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My self-summary
Hello and welcome to my evil lair! If you're considering me as a reasonable prospect for your nefarious plans, then please, read on.

Let's cover the basics, this will be short and sweet.

If you can't handle that I'm a single father, move on.
If you can't handle that I'm a socialist, move on.
If you can't handle that I have burns, move on.
If you can't handle that I'm agnostic, move on.
If you can't hold your own, or don't even have a desire to, have a deep and thoughtful conversation about the meaning of life, the universe, and everything then move on.

In short, I can be very blunt. I would prefer to be soft and poetic, but the world seems to think that beauty or worth is skin-deep and therefore finds my scars both hideous and revolting.

Now! To some nice stuff. The details say 'bisexual'. To explain fully, I identify as a pansexual man. I'm primal. I'm dominant. I'm sadistic. If you're afraid of that, then we can simply be friends. I do believe that is possible.

Yet I am also quiet, contemplative, and sweet. For my ex-wife's 16th birthday I gave her 16 flowers: 15 real roses and one plastic. Along with this gift I wrote her, "For your sixteenth birthday, I promise to love you till the last one dies." I write poetry when I am moved, and most of my poetry concerns the joys and sorrows of love.

I once saved a woman and her three children from the homeless shelter. I fell in love with her. I moved them into my home to keep them away from their abusive ex/father. We dated. She moved on.

I am an historian and an intellectual, but I am also a doting, kind, and caring father and friend. More than anything I simply want to make a family. Tear from me my job, my home, my name. I just want a loving family.

If you managed to read all of that and can handle all of that then I invite you to read on. :)
What I’m doing with my life
I'd like to be a history professor at a small university, but that may be a path that is indefinitely on hold for the time being. I'm a middle school teacher, and I finally have the career I always wanted. Now if I could just figure out what to do with my love life.

I just want to find a woman who I can fall asleep next to cuddling. I want to come home from a hard day at work and play with my partner (whether that means doing dishes or actually romping or simply watching a movie). I want to feel excited by my lover, significant other, primary, whatever it is I end up deciding on.

I'm also trying to be a good father to my son. I don't want to be like my father; I want to be there for him.
I’m really good at
Doing my best! Seriously, I'm a fucking workaholic: grade A. Who turned in their final paper a month and a half early in college? This guy. Who started working on his retirement fund 40 years early? This guy. Who knew he was going to be getting at least one Master's degree back in the 10th grade? This guy.

Probably because of this, I'm also really good at sucking at my social life. I haven't kept a solid friendship since high school because I've been so focused on providing for my family and getting my education. I'd like to see you work a full-time 3rd shift job, go to school when you get off work at 8am till 4pm, come home and do dishes, play with your kid for an hour, finally go to sleep at 6-7pm and then wake up at 9pm to go to work FOR A YEAR! Oh yeah and maintain a two relationships at the same time. You find somebody who can do that, introduce me to her, we're soul mates! lol

I'd also like to think that I'm a rather decent poet. For example, as I borrow some old material:

As I walk these hallowed halls,
Surrounded by inanimate dolls,

I seek a way to verify,
That you exist and can't deny,

These bonds of familiar adamance,
Lost in physical appetence.

A wonderful tool,
Is my little pen,
A trusted companion,
Omniscient of my every sin.
The first things people usually notice about me
Physically? My scars, my ponytail, my tie.

Personality? My intellectualism, my curiosity, my really bad jokes.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
There are too many to share, so I'm just going to share a few from each.

Books: Speaker for the Dead by Orson Scott Card
Movies: James Bond maybe?
Show: Tenchi Muyo or Code Geass (animes)
Music: Third Eye Blind or Lifehouse
Food: Spicy!!!
The six things I could never do without
After a long consideration, I have looked at this list and come to the following conclusion:

I will not list the things that I could never do without, that I would always need, because I'd like to think that my 'soul', if you will, is versatile enough to survive any deprivation even if there are things which my body could not survive without.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The future. What to do. What I wish I were doing. What could have been should the fancy take me.

I also am immersed in the past, since thinking about it is my chosen profession. History and the Past, how queerly inseparably different terms.

Why I bother to write long in-depth messages laying out my thoughts and feelings in an attempt to engage in conversation only to be answered with a visit to my profile and the awkward silence that follows. Something as mundane as saying 'I'm not interested' is more courteous than that silent glance of 'what the fuck are you looking at?'

I also wonder why so many of you seem to want something 'interesting' to happen as opposed to something 'good'. I mean, yeah, it'd be pretty interesting to have x, y, or z happen, but doesn't the premise of the question therefore mean that interesting is not necessarily good? It's like playing the lottery, 'interesting...oh please land on interesting! Crap...I'm going to die from swallowing too many bees at the Taj Mahal.'

I also wonder why I feel the need to include other people in on my private conversations with myself. -.-

Just saying... :D
On a typical Friday night I am
Youtubing. Grading. Relaxing quietly while listening to a very wide range of music.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Ask me. Talk to me. I will hide nothing for I am ashamed of nothing.
You should message me if
You managed to read through all of that.
You find me attractive.
You think we may have deep and intriguing conversations.
You want to gush about Doctor Who or Sherlock together.
You like reading fanfiction despite being in your twenties or thirties.
You want to talk to someone who will listen and respond with sincerity no matter who you are.