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My self-summary
I’m a writer who’s achieved a modest level of success. I’ve been on the radio a number of times (police band); I just signed a recording contract with Columbia (I only have to buy 11 more CDs at regular club prices); and I’m working on a one man show (but the neighbors keep calling the cops and they make me pull my shades down.)

But enough about me. Let’s talk about you.

Obviously you have a sense of humor and you’re looking for a guy who can make you laugh. You want a regular guy with whom you can share your time, your thoughts, your feelings and maybe next New Year’s Eve. You’re not looking for the perfect man because you realize that perfection is not a human attribute. You realize that anyone who is single at this time in our lives probably has made a mistake or two (except perhaps widows and widowers). But as long as you’ve learned from them and don’t ruminate about them endlessly you’re probably all the wiser for having made them.

You may be looking for a romantic relationship but you value friendship and companionship too. You like to explore new places, learn new things and have new experiences and you’d like to have a great guy in your life with whom you can do all these things and more.

Perhaps your ideas of a good time are much the same as mine. A drive through the Hudson Valley in the fall to admire the beauty of the changing leaves, stopping at the occasional gallery or curio store and ending with dinner at a place we’ve never been before. Cuddling with a good movie on a cold winter’s night. Visiting the Jersey Shore on a spring weekend before the tourists come. Going to a summer barbecue or picnic and managing not to stuff ourselves.

If we’re on the same wavelength and you’re my age or younger then I’ve been hoping to meet you. I hope you’ve been looking to meet someone like me too.

I live in southern Westchester. If you do too or you live in the Riverdale section of the Bronx you win bonus points you can redeem for fabulous prizes!

If you don’t live in my neighborhood we could still be friends. My female friends are truer and more understanding than my male friends ever are.

If you’ve read this far what are you waiting for? Say hello already. Let’s make this year a great year together!


ACK! I can't believe they're retiring journals!!! It was THE feature that set OKC apart. Now this joint seems little different from PlentyOfFish and a million other sites. What a shame.

Journal entries were a great icebreaker. A number of women first wrote to me to tell me how much they enjoyed reading it. In fact, I didn't respond fast enough to one because I was preoccupied with family business and when I got around to replying to her it was too late. She had closed her account. Oh well. I learned a hard lesson the hard way.

Well here's one last YouTube Pick of the week: It's a great pop tune I missed when it first came out.
What I’m doing with my life
I've got several projects in various stages of development. I love astronomy so I'm helping to research galaxy identification and gravitational lensing. It's not as impressive as it sounds. I'm basically doing the grunt work for professional astronomers. Sort of like a grad student but without the diploma.
I’m really good at
Writing and editing writing. Figuring out how to make electronic gizmos work. Making people laugh. Explaining technical things to non-technical people. Entertaining small children.
The first things people usually notice about me
My command of the English language. Women, though, seem to notice my voice first. Especially if we talk on the phone before meeting in person. Chicks dig my voice. Some are indifferent. Most find it appealing but a certain percentage just go all soggy for it. I don't know why. I can't hear anything special myself. But I'm not complaining.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Casablanca is my favorite movie. I just watched it for the millionth time. Nothing in the theaters can touch it. By the way, people who won't watch a movie because it's in black and white are dolts. And more than a little pathetic. The Wizard of Oz and To Kill a Mockingbird are probably tied with Casablanca

My favorite author is Elmore Leonard. He is smarter than all of his characters (not to mention me) and his ear for dialogue is uncanny.

If you want to write fiction the three most important books to read are:

Techniques of Fiction Writing: Measure and Madness by Leon Surmelian. If you want to write fiction GET IT!

The Art Of Dramatic Writing: Its Basis In The Creative Interpretation Of Human Motives by Lajos Egri. Revelations on every page.

Story: Substance, Structure, Style and The Principles of Screenwriting by Robert McKee. Although it concentrates on screenwriting most of what McKee says is applicable to most fiction writing.

Duke Ellington was not only a genius. He was the coolest man who ever lived.

Movies and TV Themes

Constant Lambert's music for Anna Karenina (1948)
All of John Barry's themes for the James Bond films
Everything Bernard Hermann ever wrote, especially for Hitchcock
Nelson Riddle's theme for Lolita (1962)
Jerry Goldsmith's theme for The Man From U.N.C.L.E (Season 1)
Dominic Frontiere's themes for the original series of The Fugitive and The Outer Limits

n.b. If your favorite movie was made during your lifetime you probably haven't seen enough movies.


