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My self-summary
If you are going to send me a message, please send me a real message. I WILL NOT respond to "hi", "sup?" "hey sexy" "how are you?" "nice smile/eyes/etc", etc. Start a real dialogue! Send me something worth replying to!

(also, I am demi, sending me a sexually explicit message right off the bat is a great way to get me to ignore you)

...and now that we've got that out of the way...

About Me
I am quirky and a bit weird.. but I've met some of my best friends that way, and wouldn't change that for the world.


Based on things people have told me about myself, I'm a bit of a contradiction..
I am hard working, but rather lazy. I'm forgetful, but I remember everything,. I'm a very independent person, but I need someone to lean on. I am an organized disaster. I like everything to be clean but I'm pretty messy. I'm too nice to people, but I can be a bitch. I know what I want, but can't make a decision to save my life. I'm carefree, but I over-think everything. I am very creative, but I don't have any talents. I am rather smart.. but I do a lot of stupid things. I am the go-to person who can't seem to do anything right. I know I am a good person, but I have no self-confidence. I am the world's biggest procrastinator, but I get things done. I can stay cool under pressure but I constantly worry myself sick. I love to have fun, but I tend to be boring. I am driven to try new things, but scared of change. I am far too trusting, but I don't trust anyone. I can be rough, but I'm also gentle. I am strong, but I am weak. I am empathetic and apathetic. I love a good adventure, but I am comfortable with the familiar. I am proud of what I've accomplished, and disappointed at where I am. I am a pessimistic optimist (or as a coworker put it, a realist). I am generally chipper - I tend to look miserable. I am a quiet person but I can be rather loud.

I enjoy being outdoors, though I have never been camping. Do you camp? Want to take me camping? I am not particularly girly. I am far more forgiving than I should be and have an inability to stay mad at anyone. I take far too many pictures (I take pictures of everything, but mostly my cats and the sky). I enjoy science and math. I don't like being alone.
I know my STI status and would be happy to discuss it with you privately.
Also, I'm heteroflexible, poly, and kink friendly (I am a bottom), I have a few people with whom I play with with varying degrees of regularity. You can find me on FL, under the same name, and usually at local munches as well.

I am looking for my best friend / partner in crime.
If you had asked me a year ago, I might have had a different answer, but with where I am right now, I think above all, I'm looking for a friend. I am poly, and believe that one person can't necessarily fill all the roles you need filled, and that's okay. It's perfectly reasonable to have different people who fill different roles in your life.
I am currently accepting applications for sidekick.

About You
I am looking for someone who will be both my significant other and my friend. Someone who will be there for me, and who needs me there for them too. That being said, I need someone who is independent as well. I want to be your significant other/friend, not your mother/babysitter.
I am looking for someone I can have fun with and share activities with (into something I've never tried before? Tell me about it, I'd love to give it a shot!). Someone who loves to go on adventures be it the beach or zoo or vacation or just something simple like exploring the neighborhood or trying out a new restaurant. Someone who enjoys staying in and watching a movie just as much as going out. Someone who wants to hang out with me but also understands I need to have time for myself and other friends as well. I don't want anyone who is too clingy or jealous, but at the same time, I want someone who wants to cuddle and be around me. I also want someone who understands that I like to do things for myself, but who will still be willing to do nice things for me every now and then (and know that I will do the same).
Also, I'd prefer someone who is also kink/poly-friendly.

Long term goals: I am looking for a primary partner who I can eventually build a family with, but more importantly, I am looking for my best friend.

Short term goals: I am looking to meet new people and have a good time.
What I’m doing with my life
I work 1 and a half part time jobs in retail as well as full time as a GIS Analyst.
During the little free time I have I enjoy hanging out with my friends. I also enjoy crocheting, reading, writing, drawing (though I'm not too good at writing or drawing), and watching tv. I also enjoy going to shows (both music and theatre).
I have 2 cats. I love them to death.
I’m really good at
No idea, being indecisive usually.
Seriously though, I'm a good listener and a good friend. I have yet to discover any marketable talents though.
The first things people usually notice about me
That I'm only 5ft tall. Uh... I honestly have no idea what else.
I've been told I have nice eyes and a nice smile though.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
A. I like a wide variety of books, I read alot... when I remember that I'm in the middle of a book. I tend to put them down and forget, so as a result I like to read books from the Young Adult section, they're shorter and faster reads.

B. I like all types of movies, mostly comedy, horror, and suspense, but I also enjoy drama and some action, I enjoy thrillers but not movies full of gore.

C. I enjoy all sorts of TV shows, though some of my favorites include... American Horror Story, TrueBlood, Big Bang Theory, Scrubs, Everwood, Smallville, Family Guy, How I Met Your Mother, iZombie, Adventure Time, Scream Queens, How to Get Away with Murder, or just anything funny or a little bit weird, usually..

D. I will listen to almost any music, mostly rock though. When I'm at home I like to sleep with the radio on for background noise.
My favorite bands are Afi, Coheed & Cambria, Warpaint. I also enjoy Nine Inch Nails, Jack's Mannequin, Fall Out Boy, AWOLNation, fun., Sleigh Bells, Phantogram, Everclear, Depeche Mode, 30 Seconds to Mars, The Used, My Chemical Romance, HIM, Orgy, Skrillex, The Dresden Dolls, Blink-182, The All-American Rejects, Say Anything, Zox, Lindsey Stirling, MGMT, Midnight Syndicate, Mindless Self Indulgence, Brand New, and plenty of others.. I am constantly changing the CD in my CD player.
I have XM radio in my car and mostly listen to XMU, alt nation, 80s on 8, 90s on 9, Lithium, Octane, and 1st Wave.

E. Podcasts. I've been listening to a lot of podcasts lately. Here are some that I enjoy: Welcome to Night Vale; Lore; The NoSleep Podcast; The Black Tapes Podcast; Rabbits; Tanis; My Favorite Murder; Found, Modern Love; Alice Isn't Dead; Within the Wires; The Bright Sessions; Serial; Limetown; Secrets, Crimes & Audiotape; and Sword and Scale

F. I tend to eat almost anything. I have some food allergies, but I'm not too concerned. I enjoy trying new foods even if I may not like them.
Six things I could never do without
1. My friends
2. Some sort of music to listen to
3. My phone (internet/camera/means of communication..)
4. The water
5. books
6. my cats
I spend a lot of time thinking about
random things... really random things... usually unrelated to the current topic of conversation (but don't worry, I'm still paying attention)
On a typical Friday night I am
Hopefully out with some friends, but otherwise at home cleaning or on the computer. Usually thinking that I really do need to get to bed since I have work early in the morning, but knowing that that probably won't happen..
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I tend to try to do absolutely everything in my power to avoid awkward situations (which as a result usually just makes things worse).
You should message me if
You just wanna chat or you like what you saw in my profile.

You think we'd be really great friends.

You have some cool factoids you think I'd find interesting.

You want to teach me how to play guitar/bass. I own both and can't play either.

I don't put much faith in online dating, though if we seem to hit it off well as friends, I'd be more likely to want to hang out and get to know you in real life. I am not looking for random hookups.

But please don't message me if all your message will say is "hey, sup?", "hi, beautiful" or some combo of such. If you couldn't take the time to read my profile and find out a little more about me, then I probably don't want to talk to you..
Also, if you're not close to me in age, please don't message me.
I am not looking to date anyone younger than myself, and if you're too much older than me, it's just creepy.

Also, I am much more likely to respond if you have a picture.

Also also, I prefer open relationships. If you are strictly looking to be in a monogamous relationship then know that we are looking for different things.
The two of us