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My self-summary
I am not what I want to be yet. I am trying to change things and get better. I am looking for someone who can see what I will be and take me for that, and trust that I will be amazing. I am up for many activities and adventures that I don't list here. For example, I'm not the most well traveled person, but I would love to travel more, having someone to travel with would make it happen more. In my experience, when I'm in a relationship I have more stability to take chances, and I just generally do more. Therefore I am rather sure finding my partner will help give me more stability to take chances and focus on my goals, and help me become the person I want to be.

I spend most of my time these days with engineers, artists, and burning-man types. I'm solidly more square/wholesome than your average burner, but I still find them more interesting than most people. It's likely that my being more square/wholesome than most of the people I know is why I am still single and looking to OKC for a solution.

I am definitely a part of the poets and part of the geeks. I involve myself in theater, arts and technology. I am often wistful and full of ennui, but also often full of inappropriate humor and absurdity.
I'm in a place where I ideally want to fall in love forever, but I know that takes time and a lot of "passes" on either side.

I recently realized that I basically wear my heart on my sleeve in a lot of ways, and want someone who does the same. Happy go lucky types who keep everything inside and don't know how to express their feelings need not apply. I want someone who can tell me (with words) when I'm not giving them what they need, and lets me (verbally or not) know when I am getting it right, and who can take it when I tell them what I need, either way, too. People really need to be told what someone who isn't them needs to feel loved and cared about. You can't expect someone to always get it right, without some direction.

I sometimes open up fast socially, but I don't really believe in instant "sparks" as a good indicator of a sound romantic future. It takes TIME to feel romantically cozy. Persistence has paid off in the past, so it would seem I respond well the pressureless time to get to know someone.

I'm looking for a geeky*~ guy with a high emotional IQ (can easily and openly communicate their thoughts and feelings,understands how and when to dole out sympathy, and appreciates sympathy himself), who wants to engage in some projects and pursuits with me sometimes, who likes to give an receive a good amount of attention. Also one who enjoys all the fun things between kissing and sex.

The community I find myself in seems to be largely into open or polyamorous relationships. I'm pretty much monogamous, and it's been hard to find. I'm looking for someone who wants to focus on me, as much as I am focused on them, and ultimately who wants to create a life together. So if you're not looking for anything serious, I'm not the girl for you.

Right now I'm really enjoying the sound of rain that just picked up outside, and also I really like to bike in the rain when it's warm enough out. :-)

Mostly I want someone I feel inspired by, who feels inspired by me. Someone who is better because of things in me, and who has things in them that better me as well.

*~ smart, creative, into science, math, technology, making, maybe stuff like board games and probably into some media geeks tend to enjoy too, but I'm not a (video) gamer, and don't particularly want one. Playing video games SOMETIMES is ok though, and I could be up for joining in on some of that.
What I’m doing with my life
Improv Comedy, Rock Climbing (up to 5.11b now, but my comfort zone is around 5.10b) , occasionally trying some crafts at Artisans Assylum, and riding my bike mostly lately. Also very occasional "urban exploration" aka climbing things people don't want me to climb in my case. Also involved in this thing called SCUL at Scul.org. I'm on the sort of less severe end of it, but it's great fun.

I want to make films. I want to go grad school something for else entirely, like engineering. I'd love to find a way to go back to school full time, and not have to work full time while I do. A partner would be helpful for that.

Last summer I worked for my friend who makes electronic fun stuff. We went to Maker Faire New York, where I was teaching people how to solder. I was really inspired by this, and plan to go back this September.

I have done two musicals in the past 4 years (one in 2011 and one in 2013), and would like to keep performing and do more.

I'm enamored about the natural world and so many of the fields man has created. I find most subjects and crafts amazing and impressive and truly honorable, but I wouldn't say I as of yet have any specific passion that has driven me to a certain life. And it pains me as I find so much so worth while. I'd like to be an expert at something, and have a career I have worked to deserve that I love.

I could really use a new climbing partner so I can get to the gym as regularly as I'd like to.
I’m really good at
Doing an impression of a fictitious character that me or someone else just made up and riffing on that for awhile, and having conversations with friends for fun where we are pretending to be other people, and entirely picking up on "what you did there." This is a trait that a lot of guys don't "get" and I LOVE meeting and playing with people who do this, and enjoy it too.

being willing to learn anything you might be willing to teach me.