I can't begin to list them all. I'm usually reading three or four at the same time (although I don't finish every last one of them--life is short and you have to know when to cut bait). So I'll confine myself to books I've read in the last few years or so that I found particularly entertaining or informative or both.

Current read: Thinking Fast and Slow
Recent read; My Beautiful Brontosaurus
Less Recent read: We Almost Lost Detroit
(The true story of a 1966 nuclear plant "excursion" that could have wiped out the city and hundreds of square miles of countryside.)
Good read: Queenpin by Megan Abbott. Superb noir.
Big Bang: The Origin of the Universe by Simon Singh
Hiding the Elephant: How Magicians Invented the Impossible and Learned to Disappear by Jim Steinmeyer
The Glorious Deception: The Double Life of William Robinson, aka Chung Ling Soo, the Marvelous Chinese Conjurer by Jim Steinmeyer
The Magician and the Cardsharp: The Search for America's Greatest Sleight-of-Hand Artist by Karl Johnson
The Pine Barrens by John McPhee
La Place de la Concorde Suisse by John McPhee
Universe by Robert Dinwiddie et al.
Rebel without a Crew: Or How a 23-Year-Old Filmmaker With $7,000 Became a Hollywood Player by Robert Rodriguez
The Hot Kid by Elmore Leonard
Up in Honey's Room by Elmore Leonard


I get my TV OTA (over the air--the old fashioned way) so I don't get cable channels anymore. I get the big four networks plus the English language versions pf Aljazeera (Qatar) Arirang (South Korea) and NHK (Japan). They're all very interesting and they're informative in ways no American network could be.

On American TV I like Elementary, Vegas, (RIP) Person of Interest and 2 Broke Girls. And I like NBC's new Cozi network (Shows from the 50s to the early 80s--what TV Land was supposed to be.) And Fox's new Movies! channel.


Carolina bbq and the usual ethnic suspects: Chinese, Italian, Greek, Indian, Mexican, Thai, Burmese, Afghan, Polish and more.


Smooth Jazz
Real Jazz
70s and 80s pop and rock
Real Country & Western (Patsy Cline, for example)
BB King (Best song title ever: Nobody loves me but my mother, and she could be jivin', too)
Six things I could never do without
Never do without? Humans can do without a great many things and still survive, even flourish. Let's say these are things I prefer to never do without.

Books, movies, a computer, broadband, a telecope, a camera, and I'd prefer a person in my life.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Whether a semi-auto shotgun or a flamethrower would be more effective in dealing with the coming zombie apocalypse--or whether a 21-speed mountain bike would be the best defense against such slowly shuffling creatures.
On a typical Friday night I am
Rocking the Casbah, tripping the light fantastic, getting down with my bad self, calling for backup, chatting up your mom, flipping my lid, being bad to good girls, being good to bad girls, playing for keeps, shooting the moon, running for cover, cracking the whip, looking for trouble, crunching the numbers, balling the jack, spanking the monkey, running on empty, trading places, blurring the line, making faces, buying time, greasing the skids, riding the range, watching the kids, fixing the game, sharing the blame and taking the Fifth. Or sleeping.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
1.) I have a fetish for chicks wearing hairbands with little cat ears on them. Don't ask me why. I have no idea.

2.) I think putting mustard on turkey or mayo on roast beef are signs of a possible sensory disorder. But it's OK for little kids to put ketchup on hot dogs.

3.) At one time my number one match at 94% was some Russian chick who had as her prime picture a photo of her holding an assault rifle that makes a Kalashnikov look like a pop gun.
You should message me if
You didn't burst out laughing at my lower age limit of 35. (Hey it could happen. I'm just sayin'.)
You're a lover not a fighter.
You like writing or writers or both.
You want me to teach you something.
You have something you could teach me.
You're smart.
You're very smart.
You are patient and forgiving.
You are a redhead. (Just a bonus--far from necessary.)
You like astronomy.
You have a picture on your profile. (No picture; no reply.)
You've read some of my journal and you like what your read.
(Come for the profile; stay for the journal!)
You're ready.
The two of us