49Santa Rosa, United States
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My self-summary

I am not pretty. I am not someone that draws stares from across the room. However, I have often have been called attractive after I crossed the room and began a conversation. Additionally, if I can judged by the company that I keep, it may mean something that I have typically dated women who most would call pretty. I guess I am that guy.

I am not relentlessly optimistic. I don't bound out of bed in the morning and list the wonderful things that I intend to do that day. I do have times when the glass is half empty. I have read Kafka, enjoyed movies with unhappy endings and, on occasion, spent a fair amount of time in the German Expressionism gallery of museums. That said, I have often, to my surprise, been described by friends as energetic, encouraging and warm [go figure].

I am no longer trim or fit. This is may be the hardest thing to admit and, honestly, it surprises me sometimes - I still picture myself as I was in my 30's. When my life settles a bit, I hope to spend some time in the pool/gym and then delete this paragraph [I vote pool].

I tend to overthink things [or so I have been told]. That is not to say I am not spontaneous; many of the best parts on my life have been unplanned and/or spur of the moment. But I do settle in for a bit of extended exegetical analysis from time to time - and I enjoy it.
What I’m doing with my life
I am in between things at the moment.

I have worked in restaurants for more than two decades, including a stint as GM of a Michelin-starred restaurant in SF [I have the gray hairs to prove it]. I have been told that this should make me a trophy boyfriend for a devout foodie [tongue firmly planted in cheek at this point].

As present, I am out of restaurants, going to school and considering a career switch.

Oh, and I am parenting a pair of 9 year old boys [50/50 custody]. Frankly, that seems like more than a full time job in itself at times.
I’m really good at
...making it up as I go along.
The first things people usually notice about me
"My comfort is that old age, that ill layer-up of beauty, can do no more spoil upon my face. Thou hast me, if thou hast me, at the worst, and thou shalt wear me, if thou wear me, better and better."

-Henry of Monmouth, "Henry V", William Shakespeare

I has always loved this line. While it doesn't necessarily apply to me (I have never been called ugly, at least not to my knowledge), I like the idea that anyone who gets to know me will find that they like me more and more as time passes.

Bonus points for anyone for whom the Kenneth Branagh production of this play is their favorite. To this day, when I stumble onto the movie while flipping through channels, I stop what I am doing and watch the remainder of the movie.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
... why recently I am more interested in chatting with women who have high scores on both "Match" and "Enemy". It is almost like "Y'all got issues" is an aphrodisiac.
On a typical Friday night I am
... spending time with my kids.

When I don't have the boys, Fridays include getting out of the house for some cultural event [this should be read with faux stiff upper lip] or settling in for some low brow entertainment.

Oh, and dinner. Ideally, at a place that knows the value of butter or lard, isn't afraid of salt and doesn't take itself more seriously than the food it offers.
The two of us