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My self-summary
Name's Sean. Nice to meet ya! A bit about me (okay, it's more than a bit... I'm longwinded...):

My tumblr of nerdiness, geekery, science, English, HEMA, religion, and politics...

I'm a high school English teacher. :) My undergrad background is in English, history, and astronomy from UT Austin, while my grad background is in literature, creative writing, and rhet/comp from UTSA. I've worked with students aged 10 and up, but my current job involves mostly AP and Dual Credit high school English.

I proudly identify as both a geek and a nerd, not really in terms of culture, but in terms of my own weirdness and proclivities. Sci-fi and fantasy, astronomy and physics, creative and intellectual exercises, stories and language, world history, games of all sorts, and martial arts all are big parts of my life. Have fun and be proud :)

I've done a bit of traveling in my life -- mostly through Europe and North America -- though I'd really like to do more. Moreover, I'm tired of living in Texas, and would really like to move somewhere (the northwest, maybe?) in a few years.

I love spices and cooking and good beer!

I'm a staunch and active Humanist. Humanism is a lifestance that advocates secular ethics and empathy rather than dogma or authority. It's about equality, justice, dignity, education, consent, peace, and agency on a global scale, without erasure of culture or personality. It's a dedication to creative growth and fulfillment, while relying on reason, evidence, and critical questioning. This influences my politics, and I consider myself extremely progressive/liberal. Moreover, I'm a skeptic, an atheist, and an antitheist.

I'm an introvert; this is a great take on what that actually means. Not that it means much, but INTJ.

I don't have paying publications, but I've been writing short stories and poetry for a good long while. I love critiquing and doing close readings of other people's work, and I've recently started writing some novel-length material. Writing is definitely part of who I am.
What I’m doing with my life
Teaching, reading, writing, gaming, occasionally exploring and traveling, hanging out. Enjoying the ride.
I’m really good at
(I like to think I'm good at) writing. I'm pretty good at teaching, too, or so I've been told.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm nerdy and slightly awkward; I can be reserved and contemplative one minute, and the next be on a tangential/goofy rant.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: (there are plenty more of these, of course, but the following selection of books and authors has really shaped my life)
A Song of Ice and Fire, The Silmarillion, Hyperion Cantos, Ender's Game, Dune, Philip K. Dick, Robert A. Heinlein, Watchmen, V for Vendetta, Drizzt series, Michael Crichton, Disgrace (Coetzee), Love's Executioner, John Donne, Terrance Hayes, Martin Espada, Natasha Trethewey, Matthea Harvey, Shakespeare and Marlowe and Kyd and Middleton, Arthur Miller, and on and on.

Battlestar Galactica, Farscape, Rome, Deadwood, Dead Like Me, Firefly, The Wire, Game of Thrones, ST: DS9, Buffy!

Plenty of other stuff tickles my fancy as well: The Flash, Agents of SHIELD, Jessica Jones, Sense8, Daredevil, Black Sails, 12 Monkeys, Sherlock, Newsroom, Supernatural, ST:TNG, Stargate SG-1/A/U (yes, all of them), Castle, Orphan Black, Spartacus, Avatar:TLA, Legend of Korra, Suits, OITNB, misc. things on NatGeo, Travel channel, Science, etc.

Music: (just a taste)
-metal -- Kamelot, Nightwish, Katatonia
-rock -- Eve 6, Dave Matthews, Jethro Tull, Puscifer/APC
-celtic/neo-folk -- L. McKennitt, Faun, Omnia, Dead Can Dance
-trance -- Armin van Buuren, Oakenfold
-scores/trailer music -- Bear McCreary, Two Steps from Hell
-indie -- Imogen Heap, Rob Dougan, Azam Ali

The Fifth Element, Pulp Fiction, Star Wars, V for Vendetta, Jurassic Park, Alien, District 9, Indiana Jones (Last Crusade (best) and Lost Ark), Blade Runner, The Count of Monte Cristo, 10 Things I Hate About You, Contact, Shakespeare in Love, Dune and Children of Dune miniseries, wuxia films like Hero or Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon

Places Traveled:
UK, Germany (lived for a month), Hungary (lived for a month), Switzerland, Austria, France, Belgium, Netherlands, Italy, Mexico, Canada, and multiple US states including Alaska and a 6.5 week western US road trip.

There are plenty of hopeful destinations on the list as well, including China, the Mediterranean/Middle East/Northern Africa, Australia/NZ, etc.

Two black cats -- Azazel (my friends call Dopey) and Silverhammer (my friends call Freaky).

PC Games:
Baldur's Gate series, Dragon Age: Origins, The Witcher, Pillars of Eternity, Civilization III/V, Total War, Far Cry 4

Other Video Games:
I'm not a console gamer. Never had one, don't want one.

