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My self-summary
Hello there,

Serious martial artist, silly person, submissive, but only to those I choose to submit to. I have a lot of chronic pain, but I still practice Kyokushin, and live a full life. I am Asatru- not the racist kind. Have also picked up a wee bit of Zen Buddhism, by virtue of practicing Sado, heh.

Potentially looking for a local secondary to date and have a long term relationship with. I am really needing an experienced dominant.

My primary and I are very close. He wants to talk to anyone who wants to meet up with me. We are polyamorous- we have a non-monogamous relationship with no cheating. Everyone knows, everyone consents. I only get to see him about once a week because of his job, but we are engaged to be married, eventually!

I have a dom that I occasionally play with as well. He's in the closet and isn't into meeting other people. We don't really get much time with each other, however.
What I’m doing with my life
Training to be a fighter, tending to my elderly horse, learning Sado, the way of tea, loving my partners, living a delightfully, joyfully subversive life.
I’m really good at
Loving. Finding my joy. Seeing the wonder in the world.


Working with animals.

Finding interesting people.

Well, honestly, I'm not very good at bragging about myself... This is one of the most awkward questions on here. How do you answer something like this without sounding like a total prat?
The first things people usually notice about me
Honestly, my weight is often what people first notice about me- I'm a really large girl, albeit not a tall one. After that, though, it depends on the person. Maybe they notice the strange archaic mode of dress. Maybe they notice the smile. Maybe they notice the way I move, or the way I speak.

I can't read other people's minds. Heh. This section is all guessing on my part.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I love fantasy and science fiction, both books and movies. My musical tastes run from classical to gothic to metal, with a number of odd divergences in between. I am a foodie, though I do not overeat. Asian foods are usually my favorite, especially nice spicy Northern Chinese, Thai, and Japanese.
The six things I could never do without
I see they changed this from "live without" to "do without."
Yeah, there's a lot of neat stuff we WANT. You'd be amazed what you can actually do without, if you need to survive, however.
Anyway, here.

Love. Joy. Gratitude. Will. Respect. Honor. Compassion. Orgasms.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Fighting, sexuality, human nature, horsemanship, music, spirituality.
Also, how I'm possibly going to survive in this world.
I'm too stubborn to give up though! :}
On a typical Friday night I am
Rubbing Tiger Balm on my bruises from Thursday night, which is one of my full contact knockdown training nights. Playing a computer game (I like RPGs, RTS, and FPS) or watching a foreign film on Netflix. Chatting with people in my martial art all over the world.

If I have a bit of money, I might be off at the local kink cafe (yep, San Francisco has a cafe for kinky people) with my beloved, or some friends.

Occasionally I'll go to Citadel, too.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have PTSD. Very solidly diagnosed. No, I don't like random strangers asking me how I got it.
You should message me if
You can speak to me respectfully, as a human being. I am not your personal sex toy. Speak like an adult, and treat me like a lady. I will extend the same courtesy to you, should you do so. Speak to me like a slavering troglodyte who stopped developing socially at about age 12, and you might get squished, in a not fun way.

After getting about 50 messages from random people on here, I think the following brief guide might greatly benefit a majority of the denizens of OKCupid. At least the ones who actually bother to read profiles.

Good: "Hello there! I am SomeGuy, and your profile caught my attention because of *interest* and *statement.* My interests include *interest* and *interest,* and I'd love to hear more about what you love about *mutual interest* Thanks for your time, and I hope to hear back!"

Unimpressive: "hi how are you"

Fail: "u got sexy titties I wud lick them all nite. 999-999-9999 call me."

Pro Tip: would your approach, if delivered in person, get you slapped, or possibly kicked someplace sensitive? Be honest with yourself on this one.

Message me if you want to make friends and talk about horses, or martial arts.

I just love:
Good law enforcement officers
Martial artists
Brilliant people
BDSM community members.

Lastly, and to reiterate, if you want to converse with me, you should message me if you are willing and able to engage in polite, meaningful conversation with which we can get to know one another a bit. "hey how r u" and "nice tits" will not convince me to skype with you or call you. Please be willing to chat on here for a while. Let's learn about each other's personalities and passions in life.

Hint: going on and on about your fetish and what you want to do with me is not us getting to know each other.

Now, if you've got past all that:

I'm looking for an experienced dominant who is looking for a secondary, to date. Someone who is open and honest about their relationships, and isn't sneaking around on anybody. Someone who is willing to go out on adventures and be seen in public with me.