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My self-summary
I'm here. I'm working, eventing, and trying to figure out what the next five years will look like-- with a clinging sense of despair even though I'm surrounded by incredible individuals doing life in so many wonderful ways.

"I swing both ways ;)
violently, with a bat. Come get some, motherfuckers."

I love creative people, waterfalls, curses, the coast, dark lipstick, cosmic horror, and dirty chai... Always thinking, always moving, never without a project. Poly/Bi/Kinky. I'm kinda hard to catch on my best days.

The rain is my habitat. I am a muppety babybat goth kid, hard to pin down to plans, enthusiastic, and apathetic all somehow at the same time.
What I’m doing with my life
Working, drinking coffee, swearing, criticizing religion, making music, watching people, rearranging my apartment, being a city mouse, reading, thinking critically, being nervous, convention running, art, and having varying levels of success in keeping my brain occupied and energized.

Also, perpetually on OkC but never actually seeing someone from here. A word to the wise: if I message YOU, it's likely I'm actually actively interested. My current life-situation is complicated but evening out as I grow into my own skin.
I’m really good at
Singing? falling asleep to movies at the end of the day?
The first things people usually notice about me
My collar (yes, I'm collar-ed)
somehow bombastic & soft at the same time
maturity "for my age" whatever that actually practically means
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food

EAT a lot of sushi, thai, teriyaki, indian, mexican, and pub food (but I love to cook anyway)

READ a lot of young-adult-fiction and interesting nonfiction as well as college texts for college

WATCH things like youtube critics (That Guy With the Glasses, CinemaSnob, and Digibro being my current favorites), Avatar: The Last Airbender, ShiroBako, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Penny Dreadful, Trigun, Girls und Panzer, Sherlock, Marvel, Wer, Star Wars, Stranger Things, SAO.. the list grows slowly

LISTEN to podcasts, jazz, metal, darkwave, 80's goth, 90's pop and rock, and artists like: Jethro Tull, David Bowie, Hozier, Lianne la Havas, Fiona Apple, Eva Stone, Green Day, Amanda Palmer, Local genre artists (Nathaniel Johnstone Band, Good Company)

My most-played Pandora station is KMFDM, and the tuner in my car is set to 95.1 (NPR) 101.9 FM (KINK) or 97.1 (Charlie)

I am in a dark cabaret band where I sing harmony and lead vocals.
Six things I could never do without
coffee, mobility, chai, chocolate, objectives, love
I spend a lot of time thinking about
My various and ever-changing jobs, all my events, the way people interact, my household, what I need to be focusing on right now, how I'm going to spend the next month and how fascinating life is on the whole.

I enjoy science, psychology, people, food, sustainability concepts, music, science fiction, space, sex, locomotives, steampunk, horror, naturalism, leatherworking, artists that mean it, and being critical of the world around me while still functionally living in it. I'm not an expert on much; I'm still at a place in my life where I want to spend a lot of time listening and observing.

I don't have time for a ton of gaming even though I like it, I don't watch much (if any) TV - let alone binge watching, I like anime but have finished few, I'm not old enough to get into bars (so no, I can't go get a drink with you) and I don't smoke.

I am an Athiest, with pagan friends. I got my guts to sing and speak in a christian church, but I don't belong there anymore and am not interested in ever going back.

I am a convention addict and vendor, familiar with the festival crowd. I am a singer. I thoughtfully manage enthusaist events. I'm kinky as all hell, but starting the conversation with that won't get you attention and it's not all I'm ever interested in.

The universe doesn't owe you, or me, fuck-all-anything. I'm trying to learn that and be grateful for what I've got.

I need a little softness in this world. A little adventure. A little safe sanctuary.
On a typical Friday night I am
probably sleeping or on my way to some event somewhere, depending on the season
You should message me if
you read all of it and are genuinely interested in me as a person. I don't do one-night-stands, I have a short attention span and a lot of other things on my plate. I'm not looking for couples, and I have a straight-white-thirty-something-boyfriend "primary partner".
The two of us