Wintertash
36 Old Orchard Beach, United States
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My self-summary
I'm a gay/queer guy in a long term poly relationship. I live with my husband and my boyfriend. I'm looking for a FWB (with the "friend" being as important as the benefits), play partners, or ideally a meaningful emotional/romantic relationship with another partner.

Physically I try to keep in good shape between biking and hitting the gym. I have a number of tattoos and piercings, but I won't scare mom if you bring me home to meet her.

I spend a lot of time with a camera in my hands, and I also enjoy reading, biking, hiking in the woods, and visiting museums or other interesting places. I'm also something of an information sponge, and I'm constantly learning new things, especially about history and how things work, be they machines, business models, or anything else.

It's worth mentioning that in my erotic life I am quite kinky, although I'm open to and enjoy non-kinky activities and relationships too. That said, if you think being kinky or poly is "wrong" or want someone to "save" I am really not your guy (learned that the hard way too).

If you have a Fetlife account and want to know more about me from that perspective, my profile is: http://fetlife.com/users/95857
What I’m doing with my life
I'm a photographer, working both in mainstream photography (mostly landscapes and portraits) and in the alternative lifestyles world (mostly kink and body modification). I love capturing images that reveal something about the world that is usually hidden or unobserved. My mainstream work is at: http://www.winterwindphoto.com and my (very) NSFW photography is at http://bevel-up.com

I'm also a kink, spirituality, and LGBT issues educator, and up until a couple of years ago, I was the assistant producer for a BDSM event company. I also do sales and marketing consulting in and out of that industry.

LGBTW activism is important to me and I was also an associate editor, and regular contributor to the LGBT politics and culture blog "The Bilerico Project" for a number of years.

My spiritual beliefs and practices are a significant part of my life. I am a polytheistic pagan and involved in the pagan community as a religious leader and as an educator. That said, my spirituality is my own, and I don't expect everyone I'm involved with to share it. But like with the kink, I'm not interested in folks trying to "save" me or convert me to their faith or lack thereof.
I’m really good at
Public speaking. I may be happiest when speaking in front of a group about something I care about. I've done everything from recreational and academic conferences, to internet video, storytelling shows/podcasts, and have even been in two TV documentaries.

Being a photographer, I like to think I'm "really good" at that too, although I'm always trying to push myself and improve.
The first things people usually notice about me
I have a fondness for fabulous and unusual glasses.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
It's hard to have a favorite book, I'm a big reader. Sci-fi and fantasy books remain a love of mine, but I also have a good collection of historical and military non-fiction, and a terrible weakness for M/M romance novels.

Fiction Authors: Tanya Huff, Ilona Andrews, Jack McDevitt, Lynn Flewelling, Anne Bishop, David Weber, Heidi Cullinan, Amy Lane, Eli Easton, Kristine Kathryn Rusch, John Scalzi, and Andy Weir gets a mention simply because I loved The Martian *so hard*.

I listen to podcasts quite regularly as well. My favorite podcasts include The Risk! Podcast, Planet Money, 99% Invisible, Reply All, Snap Judgement, Radiolab, This American Life, Ask Me Another, and Wait Wait Don't Tell Me.

I'm a fan of movies and TV too, although I can't really go to movie theaters. @Midnight, Last Week Tonight, Full Frontal w/Samantha Bee, and The Nightly Show with Larry Wilmore, are currently my never-miss shows. I've also seen every episode of Air Crash Investigations (many times) because I'm a giant dork. And other than that, I watch tons of documentaries, anime, and the occasional action or comedy flick.
The six things I could never do without
-My glasses, I'm blind as a bat without them
-My partners, lovers, and family (of choice & birth)
-Modern medicine
-Books
-Some way to express myself creatively, be it a way to write, take pictures, or an audience to tell stories to
-My spiritual life and faith
I spend a lot of time thinking about
All manner of things, from politics to spirituality, science and invention to science fiction, deep thoughts to bad puns.

And of course sex, from both a personal and professional perspective.
On a typical Friday night I am
Either on the road presenting, editing photos, reading, watching TV or a movie online, or participating in an online discussion group.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Ok, it's not really private, in that I don't try to keep it a secret, but I have Tourette Syndrome. I don't have coprolalia (the "swearing" tics), but I do have some pretty noticeable symptoms.
You should message me if
- My profile was interesting to you
- You are experienced with/open to polyamorous relationships
- Talking about sex doesn't bother you. Given what I do for work...
- You aren't transphobic! While I am cis-gender, many of my closest friends and some of my partners are trans. Transphobia is a deal breaker for me.
- You know what an "intactivist" is, are one yourself, or are curious.
- You can be civil to someone with a non-traditional faith
- If the idea of going shooting (photos or guns), having sex (of some form), and watching a documentary or comedy show over a dinner of Thai food sounds like an awesome day to you.
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