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My self-summary
I’m a professional, an overthinker, and arguably a professional overthinker. I live in brownstone Brooklyn with my offspring and my wife. Our marriage is open, but I’m not actively looking for other partners so much as I am trying to leave myself open to possibilities.
What I’m doing with my life
Enjoying it, most of the time. This means balancing work, family, and various kinds of play, often successfully.
I’m really good at
Learning new things. Reading and writing.
Making obscure references.
Coming up with silly song lyrics.
Taking care of people who are important to me.
Fixing your computer.
The first things people usually notice about me
My wife and kids, I suspect.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I've loved North by Northwest and Chinatown ever since I took a film class in college. The problem with taking a film class, though, is that you will never again be able just to sit and watch a damned movie.

I don’t watch much TV. It’s not that I disapprove of it, but I can usually find something else that I need or want to do. At various times, I’ve been into the Sopranos, South Park, Rome (it’s a shame that HBO made only one season of it), and Babylon 5. I go in and out of being interested in Game of Thrones, but that’s largely because I loved the books.

I love Bryan Ferry and Roxy Music. My favorite karaoke song is Ziggy Stardust. This may suggest that I have underlying glam tendencies. My fondness for going to piano bars to sing showtunes may suggest to some that I have other underlying tendencies, but that’s just a stereotype.

Also, to confound those who want to find a pattern here, I was really into the Grateful Dead in high school, and I still enjoy them sometimes.

I have a thing for cassoulet. Every few years, in fact, I get possessed by something or other and become compelled to make one, which means three weekends of cooking. I mean, first you have to make the goose confit, and then...

Most of the time, though, I’m happy to throw a hunk of meat on a grill and enjoy it with a salad and a batch of what we call "cracktatoes".
Six things I could never do without
My wife.
My kids.
Good food and drink.
Good sex.
The Internet.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Er, sex.

The vast explanatory power of the Dunning-Kruger effect.

Also, what I’m making for dinner.
On a typical Friday night I am
Either having dinner with my family and tidying up the apartment, or packing up to go skiing or rock climbing or something.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Every time I visit this site, I think there should be a dating site for dentists called OKCuspid.
You should message me if
You would be charmed by watching me struggle desperately not to be pedantic and occasionally failing.

You think we might enjoy meeting each other, and you’re OK with my wife seeing your message.
The two of us