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My self-summary
Greetings, folks. As I've actually now found the kind of woman I was looking for here, I'm rather content with just one and am not interested in finding another. We're keeping this profile around for the time being for historical purposes, but please contact me only if you're interested in making a new friend without overtures toward dating. Thanks!

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Howdy folks! I know that's a strange way for someone who was raised in Canada to introduce himself, so it's a good thing I wasn't raised in Canada. ^_^

I strive to live a meaningful life. I love individualism, incisive humor, and the act of thinking itself, and I love being with people who appreciate the same. I take my job and the well-being of my patients very seriously and I spend a lot of time making sure they get the attention they need. I do very well on my own, and I think that life is even better when shared.

Other things I appreciate:
- Perspective
- Thoroughness
- Hiking
- Kayaking
- Tennis
- Frisbee
- Family
- Compassion
- Tempered optimism
- Thin patients
- Zosyn / Vancomycin
- The First Amendment
- Dogs
- Good jokes & bad puns
- French onion soup
- Imagination
- Gravity
What I’m doing with my life
I took a bullet out of a woman today. How's your day going so far? ^_^

I’m a resident physician: an intern, to be exact. For the uninitiated, that means I’m in my first year of residency. I’m doing general surgery at the moment, but I may specialize further in time.

What it means to be an MD has changed a lot in the past few years, and much of the reason I entered medicine evaporated when the government decided to reward doctors for doing less for our patients and punish doctors who use the newest and best therapies; they don't seem to understand that prior use of technology is why we have better technology today. That's what you get when you let people who only understand money decide what's right for health.

While I'll tolerate it for the sake of my education now, I fully intend to go into private practice eventually.
I’m really good at
Sorry for the wall of text; this section is wordy, but if you really want to get to know me, stick with it.

Keeping calm. It takes a great deal to make me truly angry, and it almost never happens. Above all, I never strike out in anger – I have relatives who are cops and friends in the army, and I understand that sometimes violence is necessary to combat violence, but I do not believe, ever, in escalating a verbal confrontation to physical violence. I don’t like violent people.

Compartmentalizing. Sometimes bad things happen, especially in hospitals. While I'm always happy to talk about my day, I don’t bring my work home with me.

Leading. I can organize people towards a common goal. I was the president of a pretty large community service organization in college for a couple years and it was a rush in the best possible way. If I ever decide to retire from medicine, I’ll get involved in politics.

Communicating and following through. I speak plainly, I keep my promises, and I believe in fidelity. If I learn that I was wrong about something, I admit it. I know the difference between a disagreement and a fight, and I know how to let the past go.

Being happy with simplicity. I’m not looking for a life of luxury; I like simplicity and am extremely uneasy with debt, so I tend to be careful with money. Related, I love travel and adventure, but I also enjoy peace. Sitting down and reading together, watching a movie on the couch, picking apples or cooking a meal: all of these appeal to me. I don’t need constant excitement to be content.
The first things people usually notice about me
Apparently that I "look a little young to be a doctor."
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Literature: I wish I had more time for books these days. Of the many I’ve enjoyed, a few stories that spring to mind are Fahrenheit 451, The Ones who Walk Away from Omelas, and Stranger in a Strange Land.

Movies: anything powerful or heartwarming. Cool Hand Luke is both and has been my favorite for many years. Also up there are American Beauty, The Shawshank Redemption, and V for Vendetta.

Shows: Of all time? The West Wing, Band of Brothers, Firefly, and The Wire. Still on the air? Sherlock, Doctor Who, and Dexter.

Music: I love two of the following three: Rock and roll, country, 80s hair metal. You guess which two.
Six things I could never do without
Being clean. This is why I love hiking but not camping – I need a shower each day (unless we're following camping with whitewater rafting -- I've done that a couple times and that will definitely substitute for a shower). Otherwise, I have no problem getting dirty for a while, but I want to feel clean at the start of a new day.

Heating and cooling: I love to be comfortable in my own home.

The internet. Am I the only one around here who doesn't get his advice from a duck? [/reddit]

My car. The open road is freedom on an asphalt playground.

My camera. It’s my way of better remembering times and activities and the people I know and love…and some of the pictures you get when you’re the only sober one at a party are hilarious.

Quiet. Every now and then, I need time to just sit and be with people who don’t need anything from me. No expectations, no demands: just peace.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The reality that morality is merely societal consensus and that different societies disagree. That consciousness is the only quality of humanity I can't yet ascribe to biology. That evolutionarily, men are made to be expendable. That in a truly free market of health care, the patient determines his own worth. That the development of successful civilizations has typically been accomplished by selecting for a generally docile public with a vicious ruling class to expel, imprison, and execute those who won't play along. How power that isn't earned is taken for a birthright. That sanity, too, is defined by the majority.

But more importantly, how did Superman’s mom cut his hair or trim his nails when he was a kid?
On a typical Friday night I am
This is so very variable. If I’m working at the hospital, who knows what I’m up to. Not sleeping, that’s for sure.

Left to my own devices, I’m enjoying quiet conversation with friends. While I don’t like rowdy clubs, I’m generally ok with bars, and I do like card games and s’mores made over fire pits and ten people crammed into a living room watching “Lord of the Rings” while passing around bags of chips and bowls of microwave popcorn.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Of the following statements, two of them are lies:

- I've never been drunk.
- I have had a loaded gun pointed at me by a teenage girl.
- I have at various times accidentally set fire to my desk, my computer speakers, and a car.
- I have multiple burn scars from rocket fuel explosions.
- I have been in the same room as an NFL cheerleading team as they changed into their uniforms.

Have fun guessing which two are the lies!
You should message me if
- You're vivacious in every sense of the word -- able to cherish being alive both in motion and in stillness.

- You're sincere, responsible, loyal, intelligent, and kind. Above all, kind.

- You will challenge me.

Well, those three are the most important of all. Beyond that:

- You do well on your own and think that company is icing on the cake.

- You appreciate the humor of two or more of the following: Lenny Bruce, George Carlin, Dave Allen, Bill Hicks, Mitch Hedberg, Lewis Black, Tim Minchin, Jimmy Carr, Doug Stanhope.

- You're not selfish. You have found an ideal for which you care enough that, were it ever needed, you would give your life willingly. You know and appreciate the difference between being useful and being important, and you'd rather be the former.

- I’d appreciate a woman who can keep up with me physically and who looks out for her long-term health. That means no smoking, decent physical condition, not being overweight, no drugs, and no drunkenness.

- I’m not religious myself, but as long as you don’t try to preach to me, I’m fine with any and all who are. Unless you believe in Xenu.

I’m always happy to have new friends (I’m serious – a tennis or hiking partner with a flexible schedule would be great).

And if you find me before I find you, take the initiative and message me!
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