abitofwit
35 Green Bay, United States
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My self-summary
QUICKMATCH NOTICE: My profile name is 'abitofwit' in case you want to drop me a message instead of just an anonymous like. I do indeed use the quickmatch system myself, though, so there's always the possibility of a mutual thing... but odds are that I won't initiate contact. Due to not wanting to be a bothersome creep I don't pursue people who don't express interest; I'm ridiculously affectionate toward those I connect with.

Can you summarize a sunrise,
or quantify a dream?
Explaining what lies behind these eyes
is a snapshot of a flowing stream.

I am pansexual. This means that sex and gender are irrelevant in determining who I am attracted to. I am drawn to personalities, meaning that you will need to be an effective communicator to give me a sense of who you are. Just because I don't care where a person lies on the gender spectrum doesn't mean I run about banging every body I can, though. I believe in putting EFFORT into that which I pursue and am utterly unimpressed by people who half-ass things. Either do it with all of your whole ass or don't do it at all.

I embody a mix of traits which may initially seem contradictory, but it all makes sense once you know the detailed nuance of my thought processes. Still looking for someone interested in sticking around long enough to FULLY "get me." I appreciate the temporary nature of existence, the infinite expanse of the mind, and the irony of culture being the process by which those truths are rebuked. I'm a geek in that I'm into the science, geometry, and philosophy of life and experiences - but my interests run the gamut from technology and gaming to the outdoors and building/repairing things. I'll arm wrestle someone and during the match explain to them the principles of leverage I'm using to exhaust their ATP stores. I love to fish because I understand how the brain of a fish processes information and therefore am great at hunting them. And of course I do more traditionally nerdy things like hacking my cell phone to make it run an entire week without needing a charge. I have an instinctual drive to determine how systems operate and improve methodologies to achieve better results.
What I’m doing with my life
Swearing I'll never allow myself to be hurt again and failing to make that ideal a reality, sadly, but growing stronger with each difficulty I overcome. Nonetheless, I refuse to give up on the notion that there is someone - or perhaps multiple someones - out there who want to make me their very own and will not harm me. At least, not in ways I don't consent to ;)

I live by a modified code of bushido. Frugality, loyalty, mental acuity, physical fitness, and the "warrior spirit" (which I embody in an entirely nonviolent way) are guiding principles in my life. All things in moderation, of course... so I still indulge in drunken shenanigans from time to time. I'm responsible about it though.

I'm perpetually trying to expand my knowledge and abilities. I'm not big on structured education, but if I'm interested in something I will independently research it until I have a master-level understanding. As a result I am a wealth of random facts on a wide variety of topics and can intuit the details of individual processes at work in complex systems.

I'm looking for the inspiration for my next quest. I was one of those kids who knew exactly what I wanted to do with my life. I tried it and loved it, but some adventures simply run their course and then it's time to move on to something else. My range of interests is diverse to say the least, so at the moment I'm simply trying to survive the time spent between chasing dreams :)
I’m really good at
That which I set my mind to.
The first things people usually notice about me
My presence.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I cook basically all my own meals so my favorite foods are alternatively something I make with/for someone else, or a meal I didn't have to make. Anything with garlic, green peppers, and mushrooms is an awesome dish in my opinion.

I'm more into active & interactive entertainment than passive, though I have a profound appreciation for not being bored regardless of how. My favorite films are those which distract me from the thoughts of what else I could be doing. Death Proof, Princess Mononoke, 2001: A Space Odyssey, and Kung Pow: Enter the Fist are films I could watch again and again and again and again.

Dense crowds of people put me into danger awareness mode so hanging out up front of large live shows is generally out, although I know a fair amount of musicians and love listening to friends jam. Less-crowded venues are great. Insofar as TELEVISION shows are concerned, "Off the Air" is probably the greatest series I've ever seen. "Wilfred," "Legit," and "It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia" are also great.

I enjoy a very wide range of music from classical to electronica, punk to Hmong traditional. You'd have to ask me what some of my favorites are in a specific genre for me to really narrow it down to anything approaching practical to communicate. As of this writing some of my daily listening includes things like "Breathe Deep" by Last Day's Pay, "Ride Bikes Drink Beer Get Awesome" by Beer Burglars, "Pad Fukkk" by Thriftworks, "In My Right Mind" by Paper Diamond, "Sabotage" by Beastie Boys, and "Stick 'em Up" by TIGT.

