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My self-summary
First and foremost, I'm a geek and proud of it. I love role-playing games, and I'm always reading up on something. I think analytically, and I welcome having my conclusions challenged. Be warned that sometimes I can't let little things go when I don't feel I am being heard. If you be patient with me I will be more loving.

I am a home-body, but I welcome the chance to let someone new into my life. I'd prefer to get to know each other by talking, rather than relying on this site's questions. Feel free to ask me anything you like. I'm not easily offended.

I love children... I feel like this doesn't get said enough. Ultimately I am perfectly fine if you already have children or eventually want children.

Then comes the rest... There is a stigma in intimacy. I love it... all of it. This doesn't mean that I am some douche manipulating you for one ultimate goal. Wherein lies the problem, I don't want to express interest in sex or the like, and suddenly get the stink eye for it. If you are going to look at me poorly because I say it's important to me then don't bother reading further. I am not trying to get into your pants, but with me sex and other forms of intimacy is an eventuality of any relationship I am in. Keep that in mind if you intend to red further.

If I message you first, or if I seem particularly interested in what you have to say, I find you attractive. I may find you attractive and think you are WAY out of my league. If you live nearby and want to see if we like each other, then all you have to do is click the like button. If I have "liked" you, then you will get a "mutual like" mesdage. Appearances are nice, but that's not all there is. That needn't be a major part of our conversation.

I spend a lot of time contemplating the concept of "the one" and all that it reflects. I am not looking for a mythical "one" girl. Statistically finding the single best candidate is nearly impossible. Someone who fits every one of my proclivities and I hers in return... I have a statistically better chance of winning the lottery. So two people finding the same in another is doubly unlikely. I am simply looking for someone who finds my merits outweigh my flaws and will love me. Don't disclude me because we're only a 60% match. We might have more in common than you think.

I identify as a straight cis-gender male because that is simply the easiest way to express it to others. I don't always feel masculine, but that would take forever to explain to someone who doesn't already get it. If you want to know more, please ask.

I am a firm believer in consent so I will include that a relationship with me will not be sexless. If you can't find me sexually attractive in one way or another then I am not for you.
If you do not enjoy sex then likewise I am not for you. Sex should be mutual. All of that being said, I leave control of the sexual side of things to the woman in my life. All things of that nature will be discussed in a relationship with me if it continues long enough to make it to the bedroom (or dungeon if you are into that sort of thing).

In the light of consent, any woman I date should be able to tell me in one form or another "I want to have sex." None of this tiptoeing bullshit. Hinting doesn't work on me. Most of the time I won't get it if you skirt around the subject. Silence is NOT golden. I will let you know what I want, so you should in turn let me know what you want and that goes for everything. If you want honesty then be honest, it is that simple. People are complicated, but I am less likely to open up to someone who never tells me what they want in any form.

Lastly, I need to be able to talk to you without fear of retribution for any weird thought that goes through my head. I think about things A LOT. In the same respect I also TALK about things a lot. I need it. Keep that in mind. Sometimes it's a morbid joke, sometimes it is an introspection.

If I haven't scared you off by now then please continue reading and see if we have any mutual interests or the like.

I am fine with whatever type of relationship as long as I know what I am getting myself into beforehand.
What I’m doing with my life
I work at a bank and am working hard to keep my professional life moving. The steady hours help keep life outside of the bank flourishing provided it doesn't conflict with the hours of whoever I am dating. It is important to note that that may never change. So if your hours conflict please understand that my hours are going to be consistent.
I’m really good at
I am really good at crafting. I make jewelry, I blacksmith, carve, draw, paint and bead. There are a few other crafts that I do but it is probably shorter to list what I don't make.

I even write a little poetry from time to time. Frankly, I don't always have time to make things, but I love it. I don't know what I would do if I couldn't... If I couldn't express myself in that way. It is my lifeline when I really need it. I want someone who enjoys at least that much with me.

For me, the crafting itself is truly religious. Just like a Christian and their prayer, I might not pray all the time but when I do it is meaningful to me. (To be clear, I am correlating my crafting to prayer, I am not saying I am christian or that I pray.) It gives me time to reflect and express parts of myself that have no other way to come out constructively.
The first things people usually notice about me
My physical stature, which is often said to be imposing when I am in a serious mood.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Romeo and Juliet, Sun Tzu's- The Art of War. I've also recently grown fond of several classic Victorian Horror novels. Frankenstein and the Strange Case of Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde for example.

Movies: Interview with the Vampire, Yes Man, Dark Portals- Chronicles of Vidocq, Ink. But to be fair I am a fan of B movies and just about any movie genre.

Shows: Dead Like Me, True Blood, Big Bang Theory, Supernatural, Doctor Who, Torchwood, Buffy, Angel, Burn Notice. I watch reality shows with my dad on occasion too.

Music: I like a bit of everything really.

Food: I will try just about anything once, but I really like Greek, Italian, Chinese, and Indian the most.
Six things I could never do without
Friends, Love, shelter, Food and Water, my hands, and my sense of worth.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Everything, in fact I find myself looking for ways to just set everything else aside and relax. This tends to be easiest when I am with someone who is close to my heart. The hopeless romantic that I can be sometimes...
On a typical Friday night I am
Binge watching Netflix by myself at my house. Convincing myself to go hang with friends... any number of things really.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
There are a few things that I don't like to admit but this seems to fit into things that are both private but also necessary to inform a potential partner. You may never realize how damaging it is to admit so consider this a preemptive strike, you are warned.

My top row of teeth are fake. my diabetes along with other problems aided in destroying my teeth. I don't care to elaborate more. If you would judge me on this or cannot get past it then you are not for me. I took steps to start both improving my health and my appearance for the better by getting it done. Eventually I will have the resources to do implants of some kind.

I sleep naked and I'm about average size below the belt. I think that about covers private matters.

I reserve every other private matters for whoever I date.
You should message me if
If you are interested and aren't going to judge me based on being a gamer, or having false teeth, then message me all you like. I will respond to nearly anything sent my way provided it isn't obviously mean-spirited.

One caveat that I feel I must place... please make sure any messages towards me contain more than "hi, how are you" or any variant. I feel that there should be no double standard here. Such a wasted beginning shows me a lack of effort. I.E: Tell me something about you I won't find on your profile, or ask me a question you might want to see my stance on.

Lastly, I have anxiety that normally makes it very difficult to make the first move/message. If you are interested in me, the feeling may be mutual. I will respond to anything that took longer than a few seconds to write.

If there is something you want to talk about, no matter how strange it may seem, I would prefer you start with that. Sometimes it is the strangest things we have within us that can make or break a relationship.

DO NOT message me under these circumstances:
You voted for Trump.
You think it's ok to circumsize a child. (If you think genital mutilation is ok, we aren't. It would be like me cutting a piece off your vagina.)
You think the confederate battle flag isn't racist.
The two of us