37 Verdun, Canada
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My self-summary
I'm a bisexual/queer/pansexual (I identify to some extent, but not fully, with all three of these identities) cis man, a bit kinky, mostly geeky, somewhat punky, always snarky, never jerky. I like to spend my free time playing video and board games, snuggling, going to shows from bands that play loud and scream a bit too much, traveling to gamer conventions, going to protests, and eventually going home and making sweet love to someone. I own a book named "Days of War, Nights of Love" and I consider that my life motto. Into poly relationships, looking for same. I want someone with whom I can share both a bed and a night of fun, whether at the movies, discussing the writings of Kropotkin, playing nerdy card games, or headbanging to some band.
What I’m doing with my life
Currently got a corporate position as a computer programmer. The job is nicely challenging. I like to solve puzzles and I get that plenty. I love math and technology in general, and take a keen interest in their social impact.

Outside work, my main hobby is that I am a gamer, mostly tabletop games but also some video games. I have had a stint as a competitive gamer, touring Canada and the USA playing various games for prizes and typically being able to break even. Didn't make money there but was able to finance a lot of travelling and awesome experiences.

I have a strong interest in anarchism, social justice, feminism and queer liberation. I've always wanted to pursue education in those fields but I felt my natural talent in STEM fields would be wasted if I didn't use it.

I occasionally go to protests but my real interest lies in skill sharing. I've done a bunch of workshops related to technology, STEM and anarchist politics in the past and I'd like to do more of that. I love sharing ideas and transmitting skills to other people.
I’m really good at
Problem solving
Making people laugh
Listening and giving comfort
Physical displays of affection
Talking too much about some random trivia that got my mind occupied at the moment, figuring that out, then being a bit shy and self-conscious about it and hoping you'll have some of your own endlessly fascinating trivia to talk about
The first things people usually notice about me
My shaved head and the fact I'm a larger gentleman all dressed in black. Then I start speaking about something completly nerdy and any impressions I might be a contract killer dissappears.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I am a fan of dystopian novels like 1984 or the Handmaid's Tale. George Orwell is one of my favorite authors so I also liked Animal Farm, but I mostly like his non-fiction book Homage to Catalonia. I liked fantasy a lot more in my youth but these days I like fantasy novels that subvert the genre a bit. Obviously Game of Thrones (Song of Ice and Fire) by George R. R. Martin, but a pleasant surprise I had recently was reading the feminist fantasy novel Even the Stones. And finally I love sci-fi. I tend to gravitate towards near future stuff. Cory Doctorow being one of my main authors in that genre. I really liked For the Win as well as Down and Out in the Magic Kingdom, Makers and Little Brother/Homeland. I also quite liked Octavia Butler's Parable of the Sower. Pretty much read all Robert J. Sawyer's stuff too. When it comes to alien worlds and space, my favorite is Ursula K. LeGuin with The Dispossessed and The Left Hand Side of Darkness. I only really appreciated one novel by Ian M. Banks, and that was The Player of Games. Mostly because of my interests in competitive games rather than sci-fi.

On TV, I am a great fan of Game of Thrones again. I also like shows like Leverage because of my love for con and heist movies as an art form. That's why one of my favorite movies of all time was Foolproof (the fact I have a crush on Ryan Reynolds helped... Oh and if you have a Deadpool costume for use in the bedroom, I am eternally yours.) I also like satirical comedies like Community and Better Off Ted. But of course, the best thing ever to be on television involved a little thing called Firefly. I'm a browncoat for life and I will always cherish my DVD copy.

When it comes to music, I tend to gravitate towards two poles. The first is early hardcore punk (Bad Religion, Dead Kennedys, Minor Threat), more modern straight edge hardcore (XLimp WristX, Have Heart, Death before Dishonor, Madball) and doom/gloomy hardcore, d-beat and crustcore like His Hero is Gone, Nux Vomica, World Burns to Death (it's my nick, get it?), Fall of Efrafa, Tragedy. I also incorporate some metal in there because of past relationships with metalheads: Dimmu Borgir, Ensiferum, Nightwish, Turisas, Nekrogoblikon, Lamb of God, Amon Amarth...

The other pole is an interest in folks music and historical anarchist or socialist hymns. I like Utah Philips and Billy Brag, as well as the whole catalog out of the IWW song book. This sort of overlaps with the previous pole through bands like Dropkick Murphys and so forth.

I also have a passing interest in politically aware hip hop, but mostly French (as in France). Sniper and Keny Arkana.

If you want to hear what that sounds like, here is a 2010s style mix tape, i.e. a YouTube playlist

As for food, I'm an on-again/off-again vegan (i try but I have food addictions and bad stress coping mechanisms) and mostly enjoy Thai and Indian food because it is easy to find good vegan food from those culinary schools.

And finally, I listen to the Citizen Radio podcast. Every. Day.
The six things I could never do without
The Internet
My iPad (which covers 1. and 2.)
My family
Have I mentionned sex?
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Gaming. Games. Game design (I have an interest in making my own eventually). The math behind games.

Technology, science, math and its social effects.

Sexual politics (feminism, queer liberation, trans liberation) and kink. I often practice my knots and rope techniques.

Decolonization and my place as an ally in people of colour liberation politics.
On a typical Friday night I am
Checking out something on my Netflix queue. I am more likely to stay in than go out.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am poly. I believe in commitment but not exclusivity. I am not interested in getting with anyone who won't respect that part of my life, because it's just going to end in hurt. Not that poly relationships never end in hurt...

I am fat. I am not chubby or whatever other cutesy euphemism. I do not have "extra pounds" like a tall guy does not have "extra inches". OKCupid though has no option for "Fat and Proud" and forces me to lie or label myself "Overweight". I am militant about self-love and body autonomy, for myself and for others. I am not "sexy for a fatso", I am DAMN sexy, as many of my previous lovers have reminded me over the years. I am not looking for your pity fucks. If you are into fat people you are not doing me a favor by dating me, you are doing yourself one. If you are a decent human being who accepts body diversity then maybe I will also be doing myself a favor and date you.

Geekitude turns me on. Is there a subject you know way too much trivial information about and can't stop yourself from talking about it non-stop? I am listening. I will probably do the same to you later. Maybe we can retire to the boudoir and you can explain to me all about the obscure comic book villain you are obsessed with, or the history of Polka music, or whatever...
You should message me if
* You're a funny interesting person looking for same. Sharing interests are really nice but as long as you're an interesting person with quirky interests you'll probably be attractive to me.

* You understand that I am mostly looking for long term, serious but non-exclusive relationships. I want the potential to, over time, become deeply into each other and wildly in love, not remain forever aloof, casual and blasé. But I am thrilled at the idea of you feeling these feelings with other people as well, and wish you will feel the same regarding me and my other relationships.

* You think this is hot: http://www.criminalwisdom.com/hysterical-literature-the-orgasm-as-art/

* You are Team Valor.