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My self-summary
“Everything in excess! To enjoy the flavor of life, take big bites. Moderation is for monks.” - Heinlein

I'm a 21st century engineer whose secret life is that of a 15th century swordsman and herbalist. I craft useful things from leather, metal, and wood, create tinctures and salves from raw ingredients, and have practiced historical fencing for over a decade. I'm an unabashed nerd always happy to hear someone else geek out about the obscure thing that they love obsessively but are too ashamed to bring up on a first date. I believe in the art of storytelling, clean prose, dirty thoughts, and that Slytherin is the best house.

Disclaimer: My partner and I are both non-monogamous and fully encourage each others' romantic exploits. Interested? Confused? Please ask!
What I’m doing with my life
I love being outdoors and expressing myself physically. These 90+ degree summers we have? Love em! Indoor climbing at Earth Treks, longsword fencing, and cosplaying are how I spend the majority of my mental time. I don't do much running anymore on account of a knee injury, but I love to cycle, kayak, and hike off the trails.

I'm fascinated with creating things, and dabble obsessively. Leatherworking and jewelry-making are my go-to hobbies, and it's a rare weekend when I don't get spattered by leather dye or metal shavings. I've also been trying to up my woodworking skills with wood-burning and figuring out how to make a snug dovetail join. I love to fail often, fail hard, and try again!
I’m really good at
Cooking and fixing drinks. I span the gamut, and demand good mise en place in my kitchen. Over the past year I've been particularly happy with my firepit cooking, especially lamb and carnitas. Ive also been focusing on tiki cocktails, and playing with variants on popular drinks.

Planning vacations. I like to balance scheduled activities with spontaneity, and always have backup plans, depending on how the group is feeling. Failing to plan ahead is a pet peeve of mine, and nothing gets more more excited about a trip than putting an itinerary together, even if we end up throwing it to the wind.
The first things people usually notice about me
If you haven't seen me in the past month, my look probably changed. My hair, facial hair, and clothes are in constant flux. I'm currently growing my hair out so that I can eventually rock the full Prince of Persia look.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
BOOKS: I'm a big fan of soft sci-fi, especially the classic stuff. A few items sitting on my shelf: Starship troopers, Stranger in a strange land, The Ethical Slut, Romance of the three kingdoms, Snow Crash, Watchmen, Sandman, Kitchen Confidential, Sex at Dawn

MOVIES: Gangs of New York, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Shall we dance (the Japanese version), Braveheart, Red Cliff, The Artist, Gran Torino, Letters from Iwo Jima, Princess Bride, and nearly anything by Pixar

TV: Doctor Who, Breaking Bad, Battlestar Galactica, Game of Thrones, Avatar: The Last Airbender (and Korra), and anything by Joss Whedon.

BOARD GAMES (since music doesn't jive with me):
For small gatherings, Pandemic or Dead of Winter (Settlers of Catan is no longer welcome at my house). For parties, Curse of the Temple, Cash n Guns, Once Upon a Time, "Aye, Dark Overlord!", Betrayal at House on the Hill, and pretty much any other co-op game with crazy backstories and a propensity for funny accents. Aspirationally, I've wanted to get into Twilight Struggle, though I fear it's more trouble than it's worth.

- Tonkatsu. Or katsudon. Or katsu-kare. Just bring on the breaded, fried pork!
- Pasta bolognese. The darkest, reddest, meatiest one we can find, that's been cooking so long that the meat fibers all but dissolve in your mouth.
- Most Vietnamese food fits the bill. Very fond of banh mi and thit nuong. Eden Center is like a second home to me.
Six things I could never do without
An abundance of agape
A nearby park or forest
A sharp pocketknife
The opportunity to do good things for others
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Don't think. Do.
On a typical Friday night I am
Some highlights from the past few months:
- Making leather sheaths for pocketknives
- Laughing my ass off while taking a horse out on a hard trot (horse arching at a full gallop is still a bucket list item of mine)
- Sewing a dress
- Making tinctures of comfrey, lavender, and angelica (tinctures of Eliza and Peggy sold separately)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm an introverted, poly, feminist nerd, and I'm quite proud of my identity. I LARP, I've crossdressed, and I look amazing in eyeliner. In fact, I've been around a lot of counterculture in my life, and quite a bit of it jives with me. Tell me what makes you weird. I'll probably cheer you on!

I'm a huge fan of pedicures, and painted nails are an occasional pleasure. It's a shame more dudes don't do them.
You should message me if
You think picnics are severely underrated. Bonus sexiness points if you're up for cooking on wood or charcoal.

You're down for a drink, swapping stories, and playing board games.

You're looking for an outdoor adventure buddy, possibly followed by a massage party. Be warned: your skill at this may get you drafted into my apocalypse survival team and/or my LARP swordfighting team.
The two of us