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My self-summary
I'd like to meet intriguing people, especially if there is mutual attraction and interest in polymathematic collaboration.

This includes potential lovers, conversationalists, activists, musicians and other collaborators.

Could that be you?

Tendencies towards geekiness and radicalism cause me to not blend fully into most normative social constructs.
What I’m doing with my life
Most dear to me is music: I compose, produce and record live music, and perform in a variety of contexts.

Profesionally, I'm a figure-out-erer in the realm of tech.

As a social activist, I work on the big picture, while struggling to make a difference in the here and now.

I keep fit by cycle commuting, swimming and playing tennis.
I’m really good at
Audacity. Fixing bicycles. Balance. Counterpoint. Sight-reading. Kissing. Posing fashion questions.

Also certain crazy mad skills that I've spent much of my adult life honing.
The first things people usually notice about me
Something I'm wearing or the way I'm wearing it, because I'm cross dressing, doing a gender hmmmm, or riding a bike.

It turns out that people really like to comment on suspenders.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I read mostly non-fiction that is political, scientific or economic in focus. Still haven't gotten around to Boswell's Johnson.

I don't follow movies, and movie stars even less. Perhaps my favorites are Taxi Driver and Memento.

Sport-wise, I follow MMA, watch tennis arbitrarily, and am a rather inauthentic fan of bay area championship teams.

I enjoy great music of almost any variety, although my parents ruined Polka for me. Mostly I listen to Jazz and classical, but I also keep abreast of contemporary trends. I love Scriabin and Tadd Dameron.

I skew towards tasty and nutritious food, which may include bacon. I try to refrain from being moralistic about food sources.
Six things I could never do without
Fountain pens

Or, as measured by impulse buys for groceries I already have, it would be: coconut oil, dijon mustard, honey, hatch valley salsa, cider vinegar and crunchy salted almond butter.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Why are gender norms enforced with such striking rigidity?

How to get from here to there, while enjoying the journey.

The dialogue around feminism and intersectionality. What it means to consider myself a feminist and a revolutionary Socialist.
On a typical Friday night I am
Staying in and producing, cooking or enjoying food with friends or lovers, mixed up in some scene.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm ticklish.

I practice non-monogamy and have a refreshing and consenting primary partner, wrytsalot. We're not looking for a triad; rather, we each date separately.

I have never been married, and have no kids.
You should message me if
You want to adore and be adored.

You find it refreshing for a guy to use the name Elaine.

You practice some form of consensual non-monogamy, like open relationships, friends with benefits or polyamory.

You want to collaborate on a meal.

Your zest or charm will induce me to write a song about you.

You'd like to embark on a spectacular convergence of chemistry, either lasting or fleeting.
The two of us