Board Games:
Chess, Game of Thrones, RISK: Legacy, Settlers of Catan, Hackmaster (pnp), Heroquest

Just got the BSG boardgame and 7 Wonders; we'll see how those play. I also have Betrayal at House on the Hill, which was pretty good.

Martial Arts:
Kuk Sool Won (9 years); Americanized Kung Fu, Wushu, Capoeria, Judo (dabbled in each, total time about 3 years); fencing (1 semester); archery (4 years)

I've been doing HEMA (Historical European Martial Arts) for about 9 months now. We look at fencing treatises and learn to fight with longsword and rapier and so on... I've joined Brandr Combat Academy around here, and it's been excellent so far! I competed at Purpleheart Open Steel in March, and I progressed further in than I expected, so I'm fighting well!

A 6” Newtonian reflector in rough shape.

Drinks of choice:
Milk, flavorful and unique beers, water.

Food of choice:
Mostly anything, though I have a preference for virtually any meat, hardy cheeses, dark spinach and kale, and whole grain breads.

Pizza? All meat. Plus mushrooms and onion sometimes. Oo, and banana peppers and red peppers.
Candy? Skittles or Reeses.
Spice? Garlic goes on everything, and saffron is heavenly.
Herbs? Basil is the best.
Condiment? Mustard and mayo combined with some Tabasco sauce (or Frank's Red Hot). Ketchup's way overrated.

Hmm... spicy Thai, things with olive oil, did I mention cheese?

- As a rule, *not* into anime/manga/cosplay/Japanese culture, nor am I a fan of Dr. Who (both of which are huge in the general geek population), though there can be exceptions.

- I'll admit to getting annoyed when I see that people enjoy reading Bill Bryson (especially *A Short History of Nearly Everything*). Not only does his writing style turn me off, but he gets a lot of things scientifically/factually/logically wrong, and he therefore misinforms the public with his "layperson's account" of things. There are plenty of better introductions to science than this.

- I spent some time hanging out with David Peterson -- the ConLanger who made the languages of Dothraki and Valyrian for Game of Thrones, and Castathan and Irathient for Defiance. I also hung out with Natasha Trethewey -- our former poet laureate. Back when I lived in Houston, I met some astronauts... It's interesting to look at who our heroes are.

- Random people to look up: Tim Minchin (comedy, music, atheism), Neil deGrasse Tyson (science activism), Felicia Day (geek activism)
The six things I could never do without
I never liked this kind of question... umm, in no order:
1. Time -- time to relax and love life, to be lazy and play games, to write and travel. Part of my introversion -- I don't like being "on" all the time.

2. Music -- though I can't really play, I find a large amount of peace in it, whether it's metal or classical. It's all about the emotions, and perhaps it's that I don't play and am not musically inclined that I'm so emotionally drawn to its mystery.

3. Stories -- books, tv shows, movies, my own writing, listening to people. The how and why of humans.

4. Space -- science, especially astronomy/cosmology, has always been a large part of who I am. The Greater Mysteries.

5. Friends -- I have never had many, and I thrive in small circles rather than extended groups, but a few intimate friends are necessary for me.

6. Knowledge, and access to it -- I'm a huge information-fiend, and I love learning. Honestly, I think learning is an ethical imperative.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The progress of humanity and the future of the human race. The worlds in and of my imagination. Food. Stories to read and tell.
On a typical Friday night I am
Depends... reading or tv alone, game night with a few people...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I don't know; I'm a pretty open book. I'm not really ashamed of who I am.
You should message me if
...you've read and enjoyed all of this! :)

...our "scores" seem compatible:
Match > 80%, Enemy < 20%, # of questions in common > 150
It's about whether we'd get along or not, not just if we like the same things. I've put some effort into developing lots of explanations in the questions section... feel free to browse, disagree/agree, and message me about them.

One of the questions in the match section asks if there's a checklist of traits I look for in a potential partner; I do have one, but I don't think it's terribly nitpicky... just general things that I've found in people I get along with:
1. Skeptical, curious, knowledge-seeker, reader.
2. A social progressive.
3. A good/open communicator.
4. At least a passing interest in:
a) travel
b) keeping healthy and fit through things that aren't just the gym (martial arts or the like)
c) geek/nerd-type things (sci-fi, fantasy, games, etc.)

Please be advised to NOT message me if:
...your idea of an engaging first message to me is a random, one-line question, or worse, is just, "Hey." Come on, have some respect for yourself.

...you think knowledge is a blunt instrument to make you look cool, rather than a precious commodity meant to progress humanity (i.e. if you identify as a hipster and have read David Foster Wallace because it's "smart").

...you find condescending sarcasm to be a normal approach you take in dealing with people. Sarcasm is fun and fine, but constant demeaning (even in that shitty, cliche, wanna-be loving way)... that doesn't work.

...you're socially conservative and/or have religious leanings.

...you're looking for casual sex or something super short term. Not my style, nor what I'm looking for now.