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My self-summary
Geeky, quiet, and thoughtful all apply. My scientific, rational perspective on life has not made me nearly as standoffish as one might expect, and I'm sort of unsure where that stereotype comes from. I prefer a night with a few friends, around a living room, gaming table or campfire to a club or a bar. I'm not antisocial, but I suppose I like my social in bite sized chunks. I think people as a whole are better then we give them credit for. I love a conversation that mixes intellectual ideas with the crazy hypothetical, and love talking with people about learning something intriguing, be it art, science or imaginary.

I believe that the idea of games has the power to touch and reflect upon everything that it means to be human. I'm not the type to play 8 hours of games a day, but the time I do spend, I'm passionate about. And I think about them in the same way a good book makes you think. Someday, I want to design a game that MEANS something.

My taste in relationships FAR outstrips my luck, and I'm used to things ending (Or more accurately, beginning) in disaster. Partly because of that, it takes me significant effort to put myself out there. I came here because my usual tactic of getting friends through friends of friends has fallen short. In some ways, I feel like I'm starting to get to the good part of adult life, and discovering new people would be a plus. I know I need to have some things in common with someone I know, and I can't inflict my idiosyncrasies on an unsuspecting victim, so I try to make them apparent here.

I joined OKCupid mainly because it seems like a fascinating data set for looking at people. Sure, im warming up to the idea of actually being more outgoing, but man...those are some interesting graphs.
What I’m doing with my life
FINALLY working at a decent job. I work for Social Security in Burlington, which has proven to be a generally positive mix of interesting, rewarding, and dull. It has provided me with the stability I need to think about bigger things. Most importantly, it's not retail.

I would love to do anything related to games beyond reading design philosophy and endlessly ranting. I've got a few game prototypes at an embarrassing level of infancy wiggling around in the back of my brain that I need to just take the plunge on.

I'm also training myself for an marathon (Someday), randomly learning whatever cool stuff strikes my fancy, weighing the merits of a small house (Or a large Yurt, if i'm feeling crazy), and generally trying to uncover that fun side of being an adult.
I’m really good at
Overthinking, being critical without being rude, and considering other positions. I don't know how good I am at abandoning opinions I hold when new information suggests i'm wrong, but i'm good at at least trying. And I never lose my composure with people unless I have carefully calculated that losing my composure is the only way I can make a necessarily point. When I get angry, I'm more prone to responding to something infuriating with a hushed, Spock-like string of logical premises then a raising of my voice.

I can stay outwardly calm and composed in almost any situation, and if you will excuse the horrible cliche, I don't sweat the small stuff.

I'm a good cook, if perhaps not a great chef. Apparently, I am great at Job Interviews. I can empathize with anyone, and as a result, am pretty good at ethical questions. Lastly, I'm humble enough to feel kind of embarrassed making this list, and for saying that i'm humble, which is an interesting little paradox.
The first things people usually notice about me
On here, I can only assume people notice that I'm not photogenic. I would assume elsewhere, that I'm quiet but likable. I've been told that I generally sound smart, even when discussing things that I don't actually know anything about. And given any reasonable window of time, your going to notice that I'm a huge geek, and proud of it.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Can I just say, "Terry Pratchett" over and over again? No? Okay then. "1984" is my general go-to example for my favorite book, but it changes constantly. The Hobbit was formative in my childhood, and Lord of the Rings and Hitchhikers Guide to the Galaxy was formative to my high school years. Paolo Bacigalupi has never steered me wrong, and neither has Neil Gaiman. I loved Hunger Games, and sometimes go on a kick of Graphic Novels. I'm always on a kick of a number of Webcomics like XKCD, Penny Arcade, Saturday Morning Breakfast Cereal and more. I'm excited about finishing "Guns, Germs and Steel", and cracking open, "Reality is Broken", a book about how games can enrich all avenues of life.

