What I'm looking for: someone who is both nerdy and physical (like me) who loves simple pleasures, and isn't too cool for puns. Someone with a good healthy drive who is authentic, self-directed, sensual, and warm. He's balanced, he's playful, he's had great relationships before, and any personality similarities with Dale Cooper (Twin Peaks) are a plus :)
The harder part: emotional guts are key. I go for someone who's open/brave with himself and able to share. In my best relationships we could diffuse things as they came up: be open with what we think/feel and with what triggers us, get in each other's shoes, and understand it together. Not in a touchy-feely-24/7 way, just honest and direct- it feels awesome to me. I want that again, so I'm looking for someone who's up for that sort of thing, patient, knows himself reasonably well (and still learning), and is comfortable being open with what he finds.
In terms of seriousness, I'm ready. I've had wonderful relationships and learned a lot, and now I'm looking for the fella who may be my husband. I'm not interested in rushing anything along (it'll be the most important decision of my life), but just for context that's where my mindset is. (Not looking to just 'have a good time' or date casually if it's not an especially promising match).
PS: If you're gracious enough to email and say hello, tell me your favorite desserts- it appeals to my sweet tooth and also tells me you're a profile-reader :)
Favorite TV shows: I live under a rock and haven't watched any of the shows everyone tells me I need to watch- but sometimes I get there years later when nobody wants to talk about them anymore. My favorites have been 30 Rock, Twin Peaks, and Arrested Development (all watched after the fact). The one recent exception that I get to enjoy with everyone else: Stranger Things, so good! Otherwise, I see a lot of PBS NewsHour & So You Think You Can Dance, and I'll willingly admit that I used to watch Jersey Shore (yes I have no shame)- I don't leave a lot of actual time for tv, but when the desire strikes there's enjoyable stuff all over the spectrum.
Books: my reading list can be pretty schizophrenic, but the non-fiction stuff I gravitate toward usually involves biology/evolution/health, and the fiction I like best has well-developed characters/dialogue/mood. I just finished a book about neuroplasticity- that stuff is bonkers- and the Secret History of Twin Peaks on audiobook. Next up is The Gene: An Intimate History.
music & dancing
time to myself
hugs & kisses & that kinda thing
Note: in an effort to fit the online dating stuff into my life gracefully, I give it a limited amount of time. So I can't reply to every message, but I truly wish everyone the best of luck out here in the trenches- may we all find our best partner and be done with these sites forever!