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My self-summary
I am preoccupied with my new friend right now. Between work and socializing I don't have much time to spare. So my deepest apologies if you do not hear from me. I am not finding much time or interest in checking in on other people.

It's hard to shoehorn my entire personality into a profile. So it seems my answer to that was to try in 40,000 words or less. Sorry about that. A shortcut might be to list some issues that have prevented a relationship in the past, sometimes it was me, sometimes it was the other person... I am bisexual, I am both capable of monogamy (my preference) and might also consider polyamory for the right partner(s). I believe in a devine energy but not the traditional description of God and I don't worship a prophet or doctrine. I suspect, although certainly don't know, that the bible is mainly fiction. I am attracted to taste not money, knowledge not prestige. I am mostly vegetarian but I do eat (and enjoy) meat. I am a fairly avid cyclist when time permits, but I can ride slower If you'd like to join in. I was also once considering becoming a professional drummer but I am very out of practice right now. I can keep a rhythm simple if you play an instrument but are a beginner. If you can be patient with a novice then I will try dancing, sports, macrame or just about anything you want to share as long as I am free to decide if I want to continue later. I will try most things before deciding if I like them or not, I would hope you do too. I'm not a gamer, that is to say that I don't play video games. But I do like driving/piloting games/simulators. I don't own any because I already lose enough time to the internet. I have fairly good self-esteem, I do think of myself as being as valuable as others, but not better. I am not interested in people with big egos or who are vain, narcissists should not apply. If you are a little shy that is acceptable, but I want people around me who try to participate at least after they warm up to a situation. I do not bring drama to a relationship and neither should you. I am a negotiator, diplomat and peacemaker. If you have trouble meeting people half-way you should consider someone else.

