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My self-summary
Looking for inspiration, adventure, community, and/or connection (including but not limited to the physical sort).

Currently a little banged up in the heart area, not really looking to rush into anything too serious. Definitely hoping to start as friends (we're learning...).

I'm polyamorous (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Polyamory), but not very promiscuous. I find familiarity really sexy.

I believe in kindness over rightness. I'm most attracted to minds that are comfortable in that in-between place where you set your convictions aside a little and consider how another truth may exist (even if only to better relate to someone whom you ultimately end up disagreeing with). I'm sort of a Relativist, but I think more than anything, I just believe in nuance. I try not to be too afraid of contradicting myself, because I think that a lot of truth settles in contradiction; also, sometimes I'm wrong.

I can be a somewhat abstract communicator. I love it when you like that!

I love to play. I revel in affection and love to give it to people who feel the same way. I could live most of my life either alone, or in some sort of cuddle puddle (anything in the middle makes me a little antsy to be honest).

Communication is extremely important to me. I think I'm pretty good at accepting people's truths graciously, but I'm terrible at accepting withdrawal and stonewalling (because really, who likes that?). I'd honestly much prefer a drop down drag out fight to some passive aggressive battle of wills. If you might consider describing yourself as cold, please do us both a favor and look elsewhere (I'll try to make that my only ultimatum).

People ask about my preferred gender pronouns: I don't really have any. I identify as male bodied, and with a lot of characteristics culturally assigned to femininity as well as masculinity, so the androgyne label seems to fit. But I'm pretty fluid, and not very touchy about gender. I'm generally pretty comfortable in my body and expression (though I have come up against some aggression lately that's made me maybe a bit more skiddish than I would like. I'm working on it). I think if there were gender neutral pronouns that felt natural to me within the language I would use them, but I have yet to find them.

I can be somewhat shy and aloof, but then at other times I'm feisty and puckish. If you treat me with warmth and respect, you're just about sure to get that back in spades.

So go on, say hello...
What I’m doing with my life
I'm an artist. I work in music and narrative.

Working odd jobs.

Licking my wounds...
I’m really good at
I'm a good actor and singer. I think I'm a pretty good writer. I work well with shapes and colors. And processes, I'm really good at picking up new crafting skills and doing them like I'm a pro (I pwn expertvillage)...

I think I make a pretty good cocktail. Working on building my range and style...

Ya... oh, I'm a good dancer! I love to dance. Do you?
The first things people usually notice about me

My face?

That, or my clothes (or like, my height... Oh wait, it's the heels).

Maybe my hair: It's curly, which is I guess surprising to some people? I don't really know.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
An Actor Prepares-Stanislavsky (so much more than acting instruction), Giovanni's Room-Baldwin, Anything by-Wilde or Albee (The Goat is AWESOME), Harry Potter is my childhood, Ragtime-Doctorow, Oh, The Places You'll Go!-Seuss and The Little Prince-Antoine de Saint-Exupéry pretty much shaped the base of my personality, Tennessee Williams' later absurdist plays, The Art of Happiness-His Holiness the Dalai Lama and Cutler.

Listens to:
Sam Cooke, Hot Chip!!!! (I reeeeaaally like Hot Chip), Yosi Horikawa, The Books, Iron and Wine, The Dirty Projectors, Regina Spektor, Feist, TV on the Radio, Ken Ishi, Rihanna (has brainwashed me), Unknown Mortal Orchestra, Little Dragon, Janelle Monae, Aphex Twin, The Police, The Beach Boys, Otis Redding, Queens of the Stone Age, Bob Dylan, Al Green, fucking Queen, Animal Collective of course, Beats Antique, Rage Against the Machine, Death Cab and The Postal Service (ya, I said it), Lauryn Hill hopefully this list never ends...
and the musical list:
Hello Again-Michael John LaChuisa (I groan in admiration), The Last Five Years-JRB, Caroline, Or Change-Kushner and Tesori, ,Parade-JRB, Adding Machine!!!!!, On the Town-Bernstein and Comden & Green or anything Bernstein has anything to do with. I'm also starting to like Weill quite a bit, I like Street Scene. Spring Awakening-Sheik, Ragtime-Flaherty and Ahrens
I think you get the point.

I'm generally eating mostly for nutrients or mostly for comfort. So like, sauteed kale, and then Ben and Jerry's Core flavor ice cream.
I love French pastries; CROISSANTS!
salmon, duck, dried fruit, wine, and Belgian beer
Tennessee Sour Mash

I'm really on the front end of my movie exploration, but I love Me and You and Everyone We Know and I really love Chaplin. Anything by Chaplin. OMG The Circus. Kinda digging Keaton too. I thought College was hilarious. Life of Pi is a favorite, John Cameron Mitchel (though what I really love him for is the cast recording of Hello Again. Brilliant!) , Lars and the Real Girl (I miss Gosling so much), Also:
Punch Drunk Love, East of Eden, My Beautiful Laundrette, Her is just like, the prettiest, or no, maybe The Danish Girl is prettier, Moonlight is a new favorite, Trainspotting, Giant, The Conformist, Blancanieves, and Who Are You Polly Magoo? has been invading my dreams so I guess it must have made an impact. I think Bridesmaids is my favorite comedic talkie.
Six things I could never do without
I wouldn't wanna do without:

A piano
A pen.
Time (quite a bit of it, I can be a bit of a tortoise).
Some sort of notation system (seriously, I have no short term memory).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The anxiety of identifying with oppressed groups, and the stigma that goes with any expression of knowledge of being oppressed. And like, how to balance my political ideas with my humanist values/avoid the sort of tribal thinking that seems to be the root cause of so many of our species problems.
Power (power struggles make me uncomfortable, power play makes me horny, surprisingly fine line sometimes)
Clothes. Fashion.
What the people walking by are thinking about or where they're coming from/going to, who they're coming from/going to. What those people are wearing and why that might be.
How to be happy.
Why I can't get myself to talk to that interesting looking person over there.
How to get that person to come talk to me.
How to prioritize.
Ethics. Relationships.
The human soul, its possible existence, whether or not it's possible to prove scientifically...

and sex.
On a typical Friday night I am
Gosh, there's nothing typical about a Friday night...

I dunno. Depends.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I've been really into lace lately...

I don't hide much. If you want to know something, ask me.

Also: http://bdsmtest.org/result.php?id=4556674
You should message me if
If you feel like it, I'm super harmless, really.

If you're the techno-glam-soul producer collaborator of my dreams...

You want to take photos of me.

You want to go dancing! Like, late at night or on a Tuesday.

If you find my self summary more charming and quirky than awkward and obtuse.

If you consider yourself to be a pragmatist.

I'm definitely welcoming new friends, so please don't be afraid to say hello if you think we'd get along well. Open to all bodies and orientations as long as you are respectful and kind (yes, I'm looking at you "straight" man).
The two of us