These days, I watch more TV then Movies. "Brick" is probably my all time favorite, and I have yet to watch a Miyazaki movie that I didn't love. Kiss Kiss Bang Bang was awesome, and theres the universally accepted awesome movies like Batman, Avengers and whathaveyou. I don't really have a taste in movies, there's just a mass of them that I happen to like. I can usually find enjoyment in most any movie, to some degree

Ive gotten over my "TV is dumb" stage of intellectual elitism, and watch a fair bit. Breaking Bad, Mad Men, Game of Thrones, Walking Dead, and Justified are among my favorites. For Comedy, Archer is sheer genius, and sometimes I feel alone as one of the few people who still really enjoys both Family Guy and Simpsons. New Girl is ridiculously funny. No idea how they manage to be that funny, it is just the most amazing comedy ive seen in a while. And lets all have a moment of silence for the most venerable 30 Rock. I'm afraid to catch up on Community.

I know nothing about music. I love listening to it, but I can't give a cogent opinion on it to save my life. Right now, I listen to 2 artists constantly: Lindsey Stirling and Tom Waits. If you can extrapolate a musical preference from that, I will be genuinely impressed. Easier to say that I like a little bit of everything, with an aversion to Rap and Country, and I like techno more then most.

I'm going to replace "Food" with "Games". Civ 5 is so fun it is dangerous, and it's the only game that has ever sucked me in to the point of obsession. Any clever, indie game that makes some kind of emotional or philosophical point through its mechanics will have me singing its praises from dawn to dusk. The Walking Dead was so beautiful and compelling, I'm afraid of going on to the next chapter. Also worth noting is that Board and Card games are a large part of my leisure time. I play Ascension, 7 Wonders, Settlers of Catan, Power Grid, Sentinels of the Multiverse, and even a little Magic now and again. There's also various incarnations of D+D culminating in Pathfinder, and I kind of miss World of Darkness. Learning new games is a joy.
Six things I could never do without
Smart Friends
A new game to play
My computer
NPR Podcasts (Generally a rotation of TAL, Freakonomics, Planet Money, and Radiolab)
And a little peace and quiet
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What other people think and why. What makes a game fun, compelling, and how to emulate/improve that. Incentives (Specifically the responding to, in regards to people) and how social dynamics work in unexpected ways. Politics, but usually in a very meta sort of way, like how the way we usually talk about politics is counterproductive. And whatever the most recent podcast/book I heard/read was talking about. I'm also no stranger to the 7 degrees of Wikipedia kind of learning.

Every few weeks or so, I marvel at the fact that i'm living in what is clearly, "The Future".
On a typical Friday night I am
Friday nights are like most any other night, except I'm celebrating a weekend off. Get home from the office, go for a long run, make dinner, watch some TV, play some games, read. Thursday is my Friday in social terms. That's usually Board games, but also frequently poker, or going out to dinner. Saturdays are like Thursdays unless its warm weather, when camping frequently comes up. Sundays are often Family dinner night, or, "Play with the nephew until exhausted, then play Fruit Ninja with him" night.

Maybe I'm boring, but i'm not as boring as my average Friday night would make me sound.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Thanks to a combination of previous poorness and Hurricane Irene, I don't own a car, and I rent out a spare bedroom from an acquaintance. It works fine for me (And the price is right), but from the perspective of meeting new people, it feels kind of embarrassing.

Oh, and I'm actually not all that keen on either Star Trek OR Star Wars, which is probably a severe nerd faux pas. Nothing against them, ill share in an interest, but I would rather re-watch "Janestown" or "Our Mrs. Reynolds".
You should message me if
If I havn't driven you away yet. If you like the idea of talking with a fellow geek and just going from there: I don't like the idea of starting anything with the expectation of, "This is a potential relationship, is this the relationship you want?" Better to start up a friendship first, and if the stars align, that friendship can progress like any other friendship turned something more. Don't message if only finding a potential friend strikes you as a failure.

If the idea of being on a site like this has you outside your comfort zone, and you would like a little company, message away. And if you kind of want to, but are nervous, definitely message away, because I could very well being doing the same thing.
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