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My self-summary
Welcome, traveler! Glad you could stop by. :) First though, consider yourself warned; this profile is LONG, so if you're not into reading, you might want to head back to the road. *grin*

Who am I? Well, I'm many things, but I suppose first and foremost I'd consider myself a geek. Reading, writing and video games are my three greatest passions (especially video games), although I frequently indulge in movies and anime as well. (And evidently, I also have a minor addiction to answering match questions and doing OKCupid Tests...)

I confess to being quite an introvert. I can be quite shy among strangers, although I really open up around people I'm close to. (I tend to swing between an ISTJ and an INFJ, for those who are interested in that kind of stuff.) I'm also a real homebody; my ideal Friday nights and weekends typically involve staying at home immersed in games or other hobbies with somebody I love.

I believe in honesty and candor, and of not forging, or believing, any illusions about myself. Be proud of who you are. Tolerance is my watchword. Accept others for they are, and be ever open to new ideas and new things, whether it be food, knowledge, or tricks in the bedroom. *wink*

I adhere to a fairly ordered lifestyle. I like rules, systems, hierarchies. I love the exhilaration of a well-executed plan, whether that plan is a choreographed dance, an epic work of fiction, or a sensual scene played to utter fulfilment. I dislike wastage, unruliness and those who do not show proper respect for others and their opinions in life.

I am loyal and fiercely devoted to those I care about. If you're my friend, I will never speak ill of you, or betray you. If you're my significant other, I will never, ever cheat on you, and I will do my utmost to help you with whatever problems you might have. My word is my bond; if I promise you that I'll do something, I'll get it done. (If I had doubts, I wouldn't have promised you in the first place.) Sadly, I've been taken advantage of in the past due to my nature, so I'm more wary about whom I give my trust to these days, but once it is given, you will not find a more steadfast and loyal friend and companion in me.

I don't always know where I am going, but I know what I want. I believe in plans and reaching for your dreams, but I also believe in not forgetting to enjoy the journey itself. Life is all about finding your own path. I'm walking mine now. Care to join me?

"In the end, all we have are the stories we can tell. And, if we are fortunate, somebody who will listen." — sylara{Z}
What I’m doing with my life
To be honest, I'm kind of just cruising at the moment, seeing what new things each day brings. I work in the IT industry as a technical writer, but ultimately I hope to enter the video game industry as either a writer or a designer. (At times I also toy with the idea of becoming a full-time novelist.)

At the same time, I also want to ensure that I have a life full of good memories when I look back on it, so I endeavor to maintain a good work/life balance. I'm no workaholic; family, friends, and even hobbies always come first. By all means, do a good job and always give it your best, but work to live, don't live to work.

Above all, though... I'm trying to find my star-crossed lover. I'm really quite a romantic at heart, and I believe in true love. I seek my soulmate, the woman who completes me, who is the missing half of my soul, and to whom I can be the same. I want to smile at you, with you, laugh together, cry together. To grow. To learn. To create beautiful and wonderful things together, whether it's stories, a family or just memories. To spend a lifetime together. (And beyond, if science finally coughs up that eternal youth treatment in time. I'd gamble on the whole afterlife/reincarnation thing, but I like hedging my bets. *grin*)

More details on who I'm looking for can be found at the end of my profile!

"Life is not a problem to be solved but a reality to be experienced." — Fall-from-Grace, Sensate Factotum.
I’m really good at
Writing. I do it for a living, after all. *grin*

Being diplomatic. I find it really, really hard to be harsh or nasty to people. Sometimes this is a drawback, but at the same time I find it also means that most people feel comfortable around me.

Making plans. While I don't have a rigid daily schedule, I will usually have a list of things that I want to get done each day, and have given some thought to things like meals, chores and so on. I find it a great aid with managing my time and prioritising tasks.

Perseverence. Once I've made up my mind to do something, I tend to pursue it with a single-minded devotion. I hate admitting failure, and barring situations where I'm clearly out of my depth, I will often go at it again and again until I achieve success.

Cuddling. I seem to have a natural disposition to cuddling. I love wrapping up my loved one in my arms, resting their head on my chest or shoulder and nuzzling their hair. Depending on my mood, I could do it for hours. Or at least until my hands (or hers *wink*) start wandering...

"The greatness of a nation and its moral progress can be judged by the way its animals are treated.” ― Mahatma Gandhi
The first things people usually notice about me
Probably the fact that I'm Chinese, I wear glasses, and I'm taller than average for a Chinese.

I'm also told that I have a really warm, friendly smile, but I'm in no position to judge.

