkeley in 2013 to get the best job. I'm at Lawrence Berkeley National Lab doing semiconductor research on the the Advanced Light Source and find it interesting and challenging. I love the bay area, feels like I've been looking for this place my entire life. I enjoy the mix of cultures, languages, new places to see and things to do that the bay area offers in spades. I’m forever curious about the world. I want to know everything…. Yes, everything. I'm exploring Oakland and Berkeley, doing a bit of gardening on the weekends. I have tomatoes, cucumbers, and strawberries. I am also remodeling my place.
I’m really good at
Finding the up-side in any situation.
I'm good at fixing most anything: carpentry, plumbing, electrical, mechanical, computers, scientific instruments, star-drive on your space ship.
The first things people usually notice about me
People usually say I look like someone familiar. I have one of those faces.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I realize this section is large, but who knows. You might just find something you like..

Recent playlists include: a lot of New Retro such as Lazerhawk, Trever Something, and Dynatron, Capsule, as well as Boards of Canada for the last 10 years. Other stuff seeing rotation, Daft Punk, Royksopp, Massive Attack, The 1975, The Pillows, Andreya Triana, Bonobo, The Shins, Elvis Costello, Roxy Music, Handsome Boy Modeling School, Amon Tobin, Air, The Books, Mum, Queens of the Stone Age, Chip Tunes/8 bit Prophet, TV on the Radio, She Wants Revenge, Shantel, Metric, Steam Powered Giraffe.

Here are some favorites... (AUTHOR: Book) WILLIAM GIBSON: Monalisa Overdrive and The Difference Engine. HARUKI MURAKAMI: The Wind-Up Bird Chronicle, A Wild Sheep Chase. TIM POWERS: The Anubis Gates. FRANK HERBERT: Dune, ANN & JEFF VANDERMEER: Steampunk. GEORGE ORWELL: 1984 or Animal Farm. JOHN STEINBECK: Cannery Row, The Pearl. RICHARD PRESTON: The Hot Zone, LAURIE GARRET: The Coming Plague, WILLIAM GOLDING W. MEITCKE: The Lord of The Flies, BILL WATERSON: Calvin and Hobbes, SHEL SILVERSTEIN: Where the Sidewalk Ends, RICHARD BACH: Jonathon Livingston Seagull

Some favorites are The Matrix and other works by the Wachowski's, Clerks, Mall Rats, Dogma, Princess Mononoke, Drop Dead Fred, Blade Runner, Donnie Darko, Spirited Away, Scott Pilgrim Versus the World, Groundhog Day, The Dark Crystal, Altered States, Dr. Strangelove, A Christmas Story, Ferris Bueller's Day Off, Better Off Dead, Office Space, Montepython, Couching Tiger Hidden Dragon, Fight Club, Kill Bill, K-Pax, 2001: A Space Odyssey, The Fifth Element, The Princess Bride, Nightmare before Christmas, Amelie, The Secret of Roan Inish, Nausicaa, American Beauty, Repo-Man, Shawshank Redemption, Pay it Forward, The Jerk, This is Spinal Tap, The Green Mile, A Clockwork Orange, Gattaca, Lemony Snicket's A Series of Unfortunate Events, 12 Monkeys, Army of Darkness, Inside Job, An Inconvenient Truth, Hotel Rwanda, (and other documentaries), Cowboy Beebop, Ghost in the Shell, 5 cm per Second..
The six things I could never do without
A project or something to do
Living near the ocean
Good music
Sturdy comfortable shoes.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I've been really fascinated by the "tiny house" movement and all the clever space saving furniture people come up with. (I have begun to put some of that into my place. I have always been a builder/tinkerer and have plans to try building a float cabin someday. I lived on a boat in college and loved it.)
How I can solarize my yard and install an aquaponics system. What I'm building next, deep thoughts about how to improve the world because it's a mess.

The Information Age should be called the Questionable Information Era. I am increasingly disturbed by the consequences of misinformed groups who believe in their cause, but are ill equipped, ill informed, sure that what they are doing is the "right thing", but all the while actually setting humanity and the world back, putting us decades behind where we could be. This is to say nothing of the willfully ignorant. That's not what I mean here. I'm concerned with those who act out of a longing to do good, but actually cause harm because they lack real knowledge, are misguided, who no longer to question their thinking because the internet provides a community of like minded people to reinforce their beliefs. Particularly disturbing to me is my own error. I have, on occasion, fallen into this pattern and acted on my own faulty convictions. Realizing this was sobering for me, as well as disheartening because I see it in so many others. Our actions can have very real negative impacts,. At the very least it's time lost fighting shadows that could have been better spent.
On a typical Friday night I am
Working on some project, watching the sunset from the veranda outside my office or at the beach swimming, hanging out with friends, going for a motorcycle ride.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
It's the internet. You must be kidding OKC
You should message me if
You read all/most of what I wrote and it resonates with If you. If you skipped the Book/Music section I can't blame you. Bonus points if you are a nerd and would like to attend a comic book/scifi/anime convention with me. You are kind, intelligent, interesting, funny, approachable, and are looking for the same. You are progressive, but not easily offended. PC Nazis need not apply. You are agnostic/atheist/not religious. Bonus if you know that the Food Babe is a quack, and know why vaccines are effective.

You should NOT message me if you are Christian, think that jealousy is OK in a relationship, or if your profile says you're Straight, but you answered this ....

Q) Have you ever had a sexual encounter with someone of the same sex?
A) No, but I would like to.

Seriously? You're over 30 and haven't sorted that out yet?