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My self-summary
I'm traveling out west for the next couple of months! I gave myself a LOT of time out here so I'm really looking for things to do, couches to sleep on, tour guides to beautiful secret nature spots, people to buy me drinks, recommendations for places to busk and places to stash my backpack. Help me out? ✨

I just moved to small town Vermont, but I'm planning on being out on the road constantly so don't be weirded out if you don't live anywhere near VT?

I am usually too frazzled/anxious to motivate myself to message people on here, so get at me because I probably won't!

Not really trying to label my sexuality right now, nor my gender identity...i have a lot of feels and they kinda all freak me out. I'm interested in all kinds of people sexually, but I am super nervous/shy about entering into physical relationships with most male-assigned and super butch/masc people.

Also this is worth noting: he/him/his is fine, they/them/theirs is better.
What I’m doing with my life
Right now I'm traveling, couch surfing, playing music, promoting bands, and trying to figure out how to make that work. I've got plans to open up an arts and performance space at some point in the future...who knows when I'll get my shit together enough to do that. And besides, I need to travel more before I settle down!

I've been to 49 US states, 9 Canadian provinces, 1 Canadian territory, and nowhere else. I want to go to Europe, Mexico and Australia really bad. Also everywhere else.
I’m really good at
Staring contests. I can win like ten consecutive staring contests with different people without blinking in between. It's my greatest (only?) natural talent.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Some contemporary bands that I'm into: Tom Waits, Alamaailman Vasarat, CRUMBS, Thee Silver Mount Zion, The Barons of Tang, Beirut, o'death, Happy Jawbone Family Band, Big Blood, Why Are We Building Such a Big Ship?, Deep Chatham, Saintseneca, Mucca Pazza, etc.

I love '50s and '60s hard-sci-fi short stories (especially when they deal with totally ridiculous fantastical societies and theoretical though highly impractical inventions), DIY guides, Marvel comics, "graphic novels," and Calvin & Hobbes. Also His Dark Materials and Watership Down changed my life.

I'm a big fan of space operas (Battlestar Galactica, Star Trek [DS9 is the best one, I will fight you], Stargate [not Atlantis], Firefly, Farscape, Babylon 5), cartoons for kids for adults (Steven Universe, Over the Garden Wall, Avatar/Korra, Adventure Time), plot episodes of monster of the week shows (X-Files, Buffy, Fringe), and your standard cult hits (Twin Peaks, Twilight Zone, MST3K, Aeon Flux). I don't like Doctor Who, I really tried, I'm so sorry (one of these days I'm gonna give the original series a try).

I love weird, off-kilter movies - Army of Darkness, Troll Hunter, Six-String Samurai, Rubber, Fido, Cabin in the Woods, and Wristcutters, all come to mind. There's a million others, though. I've loved horror movies my whole life but it seems like every time I watch one that I loved as a teenager there's always some very not-cool portrayals of sexual violence and it bums me out that the whole genre uses that as a crutch; it's lazy and shitty.
Six things I could never do without
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Get rich quick schemes, cute houses, new ridiculous ways to play music, booking tours, trans-inclusive language, gender, gender roles, gender performance, how to get by without having a civvie job...
On a typical Friday night I am
The weekend holds no meaning to the unemployed.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I can rip a phonebook in half with my bare hands! No lie!
You should message me if
If you want to fly me to another country! (I'm serious)

You wanna go hang out or go on a cute date!

If you wanna make out or cuddle!

If you have no interest in making out or cuddling and you just want someone to dork out with!

If you want to go on an adventure (hitchin, trains, bike rides, roadtrips, rubber trampin', gas juggin, whatevr)!

If you want to form a band!

You want to book my band in your city!

You want to teach me how to play the drums or the violin better than I do now (better than bad - I am presently pretty bad)

You want me to teach you how to play pretty much any junk instrument on the planet (I am a dork)

If you can recommend me any sick acoustic metal bands.

If you are NOT a TERF or SWERF because I am not down with that.

If you honestly believe Black Lives Matter. AND you believe that the "All Lives Matter" and "Blue Lives Matter" responses to BLM are racist bullshit.

By the way, if I don't respond to you, it's not out of the realm of possible that it's because I don't want to reply! I am terrible at keeping up with answering messages on here and oftentimes forget to reply to people I otherwise think are cool. So, don't feel shy about sending up a follow-up message (one or two only plz, and only if we have a high match percentage).

These are words people might want to search as keywords to find my profile (I have a complicated relationship with some of these):
diy / dit
punk / punx
feminist / feminism
radical / rad
anarchist / anarchism
The two of us