Singing in musical improv comedy. I'm reasonable at general improv comedy. I'm in three troops.


Cooking some things.

Quoting the Princess Bride, Clue, Dr. Horrible and XKCD (also other geeky things, but not Battlestar Galactica, cuz I haven't seen it yet) (what would that mean if I told you "I haven't seen evil dead 2 yet?")

Knowing good places to eat in Camberville
Having opinions on comestibles.

this is my Dr. Horrible ELE application http://www.vimeo.com/1941326 The syncing went out when I stuck it on Vimeo...but you can pretend it's still there. It wouldn't work at all on youtube :-(
I made it with a borrowed digital still camera with video capabilities, and a borrowed macbook with fucking i-movie. gah! You thought editing to music was difficult in the first place!
The first things people usually notice about me
32", 26", 38"? No one's ever told me, so how would I know...I'm gonna go with the fact that I too am human.

People are often tell me they thought I was a few years younger than I am.

I have narrow feet. Ok nobody ever notices that. But if you have narrow feet too, we should form an exclusive cult, and burn payless to the ground! But then I wouldn't be able to afford shoes...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Honestly the guys I've gotten along best with don't necessarily have books and movies and music in common with me that much. That isn't really what makes people like each other. Being not into sports is a common theme, having one category of things in common happens frequently. But I fall for guys personalities more than their likes. What matters in the end is how well we work together. The last guy I fell in love with barely shared any media-likes in common with me at all. He doesn't like fiction, he has terrible taste in music, and doesn't consume much media. What worked was projects, rock climbing, learning, and that our personalities worked well together, we were great at communicating. He did end up liking a few of the movies and tv shows I made him watch, though, which is good. He doesn't really even like interesting food that much, and we still worked fantastically. I've had relationships with guys were we love the same music, and that is REALLY NICE, but those relationships have been pretty intense/dramatic.

I am currently reading The Return of the King (LOTR), Snow Crash, Sandman, Bone, Jasper Fforde's "The Last Dragon Slayer," and a book of H.P. Lovecraft short stories, and I'm soon to start His Dark Materials. In 12 months I will probably still be reading some of these, and re-picked up other things I haven't finished, like Midnight's Children, and added some new things as well. I recently acquired all of Douglass Hofstadter's books, and I may ever get to reading G.E.B..

A) American Gods, Good Omens, Hitchhikers, Jitterbug Perfume, Hamlet, Much Ado about nothing, Midsummer Night's dream, Dune, LOTR.

B)LA Story, Fight club, Princess Bride, Royal Tannenbaums, I heart Huckabee's, Rushmore, Garden State, The Impostors, Plunkett & MacClean, High Fidelity, Grosse Pointe Blank, Johnny Dangerously, Dangerous Lives of Altar Boys, Donnie Darko (but NOT the dirctors cut, which ruins everything), The Brother's Bloom, Scott Pilgrim.

C) All time favorites: Northern Exposure, Star Trek TNG, Scrubs, Buffy, Pushing Daisies, Community, Hannibal, Supernatural.

D) too much to say SplashDown , They Might be Giants, Of Montreal, Fleet Foxes, Vampire Weekend,Portishead, Bjork, Beck, Beirut, The Shins, Paul Simon, The Beatles, Smoke city, Rufus Wainright, Massive Attack, Magnetic Fields, Franz Ferdinand, OK GO, Thievery Corporation, Cake, Billie Holiday, Doves, , Carol Cleveland Sings, The Smiths, WBER, The Postal Service, flaming lips, U2, Red Hot Chilli Peppers, Elvis Costello, Ani DiFranco, Elliot Smith, Air, Blur, Pulp, Gavin Friday, Foster the People, Passion Pit, The Black Keys, Two door Cinema Club, Ratatat, Phoenix, a lot of other stuff...That enough?

I actually developed a caffeine allergy 6 years ago, so I can't have tea and coffee often anymore, but I really enjoy them. I drink hot chocolate now and herbal tea instead.

E) I like pretty much all of the exciting cuisine the world has to offer. I will eat sushi any time. If you have a cuisine type you think I haven't tried, or haven't had a lot, I am game. I like quality, creative and interesting food. Also I'm a bit of a beer snob.

Neil Gaiman, Joss Whedon, and Randall Munroe .

