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My self-summary
Kinky, Queer, Compassionate, Poly Gamer balancing competitive fantasies with cooperative philosophies. I'm always thinking of macro-scale implications to things.
Pro Chef
Intersectional Feminism or GTFO
Enthusiastically LGBTQAIXYZN7-friendly
Mass effect reference -------------^
Semi-pro cuddler. I'll trade you dinner if you review me. Ask for references.
Aggressively honest, forthcoming, authentic.
Kawaii AF.
Otaku AF

I have a literal sex Tardis.

Obligatory #PokemonGoandChill2016
What I’m doing with my life
Launching Philadelphia Service Cooperative; a low-cost housing solution for persons wanting to dedicate portions of their lives to community/social work. Www.Phillyservice.coop

Cooking at home, drooling over my friends cats or knitting/crocheting skills, blues/contra dancing mondays and thursdays sometimes, chasing cute pplz to smooch, having not enough time for too many interests (read: your face), and playing board games. Starting a side-hustle doing one-pot catering on top of my 2-12 job. If you can't feed yourself/spend over $300-mo on food, and can eat the same thing for a week straight, I can solve your problems.

Struggling with how to approach cute people without being like EVERY MONOCISHET DUDE EVER. It's crippling, really. I'm so cognizant of how much shit y'all get every fucking day that I miss out cause I refuse to be just another person hitting on you. Make it easier on me and say Hi?

~*Trying to find meaningful ways to realize my life goal of removing competitive social models from our society and replacing them with sustainable cooperative ones.*~
I’m really good at
- Cooking. Unless it's some new-age science-driven gastronomic shit that requires $3000 equipment (I'm looking at you, Modernist Cuisine), I can probably do it with my eyes closed.
- Communication.
- Cuddling. I was serious about trading you dinner for reviewing me.
- Games/identifying systems and abusing them
- Teamwork
- Sex
- Problem Solving
- PC building
- Pretty much any outdoor activity. Name one; I like it. Yes, especially that one.
- Eating
- Making out
- Dancing
- Tying knots ;3
- Leading
- Following
The first things people usually notice about me
Adjectives/phrases I hear ascribed to me regularly: Adorable, CUTE, genuine, sweet, honest, real, safe, weird, REALLY nerdy, introspective, methodical, decisive.

At rest, I'm quiet. I don't feel the need to impose my ego upon others in conversation/through actions; I'd rather analyze situations and think slowly. I'm only particularly interested in people enthusiastic about me. Engage me though, break that initial barrier of communication and I will drown you. Emotionally, intellectually, logistically, sexually.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
TBH, I'm really not into basing my matches on media preferences unless you want to watch tentacle porn with me. I want you for your mind, your philosophies, your beliefs, and your body, not what fandom you prefer to be spoonfed

Food = Everything, esp. Okra.

I read a fuck-ton.

Battlestar Galactica


Tentacle Porn

Ambient stuff that either chills me out, turns me on, or both. Vaporwave, chillwave, lo-fi. Improv Jazz.
The six things I could never do without
- Good food.
- Really fracking good hugs. At least 20 seconds long, preferably.
- Internet. It was a sizable moral victory to have made it to number three without having listed this yet.
- Cats. If you have a cat(s), you should let me see them :)
- People. I fucking love all of you wonderful human beings.
- Sex.
- Community. Yeah it's eight so what yawannafightaboutit?

Honestly, I have few needs; I live a simple existence, my goals are not expensive, they just require time and effort (and a little bit of money, but what doesn't?).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Games as an emergent, interactive art form. Esp in relation to more traditional artistic mediums.
Intersectional Feminism, and how I can be a better ally for women and minority groups without inadvertently drowning out their voice with my stupid white man privilege.
No, really, being inclusive of minority groups' needs/interests and figuring out how my service org can accommodate them better is REALLY HARD.
The relationship (or lack thereof) between kink, fetish, and sex.
Reading More.
Meeting people.
Gender Roles.
The juxtaposition between competition and cooperation.
Making my own porn. Hmu with ideas/anecdotes/offers.

This is where I throw out a lot of buzzwords for people to find me by searching. Rape culture, intersectionality, sex+, sex positive, mysoginy, GQ, Genderqueer, Trans*
On a typical Friday night I am
Getting my ass kicked behind a stainless steel counter top standing in 120 degree heat next to a 750 degree grill with 20 orders hanging in front of me.

Calling out my coworkers for being sexist, misogynistic, bigoted assholes.

Hanging out with you?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm pretty damned nerdy. We're talkin' king of the nerds shit here folks. Be ye warned.

Waaaahhhhh~ Sugoii kawaii desu-ne???

I (not-so) secretly want to be domesticated.

I'm sexually aroused by the explicit exchange of consent between persons.

I'm two degrees removed from Stoya sexually.

I'm not opposed to casual sexual relationships, but that doesn't mean I'm (necessarily) into hooking up blindly. I want my partners to be my friends. I want to hang out and have fun doing whatever and understanding that sometimes as humans we want and need that social/emotional contact with someone, even if it's just us saying "I love you. It's no big deal. It doesn't mean you're The One, or even one of the ones. It doesn't mean you have to love me back. It doesn't mean we have to date, or marry, or even cuddle. It doesn't mean we have to part ways dramatically in a flurry of tears and broken dishes. It doesn't mean I'll love you until I die, or that I'll still love you next year, or tomorrow."
You should message me if
You want to double down on a partner to aggressively push each other to reaching beyond your potentials on a daily basis.

You vehemently identify as an intersectional feminist, or, if you're non-female identifying, at least in an allied role and want to invite me to any kind of event or gathering with like-minded people, even in a casual context. I'd like to help somehow but if not I'll gladly take the chance to hang out with awesome people who share the same values as me.

You want to cook sometime! Bonus points if you have dietary restrictions like Celiac's, Veganism, Vegetarianism (and it's various forms), etc.

You want to watch tentacle porn and let me tie you up.

You can cut through the bullshit to get to who you really are as a person.

You think this is amazing: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rk7_dXIKt0Y

You play League or Overwatch!

If you'd like someone to cook lunch and dinner for you for the week at the approx cost of 4 dollars a meal.