54 Calgary, Canada
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My self-summary
Last night, I dreamed about you... We were together, holding each other, limbs entwined, resting, breathing. We didn't speak; there was no need. I wanted that moment to last forever: a safe, patient and loving place where we could grow old and happy, always.

I'm a thoughtful, fun, creative and caring person who has no emotional baggage or unrealistic expectations. I'm ready to share my life with you and those who are important to you.
What I’m doing with my life
I moved to Calgary in 1993 to do my master's degree in fine art. I now make sculptures, paintings and drawings and am working toward a self-sustaining career as an artist and art educator. (If you're curious, you can see some of my stuff here: http://www.functionalstone.com )

I was married for 18 years until my divorce 10 years ago. I'm in a very good place now. I'm happy with my life and I have a lot of confidence in the way that my career is unfolding. I now feel ready to share my success with a partner.

I have NO delusions about finding the "perfect mate" (I'm not perfect, so I don't expect it of anyone else). Instead, I'm looking for a real human being, with flaws and all, who thinks she would like to spend the next few months, years or maybe even decades getting to know each other.

Although it would be nice to fall in love again (actually, I think it would be AMAZING to fall in love again), I joined this dating site with the hope that I can meet new people and maybe make a few good friends, which I have.

To be perfectly honest, I'm not a fan of Internet dating (it's like going online to SHOP for a mate) but life is busy and it's hard to meet new people without using these sites... sigh....
I’m really good at
I think I'm really good at being attentive and listening to what others have to say. I'm also good at finding creative solutions to almost any problem.

It's fair that I also include what I think I'm bad at: I'm not a great traveller. I always have a good time when I arrive at my destination, but it takes me a very long time to work up the nerve to make my booking. I think it's because there are too many variables when you're traveling and being an artist means that I have an easy time imagining all the things that can go wrong.

Short trips to the mountains are quite easy for me, even an extended stay at a beach resort in Mexico (all inclusive of course) is doable, but an overseas adventure fills me with dread! I guess I'm what you might call a homebody or, at the very least, a "reluctant tourist".

Nevertheless, my work as an artist will force me to travel to far-flung places. I'm preparing proposals for exhibitions in countries around the world, which means that I'll soon have to travel... whether I like it or not. It would be great to have a traveling partner.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm perceptive and try to help others whenever I can. I'm gentle, caring and romantic, but I'm not a "girly-man" about it. I'm soft spoken, slow to anger and easy to get along with.

My work as an art instructor has taught me to have endless patience with people. I have a sense of humour and like to make people laugh, but I can also be fierce, strong and protective when necessary. My Chinese astrological sign is the fearless and compassionate "Water Tiger" so you will always feel safe when I'm around.

Also, I realize that some of the guys on these sites like to claim to be younger than they really are, sometimes up to 10 years younger! Don't they understand that every birthday card from here onward will be inaccurate?

I don't mind admitting that I'm 54 years old because I'm in better physical shape and am more mentally agile than when I was younger. I like to think of myself as a really well-maintained classic, driven lightly and lovingly restored to "near mint" condition... with almost all original factory parts ;^)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
To be honest, I used to read more books when I was young. Some of my favorite writers were H.P. Lovecraft, Edgar Allan Poe, Robertson Davies, Ursula K. LeGuin and Margaret Atwood. I'm also a big fan of the late Douglas Adams. I love his Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy series and Dirk Gently's Holistic Detective Agency. I also like Ann Tyler's novels and, of course, Stephen King. Right now I'm reading Dante's Inferno, slowly because I don't understand many of the references.

I like intelligent movies, especially anything by the Cohen brothers (except "Inside Llewyn Davis", which depressed the heck out of me). I also like goofy movies like Tropic Thunder and Zoolander and sci-fi movies like Gattica, The Matrix and the Alien quadrilogy.

Sometimes, just for laughs, I'll watch cheesy B-movies like Eight-Legged Freaks or Sharknado (I'm not too serious about B-movies, but I do now own Sharknado insurance, just in case!).

I enjoy well-written and exciting TV shows like Breaking Bad, Battlestar Gallactica, House of Cards, Game of Thrones and The Walking Dead. I really, REALLY dislike so-called "reality TV", especially the kind where young adults lounge around like lazy cats and scheme and gossip (I think the worst offender is Big Brother, but there are lots of other similar shows that make me want to never watch TV again -- The Bachelor, The Bachelorette -- honestly, I don't see the attraction).

My taste in music is eclectic, ranging from classic rock (like ELO, Supertramp and The Tragically Hip) to alternative music (like AfroCelt Sound System, Buddha Lounge and B Tribe).

I like simple foods, simply prepared and delicious.
The six things I could never do without
family, friends, art, challenges, beauty, rest
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I spend a lot of time thinking about future artworks that I would like to make. I also like to think about the way things work: the expanding universe, quantum physics, M-theory, human psychology, religion, evolution and sociology.

My "Personality" tab says I'm less spiritual than average, which I don't really understand; maybe it's because I'm agnostic, which I think is MORE religious than being an atheist.
On a typical Friday night I am
On a typical Friday night I would be relaxing with loved ones in front of the TV or doing something fun. If alone, I would probably be making art.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I sometimes worry that I may have gotten used to being alone (it's been 10 years since my divorce) and that it might now be difficult to share my space with someone else.

The fact that I worry about it means that this probably won't be an insurmountable problem. Also, as an art-maker I might be more flexible, more adventurous and more open to new experiences than the average guy.
You should message me if
What do women look for in these profiles? I really wish I knew; maybe I'd have a bit more luck. I know what I'm looking for: someone kind and genuine, gentle and caring, curious and intelligent. Someone I can laugh with, play with, spend quiet time with wondering about how the world works. I'm certain that there are lots of such women out there and maybe, just maybe one who will find me as awesome as I find her.

So... If you find yourself attracted to some part of my profile and think you might like to meet me, I want you to feel secure knowing that I'm a very accepting person and that I would enjoy hearing from you. :^)

Also, I'm not a paid subscriber so I cannot see if you've clicked the "like" button for my profile. You should send me a message instead.