I also really enjoy eddy izzard Myq Kapplan Mitch Hedberg (may he rest in peace :_( Wes Anderson Jon Stewart Christopher Walken and Steve Buscemi. My favorite Ninja Turtle on the original cartoon series was Raphael and that was the birth of "which are you" personality tests..remember..3rd grade and everyone was like "Michaelangelo" but you were like "no way man, Donatello rocks"? I also really like the Pre-Raphaelites that should be a band name. Jamie Godown and the Pre-Raphaelites…yeah.
Six things I could never do without
A quiet place to sleep. I do without it all the time, acutally. I just really don't like doing without it. It kind of ruins my nerves.
interesting activity/ learning / projects
culinary variety
the possibility that I can improve myself
enjoyable social contact
real friends

keeps me up to date in music, even if I think it kind of sucks right now, it's pertty cutting edge, and plays a lot of good old alternative stuff too. I think of it here because it calls itself “the only station that matters”.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
People, why they are the way they are, how they are in certain groups or with certain people vs. alone and with other people and in different situaitons.

The pursuit of wholeness.

Darmok and Jalad at Tanagra.

"amazingness" would be a lot better if it only needed to work in one direction to make two people fall in love with each other.
On a typical Friday night I am
Probably at home and happy I don't have to wake up in the morning. though often enough I'm hanging out with people, playing boardgames, rock climbing, Watching NetFlix, and going to rock and/or roll shows, performing improv comedy, watching improv comedy, Talking about crazy ideas and how to implement them, playing D&D or Vampire TMSQD, or involved in some very non-D&D-type of LARP. I may also be at Artisans Assylum on other evenings, hopefully more soon. Lately I've even been going to parties!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I leave spoons in my mugs when I put them in the microwave. Oh yeah, take that fear and caution!

When people on the news say the words dictator or homeowner, it's hilarious.

I haven't worn a bra since Monday, and I feel fine.
(I actually usually wear a bra)

Guys who never complain about anything are the worst. Especially when they insist that's it's because everything is great. Either A) They're hiding their pain, even from themselves, which is unhealthy, or B) They aren't human.

http://www.thedailymash.co.uk/news/society/female-body-hair-may-stop-women-meeting-twats-2015061699290 I shave my arm pits and keep things under control usually, but I've got little interest in constantly keeping hairless for dudes who have silly ideas about human bodies.
You should message me if
(any of the bellow)

-You are looking for the real deal. Serious long term lurve and all that carp.

-You have an idea for a date that involves learning how to do something or making something.

-You're an outgoing creative guy who really lives life, who is emotionally supportive and is really looking for someone to love.

- you would be cool with living together, and paying the rent for both of us while I go back to school (long shot, I know, but maybe there's someone out there like that.)

-you are a doer. I need more friends who are doers.

- you converse. If you don't I will just babel and start getting crazy trying to say something that you will let me know you relate to. I need back and forth.

-you like being needed sometimes, but don't need to be needed all the time.

-If you feel The Royal Tennenbaums was a fabulous and witty piece of cinematic expression
-you like Bjork, The Magnetic Fields or They Might be Giants, independent film,
-if you have really nice pouty lips.
-you like using your brain but are [u]not an arrogant prick[/u]
-You read this profile without giving your monitor a look like it has nine heads

-You're that happy medium between Nick Miller from new girl and Munroe from Grimm. Or maybe you're one part Will Riker, one part Jean Luc Picard and one part Chis in the morning Stevens, with a dash of Hoban "Wash" Washburne. (Cap'm Mal is pretty sexy, but he's not anything you want to take shelter with.)

-You live in Boston and think I sound interesting. I am interested in meeting new people. New friends are like...silver...or gold..never been clear on which. God, last time I thought of that song I was 8.

-it bothers me that I have to include this, but the match percentage isn't balanced well enough, so let me just state, I'm reasonably liberal, and if you're not also at least a member of the 21st century, I'm not interested.

-You agree with this statement - Courtship is not just a period before a relationship starts, courtship is what you do because you are excited about how much you still love the person you're with, and want them to know how you feel about them.

Also if the proper moniker for your mother that you use most naturally and consistently it "Mommy", I'm likely not the gal for you.

(What I really want is a cute, intelligent boy. Someone who shares some of my interests, who inspires and helps me to get more out of life, and smells like lemony fresh laundry on a cool sunny summers day ;-)
The two of us