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My self-summary
[In a relationship and looking for people with shared interests and hobbies]


I'm introverted and reserved, but fairly social in my choice of hobbies and activities.

I like learning and I love that the Internet allows me to learn more about [Insert random topic of conversation] here using google and wikipedia. You'll know what I mean if you've ever read an article on map projections, watched a video about flags, or debated standardised time notation despite having no prior or special interest in any of those topics.

We also all have things that we dislike or even hate, and those can be interesting to talk about too, although I prefer it when people have a positive attitude as a default: [Abed] "I guess I just like liking things" [/Abed]. I should confess that I fail this standard when it comes to professional sports; I can't sustain any interest in what team scored what against what other team, but there is plenty of trivia that I'm interested in that others aren't so it's all good.

I like discussion and debate, but I'm more interested in why people believe the things they believe than what they believe. I'm much more impressed by someone who can provide a good argument for something that I don't believe than with someone who provides a bad argument for something that I agree with.


I have a fairly simple morality based on valuing happiness. I'm not a pacifist, but I don't condone violence or harm in the name of anger, hate or vengeance. I'm not one for imposing myself on other people's lives without an invitation, but I do like to help in non-intrusive ways if I can (i.e. I volunteer and donate to charity).


I'm a liberal; I want to live in a society where we find ways to live our own lives according to our own aims and values without treading on each other's toes and, ideally, helping each other along. The 'helping each other along' bit is pretty crucial though; I'm not any kind of libertarian... individual freedoms are important to me but so is cooperation for mutual benefit.


I'm an atheist, but I don't think that all religion is stupid. That's not to say that none of it is... but there are definitely intelligent, rational and well-educated religious people.

In most ways, I'm your pretty standard secular atheist, but I'm not technically a materialist... it doesn't make much difference to anything, but if you enjoy discussing metaphysics then send me a message.
What I’m doing with my life
I graduated from a philosophy degree at the University of Southampton back in 2007. I now work at the University of Southampton in the admissions department.

In my spare time I enjoy a lot of different things. I enjoy camping, LAN parties, board games, roleplay-games, wargames as well as the usual nightclubs and parties. My facebook feed is populated mostly with news articles and opinion pieces that I've posted to prompt discussion.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Favourite Hobbies

Exploring/Camping: caves and abandoned mines mostly. It's a good excuse to spend time with friends in unfamiliar surroundings.

Board games: I've built up a fairly sizeable collection of boardgames. If you hear 'board games' and think 'monopoly', then I would be happy to suggest some more modern board games that you might enjoy.

Computer games: I grew up on adventure games like Monkey Island and now I have a Steam account full of games that I don't have enough time to play. I especially like cooperative online games.

Wargaming: I've not had much time for miniature war-gaming since graduation but, every now and then, someone kicks off a Necromunda campaign or Blood Bowl league.

Roleplay games: I still own a catalogue of the old World of Darkness line of roleplay games. Vampire and Hunter were my favourites.

I'm also quite interested in Philosophy, Theology and Sociology.

Favourite Music

I've got fairly wide tastes in music. I've enjoyed Classic Rock since I was small and was a big Beatles and Led Zeppelin fan. Had a fairly stereotypical period during college of enjoying Industrial Rock bands like Marilyn Manson or Disturbed. At university I got more into Goth bands like Siouxsie and the Banshees or Sisters of Mercy. I also listen to some Glam Rock and Synthpop type bands like David Bowie and Human League. There's a lot of very good music out there so it doesn't make sense to me to listen to only a handful of genres.

Favourite Films/TV

Some of my favourite films are the ones I watched as a child and can be nostalgic about, like Flight of Dragons, Labyrinth, Last Unicorn, Watership Down and the Dark Crystal. Since then, I tend to keep an eye open for sci-fi and fantasy, which I watch more than any other genres.

I do watch a lot of television shows... but I don't like to just sit down and watch whatever happens to be on. I would rather binge watch a television series after it's finished.

Favourite Books

Some novels that I've read more than once:
• Tolkien's Lord of The Rings
• Frank Herbert's Dune
• James Herbert's Domain
• Lewis Carol's Alice's Adventures in Wonderland

My general reading habits, judging by the books on my kindle, seem to be mostly Science Fiction and Fantasy

There's also a bunch of non-fiction books that I'm keen on:
• Immanuel Kant's Critique of Pure Reason
• Thomas Kuhn's 'The Structure of Scientific Revolutions'
• George Berkeley's 'Three Dialogues'

Unfortunately, finding the time and will to keep read philosophy when the opportunity for much lighter reading is so abundant is very difficult.
You should message me if
I'm seeing someone and not looking for anything more. New friends are always welcome though. :)


One or more of the following descriptions seems to fit:

1) You're a bit geeky and want someone to play miniature war/board/computer games with.

2) You find politics and/or philosophy interesting and fancy chatting about it with someone.

3) You like Goth/Industrial music and want to meet someone to spend time with at club events.

4) You like camping and exploring and want to meet someone to go exploring abandoned mines, old caves, ghost towns and derelict buildings with.

5) You're a poly person who thinks that I seem interesting and we seem to have broadly similar attitudes/values.

If you get your kicks by hating groups of people then I do not want to hear from you. If you hate people purely on the basis of their gender, sexuality, ethnicity, religion or anything along those lines then we're not likely to get on.

Similarly, if you're the sort of person who maybe doesn't hate people based on the above but are inclined to make assumptions about them (women are bad at X, gay people like Y, religious people all believe Y) then we're not on the same wavelength and probably won't get on.

Okchoices tags:  Genderqueer,  Heteroflexible &  Polyamorous
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