I love to work with my hands, in all respects. I am a road/mountain biker, a nature lover, a science geek, a peace-punk and I'm happy being the odd one in any crowd. It's not hard to get to know me, although, different people will bring out different traits in me. One person will see me as striving to live up to my highest potential and another may see me as a smart-ass with gutter humor. I'm an all of the above and none of the above person, sometimes sacred and other times profane. I don't fit well in any category because I am a bit of nearly everything.
I am as comfortable haunting art galleries as I am walking railroad tracks. I helped build the seminal punk club known as the (924) Gilman Street Project. I am a sweet good natured guy with a latent dark side. Not malevolent, I'm just not afraid of the truth even if it is ugly or horrific. I am as good at being social as I am at being a hermit. I'm not out to be a hero but I have put myself in harms way to protect others.
I'm an upscale/lowbrow kind of guy, but usually the wash and wear type. I clean up well for formal occasions but I don't do that sort of thing very often (at the moment). I love to use twenty dollar words like, sesquipedalian but it's not an ego thing, I just love silly word play. If I see an unoccupied climbing structure in a playground then I feel compelled to occupy it. I try not to put too much energy into hate but I make an exception for politicians, bigots and extremists. Nicola Tesla is my biggest hero and much like him, I become very excited during lightning storms. I also dislike writing I over and over again. It makes me a bit twitchy to keep the focus on me as the subject. Oh, and I can pick up a pencil with my toes.
What I’m doing with my life
trying to clear out the clutter, both material objects and old patterns and behaviors that don't serve a purpose. When it comes to my stuff, progress, is a lot slower. I make my living, building custom industrial transformers that take High voltage and transfer it to low voltage. It's good for 30 seconds of fascinating conversation. I enjoy it anyway; challenging, technical, physical, changing and union. And, occasionally getting "skooled" by spellcheck! Training for amateur road bike (bicycle) racing. I also like mountain biking but am more focused on the speed that happens on asphalt.
I’m really good at
Listening (unless I'm super excited about something, then I might need a reminder), being supportive, drumming, machining, inventing, off the cuff comedy, Serious subjects, emotional growth, fixing things, diplomacy, epiphanies, designing and redesigning things. I'm getting there with welding and cooking!
The first things people usually notice about me
My height and my kind demeanor. My sense of humor which can be silly, crude, absurdist or extremely subtle. I may slip a joke past you to simply see if you notice or if your paying attention. Some really notice my eyes which are mostly grey with some sea green and a touch of hazel. And I have had many compliments on my butt. :-D
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: I read mostly nonfiction: science, TOEs, the multi-verse (infinite parallel universes), mechanical design and manufacturing , social issues, permaculture, alternative construction and power, cooking, human powered vehicles (cycles, recumbants, streamliners, airplanes and helicopters) Music performance, instruction, instruments, recording, studio design yada, yada . Some of my favorites include: Shamanism; Archaic Techniques of Ecstasy, Scientific design of intakes and exhaust, Sidartha, Home Studio Construction on a Budget, Illusions; the Adventures of a Reluctant Messiah, Self Made Man; One Woman's Journey into Manhood and Back Again, Dandelion Wine, Drumming at the Edge of Magic.
Magazines: Ode, MAKE:, Scientific American
Comedians: Paula Poundstone, Steven Wright, George Carlin, Judy Tenuda, Emo Phillips, Bill Cosby (I'm pissed off at him about being a rapist though), Mitch Hedberg, Daniel Tosh, D.C. Benny, Lewis Black.
Comics: Calvin and Hobbes and Far Side
Movies: It would be shorter to start with favorite film makers: Cohen brothers, Stanley Kubrick, Wes Anderson, Tim Burton, Kevin Smith, Terry Gillium, Steve Martin, Woody Allen, Frank Oz, Guillermo Del Toro... Amelie, Six Degrees of Separation, Captain Fantastic, Death to Smoochy, Milk, Being John Malkovich, Her, (anything by) The Marx Bothers, The Lion in Winter, The Addams Family, The Addams Family Values, the Story of Pi, the Graduate, Buck, The Rachel Papers, Beasts of the Southern Wild, The Illusionist, This is Spinal Tap, the Fountain, the Muppet Movie, Four Weddings and a Funeral, Mr. Brooks, Strictly Ballroom, Frida, Johnny Stechino, Goldfinger, Night of the Lepus, Forgiving the Franklins, Derailed, Sean of the Dead, Jacob's Ladder, Lock, Stock and Two Smoking Barrels, the Pink Panther series w/Peter Sellers, the Outrage (1964), Office Space, Goldeneye, Harold and Maude, the Cooler, Best in Show, One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest, Fido, Un Coeur en Hiver, Nacho Libre, Dead Poets Society, Holy Grail, Remains of the Day, Young Frankenstein, Lost Horizon (1937, aka Shangri-La), Parenthood, The Color Purple, Walk Hard, Science of Sleep, Hot Fuzz, Shawshank Redemption, The gods Must Be Crazy, Spiral, Zombieland, Silence of the Lambs, Repo Man, Like Water for Chocolate, Team America, Metropolis, Princess Bride, Wings of Desire, Blues Brothers, Dangerous Liaisons, Arsenic and Old Lace, Rocky Horror Picture Show, Doubt, Dr. Strangelove, Dersu Uzala, The Devil Wears Prada, The Green Mile, Scenes From a Class Struggle in Beverly Hills, The Watchmen, Allegro Non Troppo, the African Queen, Mystery Men, Hugo, Superbad, Lost in Translation, Stranger Than Fiction, Fear of a Black Hat, The Great Beauty, the Book Thief.
TV: (I don't have a digital converter so if I seem six years out of date, it's because I am) Simpsons, The Daily Show, Harvey Birdman, Colbert Report, Aqua Teen Hunger Force, MST3K, Home Movies, How it's Made, The Brack Show, The Oblongs, Futurama, Lucy Daughter of the Devil, the PJs, Science Court, Frisky Dingo, Moral Orel, and almost any science, educational and many historic programs. I was recently introduced to Archer and Foamy the Squirrel and love both of them.
Music: I'm all over the map here, but I have Jazz, Punk, Bluegrass, Alternative, Blues, Hip Hop, 60's, Classical, Pop (just a little), R&B, Rock, Reggae, World and even Electronica/Dance (a small dose anyway). I may be wired backwards because if I listen to heavy angry music then I thrash around and I'm happy and even silly afterwards but if I listen to music with pan flutes and birds chirping then I get aggravated. Yes, even I'm perplexed by that. :)
Jimi Hendrix, King Crimson, Anthony Hamilton, Art Blakey and the Jazz Messengers, Bach, Bad Brains, Beastie Boys, Beatles, Janice Joplin, Billie Holiday, Black Flag, Black Sabath, Blind Faith, California Guitar Trio, Captain Beefheart, Circle Jerks, Clash, Cream, Creedence Clearwater Revival , Crimpshrine, Crosby, Stills, Nash and sometimes Young, Danny Elfman, David Bowie, Devo, Django Reinhardt, Doors, Edie Brickell, Enya, Animals, Erykah Badu, Fugazi, Grateful Dead, Howlin Wolf, Idiot Flesh, Iggy Pop, Ill Gotten Gainz, James Brown, Jamiroquai, Jane's Addiction, Jethro Tull, Jimmy Cliff, John Lee Hooker, John Lennon, Kinks, Korn, Lana Del Ray, Lead Belly, Les Claypool, Mahavishnu Orchestra, Manic Hispanic, Marilyn Manson, Moody Blues, Mozart, DMX, Mussorgsky, Marvin Gaye, Mazzy Star, Tom Waits, Tones on Tail, Tool, Tori Amos, Traffic, MC5, Minor Threat, Moloko, Niel Young, Nine Inch Nails, Nomeansno, Operation Ivy, Otis Redding, Phish, Pink Floyd, PJ Harvey, Procol Harem, Prodigy, Quicksilver messenger Service, Rage Against the Machine, Ray Charles, Residents, Santana, Sly and the Family Stone, Soul Coughing, Specials, Squirell Nut Zippers, Steel Pole Bathtub, System of a Down, Urban Dance Squad, Velvet Underground, Ventures, White Stripes, the Who, Yard Dogs Road Show, Yardbirds, 13th Floor Elevators, Nuggets box set (garage-psych-pre punk, R&B), No Thanks! the 70s Punk Rebellion box set. (I have about 750 CDs, 600 vinyl albums, 200 tape cassettes, et, al!)
Stage Shows: I worked on the light crew in High School and as a Theater Tech when I was 20, I Tend to love anything on a stage that doesn't involve roller skates or people dressed as animals and I don't dig on show tunes, Bertolt Brecht, Gilbert and Sullivan are exceptions.
Food, making: Garlic... Pasta, Omelets, Stir Fry, homemade Pumpkin Pie, I am still perfecting my recipe even though I was told not to mess with it. I'm looking to branch out into soups, Miso is my current challenge. I tend to think of herbs and spices that make my greatest hits list: Oregano, Basil, Curry, Rosemary, Cayenne, Sage, Thyme. (I'm trying not to Go the Simon and Garfunkle route but those are good herbs and that's a great song).
Food, dining out: Quality American fare (contemporary eats), Thai, Indian (Eastern, that is), Italian. In Ashland my favorite restaurants are: Dragonfly, Pasta Piatti, Standing Stone, Agave, Wiley's World, Sauce , [Chataeulin and Three Rivers- R.I.P. :-( ], Liquid assets, Mix and Senior Sam's (you gotta have burritos too!)
Six things I could never do without
Music/drum kit
good food
Love and let's face it, sex
Tools (including kitchen utensils and cookware)
Bicycles, especially my road bike
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Music... I've always got some music playing in my head even if I'm sparing those around me by not humming it. Designing something that is hopefully useful (I gave up on battlebots, really, who needs a robot that rips up all your stuff). Bad jokes, I really crack me up, if I could get others to jump on the bandwagon I would take this act on the road.
On a typical Friday night I am
...trying to figure out what a typical Friday night is. Sometimes I am relaxing at home, recuperating from a long week. Sometimes I am out and about. Often times I am getting together with amBi a bisexual social group that I have become an organizer for. I don't have a set routine right now. My answer may become, spending time with you.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Okay, I have been brought to tears over great art. Painting, photography, poetry, music, etc. The 1924 Hispano Suiza H6C "Tulipwood" Torpedo (it's an automobile) for instance. Yes, I know your thinking, "what he teared up over a car?!!", but it is art beyond compare, craftsmanship at a level of mastery. And my words fail to describe where it takes me emotionally. I saw the original works of Monet and Degas and the effect was the same. I will tear up when I hear my two favorite pieces of music Mozart's-Requiem and John Lennon's-Imagine.

