51 New Haven, United States
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My self-summary
You are more interested in being buddies first and lovers second. I'm a sculptor and graphic artist. I respect pioneers, explorers, cultivators. I admire anyone who uses their hands and uses practical knowledge, like carpenters, mechanics, and artists.

I like using my hands and my body. I like to swim. I like to make men laugh and feel good.

I appreciate the sensuality of the material world but I realize that completion does not exist in and of the material world, but that plus something else. (And if I knew what that something else was, well I'd be a fucking genius, wouldn't I?)

I think the world here and now is an insane place to be in, but I believe you have to do what you can, while you can, as long as you can.

I am unusually patient but what hasn't killed me yet has made me observe the world more.

I am wry, romantic, and enigmatic.
What I’m doing with my life
I work in development and public affairs. I've been kind of an administrative journeyman and have enjoyed working in environments that require wearing many hats. This has meant working for small companies over the years, but currently I work in higher education, which I enjoy.

I'd like to find fellow local artists, musicians and/or writers for friendship. I get along well with just about anyone who understands that art is a serious discipline.

I was in a long-term relationship for many years but am currently single and ok with it though it's nice to enjoy events with a companion once in a while.
I’m really good at
Observing life and being fairly adaptable. I've worked for high-stress individuals in the past and while there were times I didn't enjoy it, I value everything about myself that I learned from those experiences.

I'm also a good listener and I like meeting new people, though I generally dislike going to gay bars mainly because of the dynamic I often encounter there. Having said that it's not totally anathema to me. I'd rather hang out at my neighborhood pub, which isn't gay, although everyone there knows I am, so it's all good. I grew up near San Francisco and visit friends in New York from time to time, so as far as being around other gay people it's nice but not necessary.

I appreciate quirky people. If you can make me laugh, you're gold. If you're reasonably confident about yourself but are curious and willing to investigate stuff you don't know, I'll probably like you.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm not that comfortable in gay bars. They were sort of important to me when I was younger but I realized that that they're not particularly helpful to me at this point in time. I like men who are honest with themselves and the next relationship I have will be with someone who is realistic about their life journey. I will respect you if you know what you want and can talk about it.

Often I'll go somewhere and will either blend in, or get looked at for reasons not entirely clear to me. I'm sometimes mistaken for other people, which is interesting.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
The last book which blew me away was "Guns, Germs and Steel" by Jared Diamond. It explains the history of humanity in 500 pages and manages to stay plausible and coherent. I'm a bit of a history, geography and world culture nut due to my dad's collection of National Geographics.

I loved Contact with Jodie Foster. Even though I'm an artist I like science and history documentaries. Reading up on art history is also a hobby.
The six things I could never do without
That drunken librarian who won't shut up known as the Internet. A sense of irony. A sense of humor. Faith in the idea that life is made up of chapters. Genuinely warm, sane people. Good light, plants and animals. I guess that's more than six but hey.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How much I enjoy four real seasons in New England. That I have a great view of the moon from my apartment as it tracks across the sky. That there must be other people out there who have been through difficult times and still maintain a sense of humor keep fighting for the good stuff. That people can express who they are as eloquently by what they do and how they do it as eloquently as by what they say and how they say it. That I need to keep making art because it keeps making me. That life is full of surprises and some of them are even good.
On a typical Friday night I am
Errr. Doing laundry? Napping? Thinking about whether I feel like going out or not? If I do, it's usually to the corner pub where I'll probably see someone from the neighborhood. Otherwise I like quiet nights at home reading friends' blogs or just plain reading. I don't watch TV (but I'm not opposed to watching boxed sets of things) and I'll take in a movie once in a while. I get a lot of my pop-culture and zeitgest-y fixes from friends who point me to various YouTube links.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
That I'm actually funnier and more romantic than I have reason to be. That I believe friends hug, fight, hug some more, and teach each other something new about life,. That I love wild things, even if I know from experience you have to let them go before they bite you on the ass.
You should message me if
You're some kind of artist or appreciate the arts. You enjoy talking about the creative process. You'd like to discuss the journey and mystery of life in a light and casual way. You're as lazy and procrastinate-prone as I am and slightly disturbed by it.