Aspiring for personal growth, trying to understand society and refusing to let it make decisions for me. Exploring the rationale behind peoples decisions and thought process. Striving to think objectively and logically. Realizing there is very little in this world that is Black and White.
I'd like to believe im pretty multi-dimensional. I can connect with most people spare the prideful ignorant and self involved.
I've been on this site for some time now and i often read the 'Questions' section. Some of the things people put up here are quite contradicting or just odd. So i think i'll attempt to update this once in awhile with a Question of my own in search for clarity on what some of these contradictions or puzzles mean.
Love Logic Question 1:
What the hell is Short term Dating? I have no clue what this means.
(This one isn't as much a 'Questions' confusion i have, more so an OkCupid profile dating preference that i can't grasp)
Do you 'date' someone with the intention of their being an inevitable expiration? Like, do i short term date you for a week? Are we 'entwined' and labeled as a pair for a month or until our arrangement loses excitement? I don't get the basis of Short Term Dating. Any help?
Love Logic Question 2:
At what point do you find entertaining other suitors disrespectful? Before you've met in person and just talking on txt, phone, online? After you've been on one date? After a series of dates? After you've slept together? When are you in an assumed 'monogamous' situationship where you believe you have the right to get upset and offended at other men/women being in the person you're 'talking' to's life?
Love Logic Question 3:
Why do women often have 'not looking for hookups', don't message me if you just want sex, or something to that effect? Is this to hopefully stave off men initiating contact with you with sexual explicit messages? I feel its more to safeguard from men who have no intention for a relationship and just want to get you comfortable enough to have sex with you and nothing serious. Thing is, those men don't care about your disclaimers and attempts to ward them off. Most men don't expect for women to openly approve of hookups and 'just sex'. The men you hope to evade with these statements are the same men who will disregard them because they don't respect you in the first place. Am I missing a reason why these broadcasts actually work? Do ladies actually witness less volume of these types of advancements and make it out on dates with men looking for more?
Love Logic Question 4:
Piggy backing off of the last one. What is 'Just sex'? Often I'll see 'don't message me if you just want sex'. Does that mean don't message you if you aren't interested in a relationship? I feel that would be a much better way of putting it. You can desire sex with someone and still appreciate them as a person. You could want to hang out and spend time with them and enjoy their company. You could desire a friendship, yet yall end up having sex. You don't 'just want sex'. However, you enjoy it and don't take it off the table as an option. Especially if its a mutually beneficial event. There are alot of things that could stand alone from sex or be coupled with it that you may take interest in and desire. You just might not want a relationship. So 'just sex' seems kind of a sloppy statement that begs for clarification. ' Don't message me unless you are interested in a long term relationship' strikes me as a more direct statement more to point with your goals for typing a disclaimer. Maybe I'm missing something though and there are meanings and reasonings for that statement I'm not aware of. Please enlighten me.
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Off the top of my head, this is what i have. Keep it real.
Don't message me if you're not open minded, and think subjectively. Prone to Drama. Uninteresting with little to say. Think im going to trick on you, or play sugar daddy, im not about that life.
I find that alot of the questions on this site are pretty good conversation starters. So to break the monotony of "Hey" "Wassup" "How are you" etc.... Try asking about why i replied to a question the way i did