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My self-summary
Describe myself? I once got a letter saying, "Life is never boring with you. I know I can count on you in any number of dangerous situations. You are ever cheerful and one of the most eloquent men I have ever met." Words mean a great deal to me and I use them to light, enlighten, and lighten.

I'm going to try something new here and talk about dreams and desires (rather than who am) in the hopes that it'll help paint a better picture of me. I want a house with a library room, no electronics more complex than a radio allowed, with a fireplace, and with several deep, tall-backed chairs and side tables overflowing with books, where, in the evenings, my partner and my closest friends would wind their days down reading to each other by the hearth. I'd like to find a coffee shop (or suitably large living room) with welcoming round tables and good desserts where I could get together with groups of people -- old friends, new friends, strangers -- and play board games and talk boisterously about everything from Plato to Paganini to Polymorphism. I want trips to the desert, to the Opera, to the lights of far cities, to be commonplace and enriching. Late at night, I hope my partner and I would challenge each other with Great Questions about the World, God, and our relationships with them. Poetry and religious texts would almost certainly be on our lips, and we'd grow together as we learned from each other.

I always want to be building great, grand, glorious things that make human lives richer, easier, simpler, and better. All true wealth is biological.

As for who I am, well... Cheerful, loyal, witty, and tireless, I'm the product of all the people whose lives I've touched, the places I've lived, and well more besides. Travel isn't just a hobby -- it's a part of my life as I visit family and friends across three continents. Just for starters, there are bits of the Egypt, New England, the South, and the U.K. all rubbing shoulders with each other in my head. You could say I'm a souk-haggling, chowder-seeking, barbecue-eating, high tea-attending sort of person, only that doesn't even begin to describe me even if it *is* mostly true. I'm easily at home in all these places and airports, deserts, and roads in between.

Yes, I'm an engineer, but I care about poetry and people and politics. And yet, I'm also delightfully silly: I come up with my own puns ("Did you know chickens love classical music, but have no depth? Yeah. All they talk about is Bach, Bach, Bach..."); I crack jokes with my fellow passengers on planes; I sing in public. Sometimes, to my surprise, strangers join in on the chorus. I'm looking for someone who'll sing the main parts with me.

So here I am, this combination of magic and logic and deserts and cities and cozy fireplaces and crazy wild places far from home. Simple? No. But expansive and nuanced! And I'd love to share it with someone just as expansive. :-)
What I’m doing with my life
By day, I'm inventing the future at a company I love by patiently trying to teach computers to dance (note: they're not really dancing. Computers are bad learners. Also, they have no feet).

Outside of work, I'm always in the middle of a bunch of personal projects. I'm learning how to play some of the pieces from Swan Lake on my clarinet; I'm teaching myself the guitar; I go to a boxing gym every Saturday for fun and sport; and I'm working on my writing -- short stories, the occasional joke, more puns than is healthy for an adult to write, maybe bawdy limerick or two... I'm part of a Writer's collective, so I've always got something cooking, and telling stories over coffee is one of my favorite hobbies.
I’m really good at
Lots of things, but especially? Words. Oh, and stories. Oh! And making pancakes. Hungry at 2 AM? Bam. Pancakes -- big, fluffy, warm, and covered in real maple syrup. I've a recipe perfected over the past decade and it's *really* good.

I'm also great at making time. Like, literally (well, figuratively literally...) adding more hours to a day. I once managed to be the best man at two back-to-back weddings, one in Colorado and the other here in San Francisco without missing a thing. (I mean, I could have said "no" to one of them, but where's the fun in that?). I keep a time machine in my back pocket, y'see.
The first things people usually notice about me
Beard, eyes (bright, shining, almost yellow in the right light), but mostly the energy. I'm always brimming with enthusiasm for whatever's at hand, and it's pretty infectious.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Which breath is my favorite? I love reading (all my favorite jackets have pockets large enough for your average paperback) and my tastes are eclectic, but I've a thing for Speculative Fiction.
"Dune", "One Hundred Years of Solitude", Anything by Lois McMaster Bujold or Stephen Brust, "All the King's Men" by Robert Penn Warren, and J. K. Rowling's Harry Potter series (read 'em in two languages!), Deathly Hallows in particular, "Cloud Atlas"...

