abitofwit
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My self-summary
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Can you summarize a sunrise,
or quantify a dream?
To tell what lies behind these eyes
is a picture of a flowing stream.

I embody an ever-evolving mix of traits which may initially seem contradictory, but it all makes sense once you know the detailed nuance of my thought processes. This results in me being an extremely difficult person to summarize adequately. I appreciate the temporary nature of existence, the infinite expanse of the mind, and the irony of culture being the process by which those truths are rebuked. I'm a geek in that I'm into the science, geometry, and philosophy of life and experiences - but my interests run the gamut from technology and gaming to the outdoors and physical fitness. I have an instinctual drive to determine how systems operate and improve methodologies to achieve better results.

I'm the romantic, affectionate, nurturing type when I've grown attached to someone... but I also enjoy my time alone. Due to a general distaste for disposable consumerism I'm rather at odds with American culture. I find myself a bit lonely which is why I have a profile here, but I'm not looking for "just anyone" to hang out with.

I've got my shit together at any given time, and my retirement finances have been in order for well over a decade now, but if you ask me where I'll be in two years time... I'll be damned if I know. I thrive in structured environments but treasure spontaneity and adventure, so we'll see what unfolds as those two factors attempt to coexist in my life!
What I’m doing with my life
I live by a modified code of bushido. Frugality, integrity, loyalty, mental acuity, physical fitness, and the "warrior spirit" (which I embody in an entirely nonviolent way) are guiding principles in my life. All things in moderation, of course... so I still indulge in drunken shenanigans at ridiculous hours from time to time. Yeah, I'm that guy blasting through the parks and streets on a mountain bike at 2AM.

I'm perpetually trying to expand my knowledge and abilities. I'm not big on structured education, but if I'm interested in something I will independently research it until I have a master-level understanding. As a result I am a wealth of random facts on a wide variety of topics and can intuit the details of individual processes at work in complex systems.

I started a job operating a high-speed wire cutting machine in April 2017. No worries, I'm deft and assure you I'll be keeping all my fingers. I'm not married to my work or driven to pursue money/materialism, but I find it fascinating to operate/maintain a complex machine.

I'm always seeking the inspiration for my next quest. I was one of those kids who knew exactly what I wanted to do with my life. I tried it and loved it, but some adventures simply run their course and then it's time to move on to something else. My range of interests is diverse to say the least, so at the moment I'm simply trying to survive the time spent between chasing dreams :)

Trying to find a balance between being fed up entirely with humanity to the point where I don't want to deal with anyone ever again, and wanting to help every single person and the world at large.

Going to the gym daily off-and-on for about half the months out of the year to maintain a conditioning level adequate to defend myself against a flock of 100 crazed birds. Currently I can handle ducks and am working toward geese. The eventual goal is emus or ostriches... maybe even cassowaries if I can manage a SOLID year of daily gymming. The search for a gym partner is ongoing.
I’m really good at
That which I set my mind to.

Being diverse.

Jamming a compiled yet partial list of interests into a space that is perhaps inappropriate:

chess, writing, cycling, cooking, rafting, camping, skiing, skiboarding, outdoors, technology, adventure, hygiene, fishing, hiking, humor, independence, activities, mischief, geekery, cribbage, gaming, chemistry, sports, design, DIY, repair, science, philosophy, fitness, sustainability, fire, swimming, wit, badminton, LFA & FLR, kink, BDSM, D/s (and D/S), mindlicking, hacking, organic relationship development, water, snow, efficiency, Halloween, 420
The first things people usually notice about me
My presence.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I cook basically all my own meals so my favorite foods are alternatively something I make with/for someone else, or a meal I didn't have to make. Anything with garlic, green peppers, and mushrooms is an awesome dish in my opinion. Also, ICE CREAM!

I'm more into active & interactive entertainment than passive, though I have a profound appreciation for not being bored regardless of how. My favorite films are those which distract me from the thoughts of what else I could be doing. Death Proof, Princess Mononoke, 2001: A Space Odyssey, and Kung Pow: Enter the Fist are films I could watch again and again and again and again.

