People have fascinated me since I was small. Big people, small people. People with one star on their bellies or two. I generally only lose my temper around people who are hateful, attacking my friends in some way, or deeply bigoted.
I do like to get out, go on adventures, and have fun, although graduate school makes this hard. I find I have to be creative about this, such as combining conferences and camping. I find peace in the outdoors and nature, but I think my home is the city and epicenters of society.
I laugh loudly, wear bright pink shirts, and I am a bit of a hippy.
BIG IMPORTANT NOTE!: I am currently seriously dating someone in the city! She is really lovely! I am Polyamorous! Scroll down to the bottom for more information on this! Exclamation point!
Also, I'm a graduate student in sociology at UC Davis.
I'm lucky that my path has taken me through a number of really interesting fields. I have, at various times, considered myself a psychologist, a biologist, a programmer, and a sociologist.
Trying to explaining white privilege to white undergrads.
Attempting to convince folks that it is okay to identify yourself as a feminist, and it does not mean that you hate men.
b)I like movies that take advantage of the medium, and make me think. Campy stuff is also *awesome*.
c) I like fusions. I've been listening to Manu chao non-stop. I like music that makes me feel things. Arcade fire makes me feel all conflicted and righteous, Solex and the Johns make me feel existential, The Postal Service makes me both feel ecstatic and sad. Aphex Twin sends me on overdrive, and I like a lot of the more mainstream electronica, like Daft punk, Cornelius, etc.
d) Food without Gluten in it ;)
3)Chocolate covered gummy bears. (O! M!! G!!!)
In other words, I do spend a lot of time thinking about my own shit, and how to work it out. I value this sort of thought in other folks, as well.
Also, when I am on OkCupid, I think a lot about Goffman, a sociological theorist that looked at the construction and presentation of self.
I am looking for connection. I recognize that comes in many forms, and I think I am open to most of them. Here is the thing. I've spent a lot of my life categorizing my relationship needs as boxes. I figure out what needs I have, make a box for that ("Let's label this box "Girlfriend!") and then going out and trying to shove someone into that box. This, it turns out, is a bad approach. For me, at least.
I've had a lot more luck recently going out, finding connection, and then carving out space in my life for what that connection grows into. I do find myself craving more serious, committed relationships as I get older, although friends/massage buddies/makeout friends/kinky party friends/people to go out dancing with/ships passing in the night are all pretty awesome.
I'm also open to a bunch of relationship models. While I have been very happy in monogamous relationships in the past, and could see myself happy in them again if conditions were right, monogamy isn't something I am interested in negotiating with anyone at the moment.
My approach to poly is non-hierarchical. This does not mean that I expect all of my relationships to have the same commitment level. Far from it. Rather, no relationship I have will have asymmetric authority over other relationships I have. I have had bad experiences with hierarchical relationships, have several friends who have had bad experiences with them, and I believe the relationship model to be harmful to everyone involved.
I recommend reading the book "More than Two" to anyone who wants to find out more! (http://www.amazon.com/More-Than-Two-practical-polyamory/dp/0991399706). Very happy to discuss this more with anyone who wants to chat about it!