More words words words: The King, Kubla Khan, One Art, Sea Fever, Abou Ben Adhem, Green Hills of Earth, Spring and Fall, The Greedy The People...

I don't watch as many movies as I read books, but I do have a few favorites:
"Interstate 60", "Star Wars: A New Hope", "The Princess Bride" (who doesn't like this movie?), "The Incredibles"

I trend cerebral with my music: prog/classic rock, jazz, classical, that sort of stuff. Things like:
The Mahavishnu Orchestra, Chick Corea, Miles Davis, The Foo Fighters, Dave Brubek, The Protomen, Yasunori Mitsuda, Tchaikovsky (Swan Lake!). I've also got a... thing for 80s power ballads...

My all time favorite video game is a toss-up between Chronotrigger and Xenogears. There. I said it. Favorite board game? Le Havre.

Hands down, my two favorite paintings are Daybreak and The Persistence of Memory. I have prints of both, and I could stare at them for hours.
Six things I could never do without
A good question, best answered briefly and as a poem:

Challenges, literature, stories.
A song in my head,
The banter of friends,
And the eternity of Seas.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
At work? Mostly why my spectacularly crafted code has managed to spectacularly (and craftily) fail. Performance anxiety, I'm sure.

Outside of work? I'm *always* thinking, tinkering with puns, stories, wordplay... But serious things, too, often at the same time: the nature of the Divine and our relationship to it; contemporary political ideology and the Hegelian Dialectic; societal and group "trauma" and how to heal it; markets and how to manage their economics for our greater benefit; what "justice" really means and the power structures that allow for it and the power gradients that prevent it; history (I love history) and how we got here from there. Sometimes, all those things at once, with the occasional pun thrown in for good measure.

It's never boring in my head. I love trying to imagine The Future and how things -- society, technology, everything -- *ought* to work and what a healthy, ideal society would be like. (It certainly wouldn't be as static as my words imply; healthy societies should be dynamic and proactive... but what does the look like?).

And then other times I try to solve "simpler" problems, like why we still board planes the way we do and isn't there almost certainly a better solution? Probably. Imagine a modular passenger compartment with a rail and cranes and...

And sometimes, I'll just think idle, simple thoughts: Why are my boots squeaking? What's that smell? Do I have room for dessert? Where'd I leave my keys?
On a typical Friday night I am
These days I've been enjoying my quieter Fridays. I've mostly laid the tango lessons by and now I'm generally playing board games with friends, or peacefully reading or writing. The second Friday of every month is my Writer's Collective meeting, which I attend regularly.

I still do love the occasional Friday karaoke night, and once every few months I'll go visit friends in other cities -- LAX, JFK, and ATL and the regular candidates these days.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I don't normally need much sleep, but when I want to I can fall asleep anywhere. I've napped on airport floors, slept through earthquakes, dreamed abovedecks during a nasty blow, and, once, fell asleep standing upright in the shower. It was a tight stall of a room, I hadn't gotten much sleep the night before, and the water was so warm...
You should message me if
You're looking for someone you've never found before.

I'm not everyone's cup of tea, I get it. The intensity, the complexity, and most of all the religion all throw a lot of people off even before we've spoken. It's cool. But if you want someone who lives in an exciting, large, and beautiful world, think you'd love being introduced to all sorts of new things, and want someone who'll gleefully be introduced to all the things that mean worlds to you, then we'll get along just fine.

You might message me too if you want the conventional adventure of a road trip through the desert as well as the unconventional (but still amazing) adventure of growing a relationship, building a family, setting down roots, and forming a community.

Message me if you think that the right word at the right time in the right place can change this world for the better. And if you know that word, share it with me and we can build the place and wait for the time together. (Sorry folks, but that word isn't "Hey." I'd love to chat, but you should have more to say than that).
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