_ashtrays
26 Brooklyn, United States
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My self-summary
It feels really contentious and false to write a huge thing about myself. I'm a pretty amorphous person and not necessarily here for anything or nothing.

I have two jobs that I love and not a lot of free time, dating in New York as a reasonably attractive 26 year old is truly a nightmare. I don't know what I want from a relationship until I know the person, but I'm not here for one night stands.

I'm largely and mostly a monogamously inclined individual. Poly and open relationships take such a severe level of trust for me and they've always ended badly because I wasn't given the time or security before the doors were opened. I can sleep around without having to answer to another person that isn't taking the time to be considerate of both our needs in the relationship. Frequently my partners will be dishonest about their other partners, get jealous before laying down a framework of trust and frequently it ends up being a little more controlling of me than I prefer. I'm loyal in my relationships and hold myself to very high standards.

If you're afraid to show your face on here you've given me plenty enough reason to be afraid of you as a human being and potential sexual partner. No anonymous accounts, no "I'm afraid of my coworkers finding me".
What I’m doing with my life
Less than I would like to, but I feel really excellent about how much I've done so far.
I’m really good at
Riding my bike.
I'm decent at drawing but I'm not really dedicated in my practice.
I'm great at ignoring important emails.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Whether or not I should take up celibacy seriously again.

I honestly spend most of my time thinking about how I can make more money and spend more of my free time productively, I wasted four years here at a job that gave me four days off a week and I definitely didn't maximize how I used my time.
On a typical Friday night I am
Ignoring calls and texts and avoiding people as best I can.
You should message me if
You aren't going to send me a sexually explicit message.
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