I apparently also look very "warm, open, and innocent", according to some of my work colleagues. Hah! They just don't know about my darker side. XD

"If it happens once, it's a bug. If it happens twice, it's a feature. If it happens more than twice, it's a design philosophy." - Unknown
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Oy... Where to begin?
- Anything by George R.R. Martin.
- Anything by Robert Jordan.
- Frank Herbert's Dune series
- Jean M. Auel's Earth's Children series
- Loads of those old 80's Choose-Your-Own-Adventure style gamebooks (e.g. Joe Dever's Lone Wolf series)
- The Joy Luck Club
- Moby Dick
- George Orwell's Animal Farm and 1984 and John Norman's Gor series also had profound impacts on me.
- I also have a fascination with the works of H.P Lovecraft, and the Cthulhu Mythos in general.

"He who fights monsters should see to it that in the process he does not become a monster. When you gaze long into the abyss, the abyss gazes also into you. — Friedrich Nietzsche.

- The Lord of the Rings trilogy (sadly, there just seemed to be... SOMETHING lacking in the Hobbit trilogy).
- The Matrix trilogy
- Ghostbusters
- Starship Troopers (yes, yes, I know the movie was nothing like the book, but I liked it anyway!)
- Watchmen
- Everything in the MCU (but especially the Avengers series and Guardians of the Galaxy)
- Peter Jackson's King Kong
- 300
- Quills
- Secretary
- Samsara
- Castaway
- Lost in Translation
- 50 Shades of Grey (my guilty secret...)
- The Flight of Dragons (my all-time favourite childhood cartoon)
- Aladdin (my all-time favourite Disney movie)
- The Land Before Time (the first one, and still the best!)
- The Incredibles
- Inside Out
- Ninja Scroll (still my favourite anime movie to date)

"There is no emotion, there is peace. There is no ignorance, there is knowledge. There is no passion, there is serenity. There is no chaos, there is harmony. There is no death, there is the Force." — The Jedi Code

I don't actually follow the music scene much. I tend to be rather ignorant of individual artists or songs unless they go really, really mainstream. Nor do I really have any favourite artists or genres; I tend to listen to all manner of music, and I'll either like it or hate it. I've noticed that I do tend to prefer instrumentals rather than songs, however, and I have a rather sizeable collection of music extracted from various video games!

"Fairy tales do not tell children the dragons exist. Children already know that dragons exist. Fairy tales tell children the dragons can be killed." — Gilbert Keith Chesterton

- Chinese (duh)
- Japanese (especially sukiyaki!)
- Fast Food (I confess to needing a fortnightly dose of McDonald's)
- Eggs (cooked in any style)
- Sultanas (I like raisins too, but sultanas taste better!)
- Ice Cream
- I'll try almost anything at least once, however, as long as it's cooked. I refuse to eat anything that's raw (this includes salads), except fruits.

"An idealist is one who, on noticing that a rose smells better than a cabbage, concludes that it will also make better soup." — H.L. Mencken

Video Games: I know it wasn't mentioned, but given how much I love video games (and since I'm looking for someone who's equally into video games as I am), I thought I'd put this here too. Some of my all-time favourite video games are:
- The Baldur's Gate series
- Planescape: Torment
- The Neverwinter Nights series (noticing a trend yet? *wink*)
- The Knights of the Old Republic series (How about now?)
- Jade Empire (Now?)
- The Witcher series (What about now?)
- The Guild Wars series (What about now?)
- The Mass Effect series (What about now?)
- The Dragon Age series (What about now?*)
If you haven't figured it out already, I absolutely LOVE roleplaying games (RPGs), although I play a wide variety of other games including first person shooters (FPS), real-time strategy (RTS) and simulation games. In fact, the only games that I WON'T play are sports games and driving games.

*If you got the inside joke from this, you are awesome. XD And gain 2000 XP and a Mysterious Glowing Rock.

In peace, vigilance. In war, victory. In death, sacrifice. —Motto of the Grey Wardens (Dragon Age)
Six things I could never do without
Well, excluding the essentials like food and water...

1. My computer - I've got practically everything on there, my work, my games, my stories, my D&D campaigns... Yes, I do back everything up regularly.

2. The Internet - Yes, I get withdrawals if I'm unplugged for too long. It's my connection to the world!

3. Family and Friends - An introvert I may be, but as the old saying goes, "No man is an island." The support of family and friends during hard times is something that I deeply cherish and value.

4. Laughter - With everything that's going on in the world, you need to be able to find things to laugh at. A daily dose of webcomics usually helps with this. *grin*

5. Love - Some men can live without love. I'm not one of them. Having known and experienced the incredible bliss that comes from knowing that you love someone, and that they love you just as much in return, it's something that I know I cannot be without.

