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My self-summary
Hi there! I'm Zeke, a non-binary autistic male who apparently prefers to lead with the red flags.

I'm also an excitable geek doing my best to live an intersectional feminist life while still finding time to enjoy problematic faves. I'm a former journalist, social worker, women's center volunteer, and video store clerk who's looking to get to grad school now that I've got my BS in psychology (behavioral, in case you're wondering, with most of my work being related to trauma and PTSD). I'm a snow-loving winter person living in a city of permanent summer trying to find a way to both be active and be indoors at the same time. Not easy, it turns out.

I love Jake the Dog, TVP tacos, and musicals that involve neither Rodgers nor Hammerstein. I love playing Rock Band, too, and I'm learning to play a real guitar on top of having some minor drumming ability. Because I also enjoy irony of the conventional and Morisette varieties, I don't like going to concerts or music festivals. Is it the uncomfortable volume? The dancing? The way gross cultural appropriation is both allowed and encouraged? Yeah, probably all of that.

My idea of a good time out is more along the lines of stand-up comedy and trivia. Being rewarded for knowing stuff about things is great, especially when that stuff has almost no application outside of earning discounts at a pub. My at-home time is spent chatting with friends, writing, and playing/running games (be they card, video, board, or roleplaying). I tend to prefer the cooperative sort over the competitive sort, and I think "cooperative over competitve" is a good summary of me as a whole.

It's also my guiding cooking philosophy, most often encountered when I'm inventing a recipe based on of what's in the kitchen that I need to use before it goes bad. Occasionally I add too much hot sauce to the mix, and it becomes a competition against my "grew up poor" sensibilities that insist you don't waste food. They usually win - fortunately, I'm good at repairing cullinary mistakes!
What I’m doing with my life
Right now, I'm writing a book, applying to grad schools, and looking for solid part-time work. I'm hoping to find a new place to volunteer; after three years working at one place, you really miss it.
I’m really good at
Overthinking, listening, and hopefully making people feel appreciated.

I'm also pretty good at cooking, writing, and explaining why you shouldn't say something is your spirit animal (but you should definitely call it your patronus).
The first things people usually notice about me
My very long hair and my resemblance to Silent Bob and/or Mick Foley stand out pretty well. Several of these things are evidenced in my pictures! Also, that I am actually 5'6". That seems like a pointless thing to lie about, but apparently, people do? This is also evidenced in my photographs, but probably requires knowledge of the height of your average Chewbacca.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
On a friend's advice, I am attempting to reduce these to five. Turns out that's hard when you're excitable and love all the things.

Books: Recent favorites include Year Zero and Hyperbole and a Half. Atomic Robo, The Unbeatable Squirrel Girl, and Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy.

Movies: The Fifth Element, Repo: The Genetic Opera, Tron, Wall-E, Guardians of the Galaxy.

TV: I tend to forget to watch anything that isn't on Netflix - my DVR is my salvation in that. Orange is the New Black, Steven Universe, Adventure Time, An Idiot Abroad, Avatar, and Futurama are all the best, though.

Music: My mix CDs in the car usually include lots of Bad Religion, Genki Rockets, Babymetal, David Bowie, Foo Fighters, Gorillaz, Flogging Molly, Misfits, Lady Gaga, Green Day, and Offspring. Some of those things do not look like they belong, but I assure you the end result is amazing.

Games: Undertale, The Witcher, Ace Attorney, Yakuza, Beyond Good and Evil.

Food: I love Japanese, Indian, and frozen yogurt. Pizza is always on the menu. I don't do Thai, Israeli, or anything with pesto. Guess why and you win a nut free cookie!

Shit, I think I just gave the answer away.
The six things I could never do without
Electricity for my non-book entertainment (and to power my ebooks).
Strong flavors.
Feeling appreciated.
A chance to help others.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Wondering what Picard would do, wondering what Winona LaDuke would do, wondering what my friends are up to, where to spend my social justice warrior experience points when I level up. I'm thinking of respeccing to Social Justice Bard-Cleric multiclass.
On a typical Friday night I am
Running a Star Wars RPG, writing, talking to friends, attempting to draw, watching Real Time but also calling Bill Maher a clueless asshole when he starts with the cishet white guy complaints.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I don't know how to ride a bike, and I've been single for a solid eight years. You probably care about one of those a lot more than the other, depending on whether or not you're from the pacific northwest.
You should message me if
You think it's hilarious how many cis men sign up as straight women on OkCupid because they just expect to be the default setting.

(Really, go look. There's tons, it's hilarious)

You know things to do in Phoenix that don't involve Scottsdale clubs, Tempe bars, or...what the hell do people do in Glendale, anyway? Go to Westgate? Where do nerds go now that Atomic Comics is gone?

If you know a good Japanese restaurant around here.

If the inherent classism of someone describing themselves as "a professional" without any other context makes your skin crawl.

If you think traditional gender roles are gross, but also think the phrase "I'm not like other girls!" is gross.