“I want to know what you ache for, and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart's longing...if you will risk looking like a fool for love, for your dream, for the adventure of being alive...I want to know if you have touched the center of your own sorrow, if you have been opened by life's betrayals or have become shriveled and closed from fear of further pain. I want to know if you can sit with pain, mine or your own, without moving to hide it or fade it, or fix it. I want to know if you can be with joy, mine or your own, if you can dance with wildness and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes without cautioning us to be careful, to be realistic, to remember the limitations of being human."
~ Oriah Mountain Dreamer
”Don't choose me because I am faithful,
Don't choose me because I am kind.
If your heart settles on me, I'm for the taking.
Take me for longing or leave me behind."
~ Alison Krauss
Are you insatiably curious, infatuated with the wonder-filled, beautiful, and heartbreaking roller coaster of experience? Do you long to live authentically and make a real difference?
Like many, I'm a passel of paradoxes: passionate and peaceful, serious and humorous, mature and playful, geeky and normal. Words (reading and writing), music (listening and performing), practicing Zen, and promoting Sudbury schooling are my passions. I believe in reason, compassion, pragmatism, wonder, and integrity. I don’t believe in boredom: the world is too full of fascination, the value of stillness and emptiness too often underestimated. While I cherish solitude, I crave connection and a world-expanding partnership.
And in case this profusion of prose isn't enough, you're welcome to check out my blog, Write Learning (.wordpress.com).
I read and journal daily, and I exercise regularly. Meditating at the Austin Zen Center is a big part of my daily routine. A kick-ass choir is also something I require in my life, as I've discovered over more than a decade with the Ars Nova Singers and the ensembles of Chorus Austin.
I have a weak spot for pub trivia, and once very nearly published a couple children’s books (stories and meta-story available upon request). I try to maintain and/or develop my fledgling Spanish, and I play my piano with varying frequency (though my trumpet hasn't seen the light of day in years).
- playing/connecting with kids of all ages
- logic games/puzzles (minimally skilled at chess, enjoy Sudoku, Set, and games that challenge my nonverbal side...)
- communicating (e.g., listening, public speaking)
- "I see you as an attractive, fit, smart, introspective man, who will take risks but only after weighing the rewards against his values."
- earnest, peaceful soul
- open, sincere
- good hugger
- "You make people feel safe."
- "You are a beautiful, intelligent, charming, humorous, solid man."
- "You have this Stephen Colbert vibe."
- "You know what I like about you? You aren't afraid to say important things. You aren't afraid to skip the smalltalk."
MOVIES/TV: Lord of the Rings, Chicago, Rivers and Tides, Buena Vista Social Club, Being John Malkovich, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Lost in Translation, Memento, The Pirates of Penzance, Serenity, Groundhog Day, Stranger Than Fiction, movies featuring Christopher Guest (e.g., The Princess Bride, Spinal Tap, Best in Show), movies by Miyazaki and Tim Burton, and foreign films (e.g., The Motorcycle Diaries; Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon; City of God; The Triplets of Belleville), and various incarnations of Star Wars and Star Trek. As for TV, I don't really watch it; just select series on DVD/Netflix (e.g., Deadwood, Flight of the Conchords, Buffy, Battlestar Galactica, The Wire) or own (Monty Python's Flying Circus, Firefly).
MUSIC: classical, vocal, piano, jazz, Celtic, bluegrass, Latin, and above all, UNCLASSIFIABLE. Categories are so limited -- and limiting. The two best concerts I ever attended were The Tallis Scholars and Bobby McFerrin.
- capital-A Art in its many manifestations
- spending time with children and creative, thoughtful, child-like people
- the mindfulness of journaling and meditating
- quality time outdoors, whether hiking, exercising, or simply sitting
- passion and imagination (Whitman's "barbaric yawp"), flexibility and emptiness (Thoreau's "broad margins")
- corrective lenses
- a library card and access to a good collection (quality used bookstores, too)
- Internet access (though periods of intentional doing-without are also indispensable)
- …and breaking silly rules like limiting myself to only six things...
Although I'm a pretty skeptical person (in the agnostic/atheist/humanist sense), I also practice Zen on a daily basis. I find that I'm more grounded and healthy, more present, when I meditate daily. So while I don't believe in the supernatural, I am deeply concerned with meaningfulness and ethics, and I appreciate that "There are more things in heaven and earth, Horatio,/Than are dreamt of in your philosophy."
On a more serious note, I've been divorced since 2006.
...you're ready for a close, genuine connection -- i.e., you're self-aware, know what you want, and have your stuff reasonably together.
...you'll inspire me to begin learning the guitar, improve my Spanish, and/or work on a new language.
...you enjoy games such as chess, Scrabble/WWF, and Set.
...you love reading aloud and being read to.
...you keep a journal.