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My self-summary
I am looking for fun friends or sweeties to go with. If you think you could potentially be interested let's chat and get to know each other before the big weekend. :)

Now back to your regular scheduled self-summary:

I'm a bisexual/queer/pansexual (I identify to some extent, but not fully, with all three of these identities) cis man, a bit kinky, mostly geeky, somewhat punky, always snarky, never jerky. I like to spend my free time playing video and board games, snuggling, going to shows from bands that play loud and scream a bit too much, traveling to gamer conventions, going to protests, and eventually going home and making sweet love to someone. I own a book named "Days of War, Nights of Love" and I consider that my life motto. Into poly relationships, looking for same. I want someone with whom I can share both a bed and a night of fun, whether at the movies, discussing the writings of Kropotkin, playing nerdy card games, or headbanging to some band.
What I’m doing with my life
Currently got a corporate position as a computer programmer. The job is nicely challenging. I like to solve puzzles and I get that plenty. I love math and technology in general, though I'm not the type of guy who just buys every gadget. I only get on board when I find a use for them.

I care about workers rights and as such I have often talked about unionizing in my field. But that's just not in the mentality of people who work in software. Programmers tend to think of themselves as white collar workers and temporarily frustrated future millionaires.

I always feel really annoyed that my field of work actively is hostile to women and is male-centric. I do try to cultivate good relationships with women employees to try and do my part in improving this, knowing that it's best if they feel they have allies on the job. I work directly with a woman in my team who is one of the greatest engineers I know. I have never accepted the idea that women can't do STEM work as well as men, and I think anyone who worked in our team would find that concept ludicrous.

Outside work, my main hobby is that I am a gamer, both video games and tabletop games. I have had a stint as a competitive gamer, touring Canada and the USA playing various games for prizes and typically being able to break even. Didn't make money there but was able to finance a lot of travelling and awesome experiences. I've done a bit less of that recently because the communities I was in have folded and some of the gaming communities left are a bit toxic on their views about women and LGBT people.

I've written articles on gaming from a standpoint of statistical analysis. That's the sort of geek I am. Most of the time I like to tweet or post on FB in activist spaces. I used to have a blog about anarchist issues and some feminism, but that's not really my medium I guess? I do my best writing when I only have to do 140 characters. ;)

I have a strong interest in anarchism, social justice, feminism and queer liberation. I've always wanted to pursue education in those fields but I felt my natural talent in STEM fields would be wasted if I didn't use it. I'm mostly an autodidact when it comes to politics, didn't go through a liberal arts degree in university, but I did spend half my classes reading political and activist books while spending the other half paying attention to the class.

I occasionally go to protests (though I now often trigger at the sight of cops since the Maple Spring, so post-P6 I had to keep away from gatherings for my own mental health) but my real interest lies in skill sharing. I've done a bunch of workshops related to technology, STEM and anarchist politics in the past and I'd like to do more of that. I love sharing ideas and transmitting skills to other people.
I’m really good at
Problem solving
Making people laugh
Listening and caring
Talking too much about some random trivia that got my mind occupied at the moment, figuring that out, then being a bit shy and self-conscious about it and hoping you'll have some of your own endlessly fascinating trivia to talk about
The first things people usually notice about me
My shaved head and the fact I'm a larger gentleman all dressed in black. Then I start speaking about something completly nerdy and any impressions I might be a contract killer dissappears.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I am a fan of dystopian novels like 1984 or the Handmaid's Tale. George Orwell is one of my favorite authors so I also liked Animal Farm, but I mostly like his non-fiction book Homage to Catalonia. I liked fantasy a lot more in my youth but these days I like fantasy novels that subvert the genre a bit. Obviously Game of Thrones (Song of Ice and Fire) by George R. R. Martin, but a pleasant surprise I had recently was reading the feminist fantasy novel Even the Stones. And finally I love sci-fi. I tend to gravitate towards near future stuff. Cory Doctorow being one of my main authors in that genre. I really liked For the Win as well as Down and Out in the Magic Kingdom, Makers and Little Brother/Homeland. I also quite liked Octavia Butler's Parable of the Sower. Pretty much read all Robert J. Sawyer's stuff too. When it comes to alien worlds and space, my favorite is Ursula K. LeGuin with The Dispossessed and The Left Hand Side of Darkness. I only really appreciated one novel by Ian M. Banks, and that was The Player of Games. Mostly because of my interests in competitive games rather than sci-fi.

