38Medford, United States
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My self-summary
I'm basically a Minnesota farm boy who moved to Boston for school. I'm also ex-Mormon, an Iraq vet, a musician, a Harvard student, a computer geek, an entrepreneur, an occasional gym rat, and an aviation fanatic. I have lived and traveled internationally and I'd like to be an expat again some day.

I guess what I'm saying is that there's a lot here and some of it is contradictory and unexpected, but like Whitman I am large, I contain multitudes.

In a relationship I am sincere (as opposed to sarcastic / snarky -- that works for some people but not me), emotionally open, and committed. I don't jump into things quickly, but when I do decide to get involved with someone I will do anything I can to make it work between us.

Also I should say that I'm looking for something long term -- possibly even the big M. I'm too busy to chase one night stands or flings.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm working full time and learning to play the violin / fiddle. I'm also learning Swedish and I occasionally brew beer in my kitchen.

Oh, and returning to the gym now that I've (mostly) recovered from getting my back messed up in Iraq. I seriously cannot wait to get some of my strength back.
I’m really good at
Listening sympathetically, the English language, and learning things about computers or aircraft. (I am a huge aviation geek.)

I've often heard that I'm good at reading people, but I feel like everyone thinks they're good at that so I'm skeptical.
The first things people usually notice about me
I often hear that I have kind eyes. Also, dimples.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Almost anything by Neal Stephenson. Roger Zelazny. Chicken tikka masala, or anything Moroccan. (I lived in Morocco for two years.)

I don't usually watch TV but I'm a sucker for Game of Thrones and The Avengers. The Blacklist, too: even though the writing could be improved I've fallen in love with James Spader's portrayal of Reddington.

Tom Waits, Roger Zelazny, and Clive Barker are giants in their field and can do no wrong.

My tastes are generally pretty eclectic, to be honest - especially in music. But I absolutely adore Dvorak's Romance in F Minor and Chopin's Opus 9, particularly the first nocturne.

In closing... are there rocks ahead? If there are, we'll all be dead!
Six things I could never do without
My violin. Books.

A text editor and a compiler.

Conversation partners. I don't just mean "friends" generically; I mean people with whom I can have long, engaging discussions on any of several topics.

Proper grammar and punctuation. My mother drilled it into me.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How well I would do, given my knowledge and skillset, if I were randomly transported to a different time in history. (The ability to communicate comes free with the thought experiment, but cultural sensitivity does not.)

I've decided that showing up right around the time of the Chicago World's Fair would be optimal.
On a typical Friday night I am
Honestly, I'm kind of a homebody. I do go out with my friends occasionally, but going out drinking every weekend is getting old. I'm starting some new projects that will keep me busy and I practice the violin a lot.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm an ex-Mormon, and I am so much happier now that I got out of that religion. It's still a pretty big part of who I am though. I guess it's hard to be raised in an oppressive cultish religion without it having an impact. Go figure.
You should message me if
If you are dedicated to something larger than yourself.
The two of us