I also had a large inheritance and settlement from my fathers passing that I put into a house and business. The business failed and I lost the whole thing including the woman who I was with then. I am strangely thankful for the lessons learned and clawing my way slowly back up. Very, slowly, but I eventually intend to do it again. Business, that is. I'm hoping to avoid the losses while holding the things I have gained in my heart.
You should message me if
You sincerely think we can make a connection of any sort. Platonic to romantic/sexual. I am focused on starting as friends and seeing if that can go further, but, I am okay if it does not and please say something more than, "Hi", "Hello there or other single sentence greeting. Ask a question or make a statement referring to something I said in specific, or mention things we have in common, etc. If your nervous, just say your nervous and talk about why. Be authentic and sincere and we will probably become good friends.

I have come out recently because I DON'T have a partner that does not want their friends or family to know. That means that I am indeed bisexual. So if that bothers you... DON'T BOTHER. If your fine with that, let's talk.

If you are real about who you are and enjoy open communication or at least want to learn to be, then say hello. But, do not misrepresent who you are, simply because you are lonely, or want something to do. If that is the case, then SAY SO. We can still become friends.

I am curious about polyamory but not sure if I can do it. I am more than willing to try but never have. So if we are monogamous or if we have other lovers then we do what we say and our word is golden. I need a partner who can make agreements and live up to them. If your needs or desires change then we need to discuss that and change our arrangement.

You should also know that I am both romantic and kinky. Look at the sexual questions that I have answered to get a better idea of what that means. For some reason kink makes people think strictly about 50 shades of grey (which I have never read, so I only have a vague impression of). So look at my answers first. I don't do humiliation, this is control not cruelty. It is only during sex and certainly not every time. I am also very loving and romantic and neither of those things are neglected during kinky sex.
The two of us