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My self-summary
Hmmm… This is a toughie. I’m a man, and I try to be a good one. I’m also a father, at which I try just as hard, to a feisty 15-year-old girl who insists that I need to stop bugging her so much!
I’m looking for a friend, partner-in-crime, and someone with whom to share moments both good and bad. Luckily, the good far outnumber the bad.
What I’m doing with my life
I walk, I talk, I wander, I ramble, I bluster, I read, I write, I pedal, I wonder, I drive, I stroll, I laugh, I fuss, I fidget, I putter, I plot, I plan, I roll.
As for what I do for a living, I work in communications and outreach at a high-tech research center. That is to say that my primary duty is to talk about science and try to make it slightly more understandable to those who don't have science backgrounds. As part of a rather small full-time staff, I am also, for lack of better terms, the cruise director and concierge of my institute. When something needs doing, I find the right person for the task, or I do it myself. My center is focused on providing advanced protective capabilities to Soldiers and first responders, so I tend to feel quite good about the work that we're doing. When I'm not at the office, I am likely hanging out, whether solo, with friends, or with my daughter.
I’m really good at
Apparently, I'm pretty good at sounding like I know what I'm talking about. Even when I'm completely full of it, people seem to buy that I know what I'm talking about! Happily, I have a few core people around me who don't buy into it and are glad to call bullsh*t on me when necessary. I figure those are the folks who keep me sane.
In a more productive sense, I'm in the process of improving at cooking. I can, the vast majority of times, make something that is completely edible. As part of this process, I try to make something substantial each week that I've never had before. That way I can not only improve my cooking, but also expand my tastes. (There's no denying, however, that some times, I just pack it in and order a pizza.)
The first things people usually notice about me
Really, I have no idea. It seems to me that's for the people to decide.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I read a lot and listen to a lot of music, so my list of favorites for either is pretty long.

For books, those that spring to the top of my head at first thought are Haruki Murakami's Wind-up Bird Chronicle and Kafka on the Shore, Michael Chabon's Amazing Adventures of Kavalier and Clay, David Mitchell's Cloud Atlas and Thousand Autumns of Jacob de Zoet. I'm in the middle of Murakami’s 1Q84 and Thornton Wilder’s Our Town.

Music is much more difficult to sum up, so here are some of the most played songs in my iTunes library: Sweet Jane (Phish’s cover of the Velvet Underground tune, played at Phish’s 1998 Halloween concert); She Just Likes to Fight (Four Tet); Hail Bop (Django Django); Oh! You Pretty Things (David Bowie); In the Darkness (Foxygen); Stockholm (Jason Isbell); Jesus, Etc. (Wilco); I’ve Been Working (Van Morrison); All My Friends (LCD Soundsystem); This Is Not a Love Song (Nouvelle Vague's cover of the PIL tune); the WBUR live stream... This could go on for loooong time, so I'll nip it in the bud.

I can get sucked into just about any movie, for better or worse, and enjoy it for the quality or the comedy (intentional or otherwise). I'm as likely to watch a documentary as a blockbuster. My long-time favs? Almost by compulsion, I will watch any of the following movies if I happen upon them: The Big Lebowski, any of the original Star Wars trilogy, Sullivan's Travels, Harold and Maude, Dr. Strangelove, and Big. It's not a complete list, but who cares?
Six things I could never do without
With the exception of people, there are very few things I couldn't do without. I'm by no means an ascetic; I thoroughly enjoy having things, but the vast majority of them lack that ideal combination of usefulness, convenience, and beauty that makes them indispensable.
I can feel myself over-thinking this, so I should probably just list some things that I really like having around, no?

My phone - Really, this isn't so much because it can make calls, but rather all of the other bells and whistles it contains. It's got my music, photos, a camera, maps for when I get lost, a dictionary, the web... It takes the place of so many other things.
Good coffee - espresso, ideally, with steamed milk to make it a latte. Feel free to add a bit of Bushmills and Bailey's on a winter's evening, if you feel the need!
A good book - At least one. I generally have a couple going at a time. Normally something that's a bit challenging, and then another - perhaps one that I've already read in the past - that's more on the relaxing side.
A notebook and a pencil - I'm no artist, but I draw. I'm no author, but I write.
A quality sweater - I don't mind the cold, but I rarely like to be cold.

That's five things, and that's all you're getting. I'm saving number six.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
This and that, really. I tend to think a lot about a lot, flitting from one topic to the next. Right now, I'm thinking about the order of these questions, and the order in which people answer them. I wonder if most folks answer them in the same pattern, whether top to bottom, bottom to top, or if there's some common way in which people come to realize their best answers to each.
See, I'm answering this question toward the end of the line, not because it's near the bottom of the page but because it's one of the more abstract questions. Lists are easy, but self-analysis is less so.
I've yet to contribute about the most private thing I'm willing to share, because I'm having trouble determining what that might be but, more importantly, I haven't summarized myself, because I'm hoping that some stroke of genius might occur to me in the process of responding to the other questions.
I suppose it's all rather silly, but those are the kinds of things I consider.
On a typical Friday night I am
Fridays, as often as not, are devoted to coming down from a long week. Saturdays are much more likely to find me out and about, having dinner and drinks with friends, catching live music, taking advantage of local events and such.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I tend to be on the quiet side, all things considered, and I'm generally far more interested in other people than in myself, if only because I know about myself but not about you. I think that these qualities can often be mistaken for a lack of willingness to expose or talk about myself, but it's quite the contrary. It sometimes just doesn't occur to me to do so. I realize that this answer doesn't really address the one asked but, for whatever reason, it's the best response that came to me.
You should message me if
I suppose if this little list of attributes piqued your interest and you think we might hit it off. In other words, why not?
The two of us