Dense crowds of people put me into danger awareness mode so hanging out up front of large live shows is generally out, although I know a fair amount of musicians and love listening to friends jam. Less-crowded venues are great. Insofar as TELEVISION shows are concerned, "Off the Air" is probably the greatest series I've ever seen. "Wilfred," "Legit," and "It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia" are also superb. "The Walking Dead" is as close to soap operas as I come. "Ninja Slayer" and "Cowboy Bebop" are two of my favorite anime series.

I enjoy a very wide range of music from classical to electronica, punk to Hmong traditional. You'd have to ask me what some of my favorites are in a specific genre for me to really narrow it down to anything approaching practical to communicate. As of this writing a small sampling of some of my regular listening (and/or singing) includes things like "Never Get Ahead" by Bobby Conn, "Mars, the Bringer of War" by Gustav Holst, "Breathe Deep" by Last Day's Pay, "Boredom" by The Drones, "Ride Bikes Drink Beer Get Awesome" by Beer Burglars, "Pad Fukkk" by Thriftworks, "In My Right Mind" by Paper Diamond, "Sabotage" by Beastie Boys, "Stick 'em Up" by TIGT, "Hug Rock" by Tartar Control, "Rebel Girl" by Bikini Kill, "Sept" by Pleymo, "When I Was Done Dying" by Dan Deacon, and Rage Against the Machine's version of "Maggie's Farm." A casual playlist for me can easily exceed 1500 songs.

My favorite book, hands down, is Richard Bach's "Illusions" - I would do ridiculously obscene things to procure a signed copy.
Six things I could never do without
Humor
Freedom*
Curiosity
Insight
Determination
Love

The asterisk is incredibly important, but perhaps doesn't mean what you think it does - a keen mind is aware of the difference between intent and interpretation.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How eloquently stated. It's a shame okcupid forgot a period at the end.
On a typical Friday night I am
I currently don't have a "typical" Friday night. No work until Monday afternoon means it's the start of adventure time!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm a pretty open book. Here's a few private things:

I had a five(ish) year stretch where I was BIG into psychedelic mushrooms. During this period I separated my life from the notion of time and spent thousands of years expanding and exploring my mind. I haven't been interested in drugs for a number of years and might never be again - with the occasional exception of 420'ing with friends - but the insights and enlightenment I gained from my experiences with psychedelics are significant influences on the type of person I am and my understanding of existence. Drugs don't define who I am as a person, but the perspectives achieved via their use had a significant hand in making me a better human being.

My bed is a hammock. Or, is a hammock my bed? In either case, I sleep more soundly in it than I ever did on a mattress. It's a parachute material that wraps around me when I lie in it, so I'm basically being the little spoon all night and OMG is it comforting.

I am completely swept off my feet by assertive people who approach me and express interest, but I am not at all attracted to those who don't demonstrate attraction toward me. I'm plenty confident and feel that I "complete" myself; I have only ever asked someone out once in my life and don't go around hitting on people. It's an exceedingly rare thing for me to even initiate a conversation with someone I'm interested in dating.
You should message me if
You're competent, capable, confident, compassionate, and conscientious.

You're honest. I don't want to waste my time dealing with a false front while someone tries to hide their shit side. You should prefer to be rejected for who you are rather than strive to be accepted for who you're not. You don't need a personality that's loud or extreme or in-your-face... but you shouldn't be ashamed of yourself. I'm very accepting and non-judgmental, and appreciate that people can change for the better. Go ahead, lead with that potentially dealbreaking information. Worst case scenario is that it makes the search for compatible partners easier for everyone ;P

You're not riddled with self-resentment. I find a strong self-awareness to be an attractive trait, but if you're going to constantly evaluate yourself I really prefer a person who draws mostly positive conclusions.

You're an adventurous adventuress seeking an adventuresome adventurer, but more importantly you also appreciate the rest of the time. A ski trip to Utah or a spur-of-the-moment 2AM bike ride is great fun, but the fact of the matter is that it's just as important to be satisfied spending ordinary time together doing mundane things... because that's the majority of life.

If you want to do the nutrition and fitness thing - cooking and/or hitting the gym together - move to the front of the line. I'm in desperate want of more consistency in these pursuits and having a partner would definitely accomplish that.
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