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My self-summary
[UPDATE: some big changes in the last few months. The good: I finished my first novel, started on my second, and was fortunate enough to sign with one of the best agents in my genre! The bad: the results of this past election. Grrr. As a result, I will be moving to Dutchess County to A) spend more time writing and B) help to flip a red seat blue. I will still be in NYC at least 1x per week, and will continue to have a place to stay in Brooklyn, but if this is a deal-breaker for you, I understand.]

I am a native New Yorker, born and raised in one of the cooler neighborhoods in Brooklyn long before it – or even Brooklyn for that matter – was even remotely hip. After spending a decade in Manhattan during my twenties, I moved back to the borough of my birth, and adopted an Australian Shepherd, Barlow. My family means the world to me and I have dinner with my parents (still together after 45 years) at least once a week. If we’re lucky, one or both of my younger brothers will be in town and they’ll join. I’ve followed a type A career path dating as far back as junior high, but in my heart of hearts I have always been a writer, and I’m pleased to say that I’ve recently become much more serious about pursuing that particular passion.

I am also: equal parts nerd (another thing that I could claim long before it was remotely hip) and sports-loving boy; an English major (can’t you tell by my username?) who got my MBA right out of undergrad; and a cynical, sarcastic city boy who can’t watch certain sitcoms because I feel too much empathy with the characters.

Politically I lean left, but half my friends are dyed-in-the-wool Wall St. Republican types.

For years, I thought of myself as Catholic due to my roots, but one of my brothers came out ten years back – and if the church isn't down with him, I’m not down with it. "Agnosticism" it is!

Perhaps most importantly, I like to think that over the years I’ve learned to focus more on the journey and less on the destination. I find life’s a lot more fun that way.
What I’m doing with my life
What a long, strange trip it's been. I started out as one of four white kids in a Brooklyn public elementary school, then rode the subway for an hour each way to a magnet school on the UES, completed an Ivy League English degree, got my MBA right out of undergrad, doggedly worked my way into I-banking and... hated it. I mean oh-my-god-I've-sold-my-soul hated it. So, I left to join the NY startup scene back before it was the cool thing to do (I'm starting to notice a trend...) and worked on two different ventures before leaving to hang up my shingle as an independent consultant to early-stage businesses to make more time for writing. Just recently, I have taken the plunge, and am making a go of it as a full-time writer.
I’m really good at
Writing, listening, providing sarcastic commentary to other drivers/players on the teams I root for when they do something infuriating (much more cathartic than yelling), problem solving, giving tours, kissing (I would offer to provide references, but that would be creepy), Scrabble, quirking one eyebrow, noticing things, parallel parking.

Making lists.
The first things people usually notice about me
Hmmm. Well, I don't make it a habit to survey everyone I meet, but those who have chosen to share generally mention my broad shoulders or my blue eyes.

Then again, my most recent girlfriend thought my eyes were green (I mean they change depending on the light and what I'm wearing, but not THAT much) until about three months into the relationship, so who knows...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books (well, really authors): Dickens, Austen, Carr, Pearl, Tolkien, Le Guin, Rowling, Jordan. Recently added Rothfuss.
Movies: Pride & Prejudice (both the Garson/Olivier and the Ehle/Firth versions – NOT the Knightly version), I Know Where I'm Going, The Shop Around the Corner, Goodbye Mr. Chips, 12 Angry Men, North by Northwest, The In-Laws (Falk/Arkin version, NOT the Douglas/Brooks version), Raiders of the Lost Ark, Swingers, The Big Lebowski, Old School, Wedding Crashers, the Lord of the Rings trilogy and of course the Harry Potter films – they're cinematic comfort food.
TV: Masterpiece Mystery!, GoT, The Daily Show, Law & Order reruns, the Big Bang Theory. Honestly, I tend to watch more movies and sports than "regular" TV.
Music: a surprisingly wide range from classical to big band to 80s pop to hard rock to electronica.
Food: not a big fan of most seafood (although I do like tuna and scallops) or squash, but other than that I'm not too picky.
Six things I could never do without
Since this section would be pretty boring if we all simply repeated the truly important things like family, friends, oxygen, water, food, shelter, etc., I'll go with:

- My white noise machine. I am a very light sleeper.
- All things Apple. After years of shaking my head at the self-important hipster fanboys who worshipped at the iAltar, my brothers eventually convinced me to switch. God help me, I even use Excel on a Mac now.
- Wash & fold. It's not even that I mind doing the washing; it's the folding that gets me. I don't know what it is, but something about that particular repetitive task drives me up the wall.
- Sunblock. It's pretty bad - I may be part vampire.
- Good food and drink. Hey, this counts - GOOD food and drink is different than the basic sustenance I was describing above.
- A gym membership. Keeps me sane. (Also allows for more frequent enjoyment of good food and drink.)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
My writing. After years of saying "I'll do it when I have time" I finally stopped making excuses, got to work, and... five years, 40 chapters, 480 pages and 152,000 words later, I just finished my first book! Now begins the hard part – the slog to get published...
On a typical Friday night I am
Having drinks with my old finance buddies. Meeting my former business partner for dinner. On Metro North headed upstate to my parents' country place. Out on a date. At home sprawled on my couch recovering from my week. Hunched over my laptop jamming away on my book, because I'm on a roll. (Thought I'd list a sampling of the possibilities rather than go with the clichéd "there is no typical Friday night".)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm pretty open – you can ask me just about anything and I'll likely give you an honest answer.
You should message me if
You are: smart, sweet, sarcastic, and occasionally silly (in case you haven't noticed, I am a fan of alliteration – not to mention parenthetical comments); kind, loyal, and driven in your chosen field (whatever it may be); and, because at the end of the day none of this matters if there's no physical attraction, fit, reasonably active and cute as a whole sewing basket full of buttons (to me anyway).

I should also probably add that if you don’t want kids, are a religious fanatic, practice an extreme diet, vote Tea Party or have lied about anything in your profile/posted deceptive photos, we probably aren’t a good match – and if that’s the case, I absolutely wish you the best of luck finding someone who is a good fit for you! (For the record, my age, height and everything else are all accurately represented.)
The two of us