6. Sex - Hey, unlike most men, at least I'm openly admitting it! *wink* Seriously though, I consider sex to be an integral part of building intimacy in a relationship. It is a wonderful, amazing act that should be shared only with a person you love and care deeply about. If you do, the bond it creates is nothing short of magical.

UPDATE: I think I've figured out why OKC refuses to give me the More Desiring of Sex and More Kinky awards! It's simply because I shy away from casual sex, or more accurately, sex without love. I believe very strongly in only having sex with somebody with whom you love and/or care deeply about, so I'm constantly putting "No" on the tests where they ask whether I'd bonk strangers (hot or not) or celebrities, or want to bonk a lot of people, or have groupsomes.

But if you're that person I love, you'd best watch out in bed. There's LOTS I'm eager to try. *wicked grin*

7. My glasses - OK, I confess. I need my glasses to function. I'm as blind as a mole without them. I have considered LASIK, but I get really squeamish at the thought of letting somebody near my eyeballs with a laser. >.>

Some extra things that aren't essential... But help make life worth living:
- Cute, fuzzy animals
- Gummi/Starburst fruits
- Long, hot showers
- The smell of freshly baked bread. Or frying garlic.
- Polyhedron dice
- The smell of pine trees after a fresh rain.
- Unusually shaped scented candles
- Snuggling up with my significant other under a warm blanket on a cold winter's morning.

"The wise man dwells on what Fate has conceded to him, rather than what it has denied." — The Grey Shian (Blood and Magic)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
1. The video game I'm currently playing. As a consummate planner, I tend to devote (probably excessive) amounts of time formulating strategies, plans of attack etc... Or simply just mulling over some particularly interesting conversations or plot twists.

2. My D&D campaign. I enjoy creating an intricate, elaborate world for my players to adventure in, and I frequently do my best to work in elements of their backstories to make the campaign seem a lot more personal for them. I readily admit I also take a somewhat sadistic pleasure in creating extremely dangerous and powerful monsters for them to face. *evil grin*

3. Ludicrous solutions to world problems. For instance, if I was Supreme Overlord of the World, I'd... Ohh no, you won't get me to reveal my secret plans that easily! You'll have to message me to know more!

4. Mulling over the meaning of life, and whether there is an afterlife.

5. Wondering whether there are intelligent alien races out there... And what they think about us as a species.

6. Thinking about fun and interesting things to do with/to my lover. *wink*

7. Wondering why the hell so many of the interesting matches on this site live so far away from me! *grumble*

"Without responsibility, no object would be given to us. Without understanding, no object would be thought. Thoughts without content are empty. Intuitions without concepts are blind. Fate without control is life. Life without responsibility is entropy." — Emmanuel Kant, Critique of Pure Reason
On a typical Friday night I am
Settling in for a fun night at home, whether it be with the computer, watching a movie, or in bed. *wink*

It's not that I'm TOTALLY unwilling to leave the house, mind you. I just prefer to be at home at night, so I typically go shopping/watch movies/see events during the day.

"Alea Jacta Est!" (The die is cast.) — Julius Caesar
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I admit to some pretty private stuff right below this section! The entries here are probably going to be pretty tame in comparison. *grin*

1. I'm a real sucker for happily ever after endings.

2. I fold my toilet paper.

3. I don't own a mobile phone. By choice.

4. I've been told that I write really good erotic fiction. Yes, you can ask for a sample, but there's no guarantee you'll get it.

"A fanatic is a person who can't change his mind and won't change the subject." — Sir Winston Churchill
You should message me if
If you've gotten this far, and reading all of the above piqued your interest! *wink* I'm always happy to make new friends, especially if you're a fellow fantasy fan, video gamer or anime lover who wants somebody to discuss (in brief or at length) a shared hobby with.

If you're hoping for something more than just friendship though, or if you think you might be the One for me, read on! It should give you a good idea of what I'm looking for in a long-term relationship. :) Tally up all of your points, and use it to gauge your compatibility with me at the end! (... I should probably make this into a test at some point.)

"I ask for so little. Just fear me, love me, do as I say, and I will be your slave." — Jareth the Goblin King (Labyrinth, 1986)


First, some essential requirements! You must be:

a) Female. And apologies to any transgender individuals, but I'm only interested in cis women. I wish you all the best in your search for love, however.

b) Willing to date/marry a Chinese man. Just in case you've SOMEHOW missed my ethnicity or my pictures, I'm Chinese. If that's not something you're comfortable with, let's save us both some grief and move on. :)

c) A practitioner of good hygiene. I'm not a germaphobe by any means, but if you don't shower daily (I DO make exceptions for really busy days or if proper facilities aren't available), you leave dirty dishes in the sink for days, or routinely forget to flush the toilet, we definitely won't get along.

