XPherior
25 Redmond, United States
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My self-summary
When life gives you lemons, don't make lemonade - make life take the lemons back. Get mad! Demand to see life's manager!

... Ahem.

Once upon a time a-few-years-ago, I was kicking it on the east coast (as I had been doing my entire life) and decided it was time for a change. I pressed the reset button and sold almost all my things, bought a plane ticket to SEA, and become what the hip kids call a Transplant two weeks later.

I'm a software engineer - mostly, sort of, kind of. What I mean is, I didn't like any of the options I had in front of me, so I started and lead my own company. I like having the liberty to spend much of my day thinking and building things and working with my wonderful team - but that also means that I have to spend some of my time pretending to be an adult talking to other people also pretending to be adults about things like valuations and "Excise taxes", whatever that is. Pros and cons, right?

I spent a (really) long time inventing the things I needed for the foundation of my company - (a motivational snippet about chasing your dreams might be apt here. Work super hard, keep your chin up, yada yada yada. If you're thinking about doing something big, go do it now. Wait! Finish reading my profile and message me first, then go do the big thing!) - but I'm finally there now, and I have my life calmly together. There were a lot of moments where I got super lucky - which is to say, I don't expect a partner to be crushing their career. The only thing I need to be happy is another person who loves what they're doing, whatever it is, however good, or not good, they are at it.

Work aside, I have a strong interest in psychology, neuroscience, physiology, and astronomy. When we were children, you could have called me a nerd, but now you have to call me an "intellectual", or some other fancy-pants term (you can still call me a nerd, it's cool). You could probably guess it, but yes, I'm an introvert. I prefer having longer, meaningful conversations as opposed to random bits of small talk.

*Checks word-count* Was that 3 full pages? Can I hand this in yet? No?

Despite sounding like a person who never puts a book down to go outside, I promise I do! The other half of my personality is intensely athletic. I'm a competitive distance runner, and I train year-round. Running in the morning is like my coffee (I drink coffee too. Please, I'm human). While typing this, I'm nursing a few toenails back to life that I lost running the Chicago marathon this year. They accept your condolences.

I enjoy being out just as much as being in. I'm not much for video games, and prefer walking about aimlessly outdoors instead of sitting on the couch. And sometimes, when the planets line up just so, I'll take another big risk. (Except it won't be moving this time, Seattle's home now!)
I’m really good at
- Listening. I desire this trait in a partner more than anything else.
- Breaking the ice in awkward social situations.
- Getting shy people to loosen up.
- Making a room laugh.
- Public speaking.
The first things people usually notice about me
I smile by default when someone looks at me. I'm not sure why! I hope it's endearing.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I'll answer this one backwards, because I'm a rebel.

Food: I'll eat just about anything except seafood. I unfortunately get a nasty stomach reaction on that one. Indian, Thai, and Mexican food rank highest for me.

Music: I try not to flip around too much on music while I'm working, so I tend to listen to longer pieces that are ambient or electronica. I'm not picky, except to say, cliche as it is, that country music is not welcome in this household.

Shows & movies: I don't watch a whole lot of television, but I'll settle down and watch something if that's what we're doing.

Books: I read mostly non-fiction. I'm a big fan of everything Robert Greene writes, which is typically about human power struggles and how society reacts to bolder figures. Biographies tend to keep my attention, as does just about every book about where creativity comes from.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I think a lot about the relationship between the "mind's eye" (the visions you see when you close your eyes and picture something) and lucid dreaming. When I feel relaxed and calm at night, I try to fall asleep while staying aware that I'm about to fall asleep. Sometimes I can force the start of a dream to be about what I was thinking of just before dropping to sleep.

I think lucidity is an incredibly important topic that we know almost nothing about, and I'd like to make researching it something I do with my life up the road.
On a typical Friday night I am
Friday night's are usually on the quiet side for me. Going to a coffee shop to read or over to a friend's for dinner is the typical game plan.
You should message me if
- You want to hear about that time I was attacked by a bird - twice, within 30 seconds.
- You want to meet up and chat. I've never had a "bad" first date. Everyone has a unique story that's worth hearing, and no one has yet made a date so awkward that it was regrettable (please don't try to).
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