On TV, I am a great fan of Game of Thrones again. I also like shows like Leverage because of my love for con and heist movies as an art form. That's why one of my favorite movies of all time was Foolproof (the fact I have a crush on Ryan Reynolds helped... Oh and if you have a Deadpool costume for use in the bedroom, I am eternally yours.) I also like satirical comedies like Community and Better Off Ted. But of course, the best thing ever to be on television involved a little thing called Firefly. I'm a browncoat for life and I will always cherish my DVD copy.

When it comes to music, I tend to gravitate towards two poles. The first is early hardcore punk (Bad Religion, Dead Kennedys, Minor Threat), more modern straight edge hardcore (XLimp WristX, Have Heart, Death before Dishonor, Madball) and doom/gloomy hardcore, d-beat and crustcore like His Hero is Gone, Nux Vomica, World Burns to Death (it's my nick, get it?), Fall of Efrafa, Tragedy. I also incorporate some metal in there because of past relationships with metalheads: Dimmu Borgir, Ensiferum, Nightwish, Turisas, Nekrogoblikon, Lamb of God, Amon Amarth...

The other pole is an interest in folks music and historical anarchist or socialist hymns. I like Utah Philips and Billy Brag, as well as the whole catalog out of the IWW song book. This sort of overlaps with the previous pole through bands like Dropkick Murphys and so forth.

I also have a passing interest in politically aware hip hop, but mostly French (as in France). Sniper and Keny Arkana.

If you want to hear what that sounds like, here is a 2010s style mix tape, i.e. a YouTube playlist

As for food, I'm an on-again/off-again vegan (i try but I have food addictions and bad stress coping mechanisms) and mostly enjoy Thai and Indian food because it is easy to find good vegan food from those culinary schools.

And finally, I listen to the Citizen Radio podcast. Every. Day.
The six things I could never do without
The Internet
My iPad (which covers 1. and 2.)
My family
Have I mentionned sex?
I spend a lot of time thinking about
At any given time I tend to have the one game that I take very seriously. Right now it's the Epic card game. It means I'm spending a lot of time planning strategies and preparing for tournaments. I tend to be more casual on other games than my main game so that I can enjoy it with people who aren't competitive. But realize that it's kind of a personality trait and that I need to forcibly stop myself from reading strategy threads and plan ahead before I try a new board game with friends.

I also read a lot of news and articles on any given day about subjects like trans rights, queer liberation, feminism, people of color activism. I produce a lot of ephemera in the realms of online political discussions. Like I said above, Twitter and FB are my main spots. Blogs are too much of a commitment I guess. These days it means a lot of yelling at people about the Charter of Values. Fuck I hate the Charter of Values.

I also am interested in sexual politics and kink, and so I do practice ties and knots and think about different bondage or bdsm stuff I might get to try out with my partners at any given time. I think a lot of it overlaps my interest in feminism and queer rights, though I am always disappointed in the kink community for not being as awesome as I wish it was on those subjects.
On a typical Friday night I am
Checking out something on my Netflix queue. I am more likely to stay in than go out.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am poly. I believe in commitment but not exclusivity. I am not interested in getting with anyone who won't respect that part of my life, because it's just going to end in hurt. Not that poly relationships never end in hurt...

I am fat. I am not chubby or whatever other cutesy euphemism. I do not have "extra pounds" like a tall guy does not have "extra inches". OKCupid though has no option for "Fat and Proud" and forces me to lie or label myself "Overweight". I am militant about self-love and body autonomy, for myself and for others. I am not "sexy for a fatso", I am DAMN sexy, as many of my previous lovers have reminded me over the years. I am not looking for your pity fucks. If you are into fat people you are not doing me a favor by dating me, you are doing yourself one. If you are a decent human being who accepts body diversity then maybe I will also be doing myself a favor and date you.

Geekitude turns me on. Is there a subject you know way too much trivial information about and can't stop yourself from talking about it non-stop? I am listening. I will probably do the same to you later. Maybe we can retire to the boudoir and you can explain to me all about the obscure comic book villain you are obsessed with, or the history of Polka music, or whatever...
You should message me if
* You're a funny interesting person looking for same. Sharing interests are really nice but as long as you're an interesting person with quirky interests you'll probably be attractive to me.

* You understand that I am mostly looking for long term, serious but non-exclusive relationships. I want the potential to, over time, become deeply into each other and wildly in love, not remain forever aloof, casual and blasé. But I am thrilled at the idea of you feeling these feelings with other people as well, and wish you will feel the same regarding me and my other relationships.

* You just need a friend to go do stuff with.

* You think this is hot: http://www.criminalwisdom.com/hysterical-literature-the-orgasm-as-art/