If you meet these first three requirements, excellent! You're off to a good start! :D

1. You use proper spelling, grammar and punctuation. You know the difference between "their" and "they're", "it's" and "its", and when to use each. (10 points.)

SPECIAL: If you send me messages that lOok lik dis lolol, you'll actually LOSE points. I'd like to think that my ideal partner can write better than an elementary/primary school student. >.<<br />
2. You have a creative pursuit of some kind. It can be writing, music, artwork, interpretive dancing, anything! (10 points. A bonus 5 points if it's writing or otherwise literature-related.)

3. You like/love fantasy and science fiction fiction and movies. Especially fantasy. (20 points.)

4. You like/play Dungeons & Dragons (what edition you play is irrelevant! *grin*) or other tabletop roleplaying games, and you can happily discuss the merits and drawbacks of playing an elven ranger versus a dwarven cleric, which type of dragon is the coolest, and whether or not a paladin would lose his powers if he killed a bunch of orc children. (20 points.)

5. You like/love to play video games, especially roleplaying games. It doesn't matter whether you're a console or a PC gamer. You relish the thought of journeying with me through a multitude of different worlds, eagerly sharing and revelling in the experience. (20 points. Bonus 10 points if you play RPGs. Another bonus 5 points if you obtained the Mysterious Glowing Rock from earlier!)

6. You like anime, and aren't offended by the fact that I usually watch dubbed anime. (5 points. Bonus 5 points if you know what hentai is. Another bonus 5 points if you enjoy WATCHING hentai. *wicked grin*)

7. You like/love animals, even if you don't currently have any pets. (10 points.)

8. You are easy-going, patient, tolerant, and accepting of people's shortcomings. (10 points.)

9. You do not smoke (or are at least honestly trying to quit). (10 points.)

10. You don't need to drink alcohol to "have a good time". It's OK if you do drink, but you do so only occasionally. (5 points.)

11. You don't use drugs. (Medication excepted, of course.)(20 points.)

12. You prefer staying in at home than going out at nights/on the weekends, but aren't averse to the occasional trip out for something extra special. Vacations (overseas or otherwise) count as being extra special. (10 points.)

13. You are not overzealous about your religious or spiritual beliefs. I respect those who choose to devote a part of their lives to their faith or God(s), but I'm not looking to be preached at or converted. (10 points)

14. You support gay/lesbian/bisexual/transgender rights and marriage. Even though I'm completely straight, I believe in full and equal rights for people regardless of their race, religion or sexual orientation. (10 points.)

15. You do not currently have any kids, but DO want them in the future. I would love to start a family one day, but I do not believe that I am financially/emotionally ready for that step yet. So, as long as you're looking for a future father for your children, you're good. :) (30 points.)

16. You want a monogamous relationship, and you enjoy the idea of being the only woman for me, as well as I being the only man for you. (30 points.)

17. You are a sexual submissive, a woman who yearns... NEEDS to submit herself, offer herself up to another. I've always been a Dominant in the bedroom, and it's a crucial part of my sexual identity. I see myself as more of a Romantic Dominant though; I see a BDSM relationship as a profound expression of love and trust between two people. To me, the appeal of BDSM stems partly from the feeling of control, but also from the knowledge that I have a lover who trusts and loves me enough to let me do anything I want to her. That, to me, is the highest expression of love one can give. (40 points.)

NOTE: You need not have any experience in being a submissive; I freely admit that I'm not the most experienced of Dominants myself. As long as you find the idea of it appealing, I would be more than happy for us to explore and learn the path of BDSM together, as a couple, and as more.


So, what's your score? :D

< 100: I'll be frank. I don't think it's going to work out, no matter what OKC says our match percentage might be. I'd still love to hear from you, but be aware that it's going to be friendship only. :)

100-199: Some good potential here! You sound like the sort of person I'd love to get to know, even if it ends up being nothing more than friendship. Feel free to send me a message or IM me anytime! :D

200-299: You, my lady, are one AWESOME individual. I could easily see us becoming best friends, if not something more. Message or IM me and let's find out! :D

300: ... *drops to his knees* Will you marry me?! Seriously, you sound like you're the woman I've been searching for my entire life. Please do get in contact with me! It would be a personal tragedy for both of us if there was somebody in the world like you and I never got to meet you. Let's not let that happen!
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