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My self-summary
Under Reconstruction.

There are times when I wish life was like the movies. Then I remember its so much more fun interesting to write my own script.

Cue the lights!
“Sifting through rocks trying to find a diamond!
Can U handle the pressure?”
“One man’s quest to find the wrong person. But not just any wrong person: the right wrong person”.(TM)

Staring/Writer-1(Vanillasky aka the Cutestphatboy and runner):

Phatboy (think NFL Offensive lineman) cycling, swimming and running to slim.. After a bad leg injury I'm back on the grind of my fitness journey and would love a cheerleader, partner to join me and challenge me on this path. Side note: where are the sistahs that love dating brothas only? I guess call me a dinosaur..

St. Louis born transplant who simply seeks to find ultimately a friend, partner, at some point wife via this medium or elsewhere. I am wise enough to know that I know nothing at all. And accept that I do not have it all figured out.... (Well kinda I still wrestles with it some) I have realized that I just may have been going about this whole dating all wrong.

Favorite quote
“We’re all seeking that special person who is right for us. But if you’ve been through enough relationships, you begin to suspect there’s no right person, just different flavors of wrong. Why is this? Because you yourself are wrong in some way, and you seek out partners who are wrong in some complementary way. But it takes a lot of living to grow fully into your own wrongness. And it isn’t until you finally run up against your deepest demons, your unsolvable problems—the ones that make you truly who you are—that we’re ready to find a lifelong mate. Only then do you finally know what you’re looking for. You’re looking for the wrong person. But not just any wrong person: the right wrong person—someone you lovingly gaze upon and think, “This is the problem I want to have.”

I will find that special person who is wrong for me in just the right way.

Let our scars fall in love.”

― Galway Kinnell

I could never express it in such an eloquent way...

Cue the orchestra:
I can live, I can love, I can be better with you,... for real.

Co Starring as leading lady"
An anonymous gorgeous woman of African hues. (that is you):

A gorgeous woman woman of the diaspora tall or short, from the darkest to the lightest hues of the rainbow, happy to be nappy, to curly to straight, long to short hair. She understands relationships require work commitment and dedication. (She desires to have children. This is in addition to any child/children from a previous relationship.). She does not seek a clone of herself or her male influences. She understand that we won't always agree or hold the same belief and it is ok and it provides opportunity for growth and adds character to the union/connection that is being built.

In short she finds him to be the right wrong thing for her. And as above the problem she wants to have..

Could you be the problem that I want to have? Could I be yours? Let's explore
What I’m doing with my life
After returning from my pilgrimage to Accra, Ghana and exploring Johannesburg and Capetown South Africa I am forever changed. Spiritually I am on the path seeking the ways of my ancestors to the divine and trying to lead a healthy life. After a bad leg injury I'm back on fitness journey running, cycling, and swimming. Working to build a firm with my partner before venturing out on my own.

I am searching for opportunities to work abroad to assist all peoples of the diaspora. Looking for opportunities for growth personally and professionally. I want to learn a foreign language...Thus Im researching avenues to accomplish this goal.
I’m really good at
Being a loyal friend, protector. I have been known to cook a few meals that have surprised folks, bowling (I lie but it is fun anyway), who knows what else....
The first things people usually notice about me
I am often told that my pictures do not do me any justice. Im not photogenic I guess. lol Next my eyes, hair(not so much since I cut it off), and hugs.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I love music of any kind and recently rediscovered that I love live music at a spot called Indulge with a couple of friends.

Musical taste ranges from Maxwell, Fiest, Dido, Ben Harper, 80s music, Otis Redding, Ice Cube, Morcheeba, Otis Redding, Sting, and Miles Davis...

My favorite radio show is called Echoes... Now I wonder who on here knows about it.. If you do then you may have free legal services for

Movies embarrassing but I love romantic comedies as much as the Spidermans, Transformers action type movies... Favorites are Lovejones(greatest of all time), Serendipity, Love Actually, The Holiday...

I will however go see some of the most lowbrow comedy when I am in real need of mindless laughter and entertainment.

Books I rediscovered my love of reading. Recent readings: Aleph The Alchemist, I Sat Down By The River Pedra And Cried, (almost anything by Palo Coehlo), The Shack, The Fire Next Time(Baldwin), The Power of Now, The conversation by Hill Harper... 12yrs as a slave Life of Solomon Northrup, The Christian Atheist ( excellent book) shocking title I know, Souls of Blackfolks, Yurugu,
Six things I could never do without
Mama Africa (The African woman)
The Ancestors
Love of family&friends
good music

I spend a lot of time thinking about
Life's lessons
My purpose
How to secure my family for future generations
How to uplift my people
How to become a better man
Where is my Queen, life partner, bestfriend? What will she be like and will I recognize her when she appears? Will she recognize me?
On a typical Friday night I am
Probably at home if friends don't drag me out to a club... (So not me).

You may find me in a bookstore or Lounge of III on U st early upstairs chillin to underground hip hop before the spot gets too crowded.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Nothing online.....
You should message me if
If you find a Phatboy runner, cyclist,swimmer(new) attractive interesting and would like to join him on this fitness journey as well on this journey called life.
The two of us