a_neat_aesthete
27 Manhattan, United States
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My self-summary
Very much in a reclusive mode, chipping away at a couple projects that are really important to me and making ends meet. So sorry in advance if I'm a little distracted, don't be afraid to give me a little shake.

Looking for inspiration, adventure, community, and/or connection (including but not limited to the physical sort).

I have a lovely and talented partner (adversecamber) whom I occasionally meet people with, but I mostly fly solo. I'm also very close to my roommate and best friend (PennPaul). I'm polyamorous (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Polyamory). I definitely have time to meet new people, and develop new intimate relationships, but that time is limited; I'd like to think that I could be a wonderful addition to someone's life if they're not specifically looking for more than I'm available to give.

I believe in kindness over rightness. The people I find myself writing off as "stupid" tend to be people who are dogmatic to the point of not really being able to consider new information or perspectives. I'm kind of a Relativist, but I think more than anything, I believe in nuance. I try not to be too afraid of contradicting myself, because I think that a lot of truth settles in contradiction; also, sometimes I'm wrong.

I can be a somewhat abstract communicator. I love it when you like that!

I love to play. I revel in affection and love to give it to people that feel the same way. I could live most of my life either alone, or in some sort of cuddle puddle (anything in the middle makes me a little antsy to be honest).

People ask a lot about my preferred gender pronouns: I don't really have any. I identify as male bodied, and with a lot of characteristics culturally asigned to masculinity as well as feminity, so the androgyne label seems to fit. But I'm not very touchy about gender, and I'm very comfy in my body and expression. I think if there were gender neutral pronouns that felt natural to me within the language I would use them, but I have yet to find them (have any ideas?). I just kinda hate the idea of being referred to as a plurality or an object.

I can be somewhat shy and aloof, but then at other times I'm feisty and puckish. If you treat me with warmth and respect, you're just about sure to get that back in spades.

So go on, say hello!
What I’m doing with my life
I'm an artist. I work in music and narrative.

I'm also learning to tend bar.
I’m really good at
I'm a good actor and singer. I think I'm a pretty good writer. I work well with shapes and colors. And processes, I'm really good at picking up new crafting skills and doing them like I'm a pro (I pwn expertvillage)...

I think I make a pretty good cocktail. Working on building my range and style...

Ya... oh, I'm a good dancer! I love to dance. Do you?
I NEED A BOOGIE BUDDY SO BAD!
The first things people usually notice about me
uh...

My face?

That, or my clothes.

Maybe my hair. I don't really know.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Reads:
An Actor Prepares-Stanislavsky (so much more than acting instruction), Giovanni's Room-Baldwin, Anything by-Wilde or Albee (The Goat is AWESOME), Harry Potter is my childhood, Ragtime-Doctorow, Oh, The Places You'll Go!-Seuss and The Little Prince-Antoine de Saint-Exupéry pretty much shaped the base of my personality, Tennessee Williams' later absurdist plays, The Art of Happiness-His Holiness the Dalai Lama and Cutler.

Listens to:
Hot Chip!!!! (I reeeeaaally like Hot Chip), Yosi Horikawa, Iron and Wine, The Dirty Projectors, Regina Spektor, Feist, TV on the Radio, Ken Ishi, Rihanna (has brainwashed me), Unknown Mortal Orchestra, Little Dragon, Janelle Monae, The Books, Aphex Twin, The Police, The Beach Boys, Otis Redding, Queens of the Stone Age, Bob Dylan, Al Green, fucking Queen, Animal Collective of course, Beats Antique, Rage Against the Machine, Death Cab and The Postal Service (ya, I said it), Lauryn Hill hopefully this list never ends...
and the musical list:
Hello Again-Michael John LaChuisa (I groan in admiration), The Last Five Years-JRB, Caroline, Or Change-Kushner and Tesori, ,Parade-JRB, Adding Machine!!!!!, On the Town-Bernstein and Comden & Green or anything Bernstein has anything to do with. I'm also strting to like Weill quite a bit, I like Street Scene. Spring Awakening-Sheik, Ragtime-Flaherty and Ahrens
I think you get the point.

Eats:
I'm generally eating mostly for nutrients or mostly for comfort. So like, sauteed kale, and then Ben and Jerry's Core flavor ice cream.
I love French pastries; CROISSANTS!
salmon, duck, dried fruit, wine, and Belgian beer
Tennessee Sour Mash

I'm really on the front end of my movie exploration, but I love Me and You and Everyone We Know and I really love Chaplin. Anything by Chaplin. OMG The Circus. Kinda digging Keaton too. I thought College was hilarious. Life of Pi is a favorite, John Cameron Mitchel (though what I really love him for is the cast recording of Hello Again. Brilliant!) , Also:
Punch Drunk Love, East of Eden, My Beautiful Laundrette, Her is just like, the prettiest, or no, maybe The Danish Girl is prettier, Twelve Years a Slave is a new favorite, Trainspotting, Giant, Blancanieves and Who Are You Polly Magoo? has been invading my dreams so I guess it must have made an impact. And, I think Bridesmaids is my favorite comedic talkie.
The six things I could never do without
I wouldn't wanna do without:

A piano
A pen.
Time (quite a bit of it, I can be a bit of a tortoise).
Some sort of notation system (seriously, I have no short term memory).
Tea.
Wiki!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Psychology.
Dance.
Music.
Art.
Survival.
The anxiety of identifying with oppressed groups, and the stigma that goes with any expression of knowledge of being oppressed. And like, how to balance my political ideas with my humanist values/avoid the sort of tribal thinking that seems to be the root cause of so many of our species problems.
Power (power struggles make me uncomfortable, power play makes me horny, surprisingly fine line sometimes)
Theater.
Clothes. Fashion.
Gender.
Kink.
What the people walking by are thinking about or where they're coming from/going to, who they're coming from/going to. What those people are wearing and why that might be.
How to be happy.
Why I can't get myself to talk to that interesting looking person over there.
How to get that person to come talk to me.
Settings.
Seduction.
How to prioritize.
Ethics. Relationships.
The human soul, its possible existence, whether or not it's possible to prove scientifically...

and sex.
On a typical Friday night I am
Gosh, there's nothing typical about a Friday night...

I dunno. Depends.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I've been really into lace lately...

I don't hide much. If you want to know something, ask me.
You should message me if
If you feel like it, I'm super harmless, really.

If you're the techno-glam-soul producer collaborator of my dreams...

You want to take photos of me.

You want to go dancing! Like, late at night or on a Tuesday.

If you find my self summary more charming and quirky than awkward and obtuse.

If you consider yourself to be a pragmatist.

I'm definitely welcoming new friends, so please don't be afraid to say hello if you think we'd get along well. Open to all bodies and orientations as long as you are respectful and kind (yes, I'm looking at you "straight" man).
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