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My self-summary
I like good whisky and bad jokes. I work online and live in pages. An inability to sing isn't keeping me from writing a musical, nor will it ever keep me from rocking out at karaoke.

Proudly bi, geeky, kinky and more, although all such things are only signposts and not guidebooks. While I've happily been in long term monogamous relationships, I'm equally down with polyamory (although not with the fact the word mixes Greek and Latin roots) and more non-traditional setups. I describe myself as polyamorous and am a big believer in ethical non-monogamy, although I'm trying to get people to use the shortened name, Eth Non-Monog, for no reason other than the fact it sounds like a Lovecraftian monster.

Oh and last year I beat cancer. Feels good :)
What I’m doing with my life
I worked in marketing agencies until I didn't. I went backpacking all around the world and rediscovered that I love my work, just not who I was doing it for. I now work for an amazing charity organisation where we make tangible differences in the world every day and am loving every minute of it.

I write. I'm currently working on a children's book and musical which has got some great feedback as well as keeping a bunch of other smaller projects. I also started and still run Create Together which started as just running meetups for writers but recently expanded to events for visual artists too.
I’m really good at
I can tie a cherry stalk in a knot with my tongue, but have never found a use for this skill due to saturation in the cherry based clown employment field.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
"We need to make books cool again. If you go home with somebody and they don't have books, don't fuck them." ~ John Waters

Books are hard because there are just way too many, but in a pinch I'd say my favourite series is the Thomas Covenant Chronicles by Stephen Donaldson but my tastes vary widely. Anything by China Miéville, William Gibson, Kurt Vonnegut, Oscar Wilde is a safe bet. Isobelle Carmody will always have a special, unfinished place in my heart.

"She said her favourite
Godard film was Alphaville
and I felt ill..."

I love any movie by Charlie Kaufman, David Lynch or Christopher Nolan. I like early Tarantino and later versions of Blade Runner. I love Godard, Truffaut and Kurosawa but am equally happy watching a Disney musical. Currently overly obsessed with Wings of Desire, a German film that, despite inspiring the remake starring Nicholas Cage called City of Angels, is actually brilliant.

"I hate television. I hate it as much as peanuts. But I can't stop eating peanuts." ~ Orson Welles

I'm most definitely a TV geek. Dramas like Deadwood, Mad Men, ROME, Girls, Breaking Bad, The Good Wife and Boardwalk Empire through to comedies like Flight of the Conchords, 30 Rock, Bob's Burgers and Archer and sci-fi like Doctor Who, Battlestar Galactica and much more are all safe bets. More recent loves include Bojack Horseman, Westworld, Atlanta, You're The Worst and Fleabag.

"So control your desire to curse
While I crucify the verse..."

I have fairly eclectic taste in music and my tastes swing wildly, although musical theatre cast recordings are a constant. Also, both albums by San Fermin have blown me away over the last two years.

"After a good dinner one can forgive anybody, even one's own relations." ~ Oscar Wilde

I have a preference for asian cooking - especially Thai, Vietnamese, Chinese and Japanese - but anything with pork is a winner usually. Brazilian BBQ is a favourite and if you like great burgers and fried chicken I know the best place in Sydney. ;)

"...and every fucking city feels the same" ~ Paul Kelly

While acknowledging the inherent privilege in this statement, I live for travel. Favourite places include doing aid work in Timor Leste, visiting the Chernobyl reactor and the abandoned city of Pripyat, living and working in London and exploring cities like Tokyo, New York, St Petersburg, Helsinki, Paris, Prague, Rome and... way too many others.
Six things I could never do without
The letter 'e'
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The internet and the future of media, ideas for short stories, novels and theatre, what drives people to do what they do, the nature of happiness and how to make the world better for those who are marginalised and forgotten.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I often cuddle a pillow while sleeping alone but always make sure that the pillowcase's open end is away from my head otherwise its like the pillow's butt is in my face all night.
You should message me if
You are a believer that cats are better than dogs or can mount a convincing counter argument. Bad jokes a very welcome too.

Oh, and don't let the polyamorous thing put you off: even if you're 'all about' the monogamy or have no experience with setups like that, I'd much rather talk with you about what I'm about and looking for than let people assume.
The two of us