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My self-summary
Eccentric INTJ, heavy on the I.
What I’m doing with my life
Living an examined life.

Knowing what I like and why I like it.
I’m really good at
UX, design thinking, cooking, baking, radical candor, missing jokes, mixing cocktails, kissing..
The first things people usually notice about me
This one is obvious – I'm strikingly tall, beautiful, and have bright red hair. I tend to command attention everywhere I go.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Media - traditional news sources:
• NYTimes
• The Atlantic
• The Washington Post
• Science Daily

Blogs - more news on topics I like:
• Freakonomics
• NPR - The Salt
• Summer Tomato
• Michael Ruhlman
• Mark Bittman

Books - nonfiction all the way:
Attachment in Adulthood - Structure, Dynamics, and Change
• Quiet: The Power of Introverts
• Insatiable Wives: Women Who Stray and the Men Who Love Them
• The Tyranny of Niceness: Unmasking the Need for Approval
• Sway: The Irresistible Pull of Irrational Behavior
• The Signal and the Noise
• The God Delusion
• Sperm Wars
• Guns, Germs, and Steel

Movies - memorable favorites include:
• Ex Machina
• Bram Stoker's Dracula
• Stay
• The Fall
• What Dreams May Come
• Irreversible
• Stoker
• Closer
• Pan's Labyrinth

Television - only occasionally:
• Game of Thrones
• Sherlock
• Mr Robot

Music - jazz to trip hop to fado to bossa nova:
Julie London
Frank Sinatra
All India Radio
Late Night Alumni
Cocteau Twins
Chet Baker
George Winston
Erik Satie
David Nevue
Cristina Branco
Bebel Gilberto

Food - favorites include:
• French braises (okay, French everything)
• Seafood, including raw
• Spicy Cajun/Creole
• Tangy lemon desserts
• Full fat dairy like Greek yogurt, cream top milk, and real ice cream
• Great pho and bánh mì
• Intact grains, fresh herbs and produce, and endless inspiration
The six things I could never do without
There's a lot I could do without, but some things are very important to me...

I feel very fortunate to live during this time of having endless information and a wonderful means of connecting with others thanks to the interwebs. I'm ravenous for information, news, culture, and the arts, so thanks, you wonderful series of tubes, you.

This leads to another important priority in my life – skepticism and critical thinking. I surround myself with those that strive to maintain integrity in this area who, in turn, help keep me honest as well. After all, without this, everything is reduced to noise with the loudest winning while lacking any actual merit.

Related, another thing I love in my life is my small, but exceptional, group of friends and mentors. Each of them has passions and ambitions that keep me inspired to continue to strive in my own life. They challenge me, surprise me, and remind me that life is a wonderfully complex adventure. Thanks once again, internet, for keeping us all close.

I also very much adore my well-appointed kitchen. I'm finally at that point where I have good (and well maintained) knives, some great copper and cast iron cookware, and lots of extra toys, like an ice cream maker! I cook daily with beautiful, fresh ingredients, and feel very fortunate to eat like royalty. I have a couple ceramic crocks waiting to begin fermenting my own wine vinegars next!

Exercise is another one. I adore being active every day, as I see fitness as not only a means to longevity, but to a quality daily existence. The body, in my opinion, is very much directly linked to the mind, and both need maintaining. Sure, being all sexy-fit is great as well, but for me, that is more of a delightful bonus. Along with eating well, staying fit keeps me feeling healthy, strong, and capable of anything. I couldn't live a balanced life without it.

This brings us to sex. Just as I am passionate for food and art and learning, my sexual appetite is ever smoldering beneath the surface as well... and strongly so. I love enjoying my body and worshiping someone else's. I crave connection and release and I simply cannot imagine an existence devoid of tension, teasing, and taking.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Fixed vs. growth mindset.
You should message me if
Definitely message me if -

• You lack belief in gods
• You are breathtakingly intelligent and/or beautiful and/or talented
• You strive to live a life of integrity, especially when it's hard
• You are just as high in EQ as IQ
• You enjoy an active and fit lifestyle
• You are just as seductive via written word as in person
• You make it your business to be high in cultural capital
• You are more maximizer than satisficer
• You have high standards of yourself and others
• You have discerning tastes
• You are direct and bold when in pursuit of what you desire
• You are deliciously witty and/or flirtatious, but understand how to be sincere and vulnerable sooner rather than later
• You are unapologetically romantic
• Our match percentage is notably high

Bonus points for -

• Remarkable height
• A sharp and/or rugged and/or sexy sense of personal style
• Old fashioned manners
• A notably high sex drive
• A huge co.... llection of cook books

Try messaging me, but don't get your hopes up too high if -

• You have something other in common with me than one or more television shows and the fact that you like eating food
• You have a book, music, or movie recommendation for me that would likely suit my tastes

Special note to the ladies -

• Don't be shy! I'm very open to meeting women.