My favorite book, hands down, is Richard Bach's "Illusions" - I would do ridiculously obscene things to procure a signed copy.
The six things I could never do without
Humor
Freedom*
Curiosity
Insight
Determination
Love

The asterisk is incredibly important.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How eloquently stated. It's a shame okcupid forgot a period at the end.
On a typical Friday night I am
Sunday-Thursday is when my week is most exciting; Friday is my day to be a boring person. I'm not into hanging out among large groups of people and I work at 6AM on Saturday. Usually I'll hit the gym for a couple hours, make dinner, and horse around on the internet before going to bed.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm a pretty open book. Here's a few private things:

I had a five(ish) year stretch where I was BIG into psychedelic mushrooms. During this period I separated my life from the notion of time and spent thousands of years expanding and exploring my mind. I haven't been interested in drugs for a number of years and might never be again - with the occasional exception of 420'ing with friends - but the insights and enlightenment I gained from my experiences with psychedelics are significant influences on the type of person I am and my understanding of existence. Drugs don't define who I am as a person, but the perspectives achieved via their use had a significant hand in making me a kinder human being.

My bed is a hammock. Or, is a hammock my bed? In either case, I sleep more soundly in it than I ever did on a mattress. It's a parachute material that wraps around me when I lay in it, so I'm basically being the little spoon all night and OMG is it comforting.

I have ADD - not ADHD. This means when I'm not mentally stimulated I tend to doze off rather than get fidgety. That is, when I'm not medicated... I am currently keeping up on my prescription and as such am a wellspring of vitality and endurance in virtually any sense.

Despite being confident in general, I'm rather shy about my attractions and have only once in my entire life taken the initiative to ask someone out. I am completely swept off my feet by assertive people who approach me and express interest, but I am not at all attracted to those who don't seem attracted to me.

I'm into Domination/Submission to varying degrees depending on the chemistry I share with a partner. My preference is for CARING/SUPPORTIVE interactions and I'm not into degradation/humiliation/emotional abuse/belittlement/dehumanization/etc. I identify myself as a strong submissive with switch potential. Outside of the connection I share with a dominant, I'm assertive and prone to being in control of situations. Inside of that connection, I find safety and comfort in surrendering entirely to the authority of my partner. There's a beautiful, peaceful place inside me that I can only frolic freely within when someone else holds watch over the gate. If/when I'm in the dominant role I seek a strong submissive who is communicative of their limits and urges, enjoys being treasured, and who strives to be obedient to a master whose intent is to drive them wild with desire.
You should message me if
You're honest. I don't want to waste my time dealing with a false front while someone tries to hide their shit side. You should prefer to be rejected for who you are rather than strive to be accepted for who you're not. You don't need a personality that's loud or extreme or in-your-face... but you shouldn't be ashamed of yourself. I'm very accepting and non-judgmental, and appreciate that people can change for the better. Go ahead, lead with that potentially dealbreaking information. Worst case scenario is that it makes the search for compatible partners easier for everyone ;P

You're not riddled with self-resentment. I find a strong self-awareness to be an attractive trait, but if you're going to constantly evaluate yourself I really prefer a person who draws mostly positive conclusions.

You're about being strong. When people I care about get down in the dumps I remind them that they're awesome and being a sadsack is a waste of time. And I need the same thing from the people I associate with when I get into my occasional funk. Not a shoulder to cry on... a helping hand to get up and running again.

You're an adventurous adventuress seeking an adventuresome adventurer, but more importantly you also appreciate the rest of the time. A ski trip to Utah or a spur-of-the-moment 2AM bike ride is great fun, but the fact of the matter is that it's just as important to be satisfied spending ordinary time together doing mundane things... because that's the majority of life.

If you want to do the nutrition and fitness thing - cooking and/or hitting the gym together - move to the front of the line. I'm in desperate want of more consistency in these pursuits and having a partner would definitely accomplish that.
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