69Eugene, United States
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My self-summary
I'm a kind, happy, loyal, open-minded, self-reliant guy who truly appreciates friendships and relationships and the affection, intimacy, understanding and acceptance that goes along with them. I try to live a life of kindness and compassion, doing my best not to cause harm, and stepping up when I can be helpful...leaving as light a footprint as possible on this beautiful planet. I appreciate open, honest, caring communication and revel in thoughtful, intimate conversation. I actively focus on a healthy lifestyle (physical, mental, emotional and spiritual) and daily engage in activities that support and encourage that, including eating healthy, exercising/working out, time outdoors in nature (walking, hiking, biking, skating, rafting....), sharing thoughts with dear friends, a little solitude, a little meditation and a sense of humor. Who'd have thought that this part of life, the "later" part, with some wisdom and compassion and resources, would likely be the sweetest, and maybe deliriously so....
About drugs...I take no prescription medications, but love my morning coffee, dark chocolate, and an evening glass of red wine....for the lovely tastes, the delightful endorphins and the health benefits.
Finally, I am an egalitarian and a life-long feminist...and have no acceptance or tolerance of racism, sexism or elitism. Life is too sweet and too dear. My Golden Rule: "Kindness is always an option."
What I’m doing with my life
Having invested wisely, my time is my own and gets spent being with friends, being outside, taking good care of my health, volunteering, reading, writing, being joyful, thoughtful, humorous and always thankful. It would be lovely to share that with a like spirited, open-hearted and accepting partner.
I’m really good at
Listening, learning, thoughtful conversation, passion and compassion, contentment, simplicity, touching, laughing, living in the moment and hopefully, self-awareness.
I'm not too bad at working with my hands, designing and creating living spaces, fixing stuff, cooking healthy, hand/foot/back rubs, living an intentional and creative lifestyle and being helpful.
The first things people usually notice about me
I think maybe my eyes and my smile, and then an open, friendly, attentive and curious attitude.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Thoreau's Walden, Four Agreements (and anything else by Don Miguel Ruiz), anything by The Dali Lama or Sharon Salzberg (Lovingkindness), All About Love by Bell Hooks, Quiet by Susan Cain, Blink by Malcolm Gladwell, anything by Barry Lopez.... As for fiction, Barbara Kingsolver, Patrick O'Brian, James Baldwin, and a long list of others....
Movies: I love good films and good story-telling, particularly character-driven stories about caring people with good values triumphing over adversity (Out of Africa, Good Will Hunting, The Contender, Dances With Wolves, Philadelphia, Searching for Sugar Man, and more recently Spotlight, The Martian, Captain Fantastic, Moonlight, Eagle many lovely stories to be told).
TV: I don't find most commercial television particularly interesting, but there are incredible, moving and visually stunning documentaries currently available (PBS), opening our eyes to ourselves and our planet...and relating some moving human stories and some amazing science.
Music: I appreciate all kinds, but lean towards melodic rock, reggae, dance music and distinctly mellifluous voices: right now...Sam Smith, David Gray, Sade, Sarah McLachlan, Alpha Blondy...and lovely older stuff... Cat Stevens, George Harrison, Bob Marley, Al Green, Peter Tosh, Annie Lennox, Billy Ocean....
Food: Anything healthy and tasty. I lean towards Asian and vegetarian, but rarely find myself saying "I can't eat that" to anything a friend takes the time and thoughtfulness to prepare.
Six things I could never do without
1. Dear friends: the loveliest part of my simple, happy life.
2. Intimacy: conversational, emotional, intellectual and physical.
3. Nature: in all its grandeur, power, wonder and restorative beauty.
4. Sensuality: things that look, smell, sound, taste and feel exquisite.
5. Curiosity: to try to understand what this life is all about...and to ask what it all feels like to you.
6. Unstructured free time: to pursue and delight in 1 thru 5 at a moment's notice...and throughout the day.
(I didn't include Humor...because like air and food and water, it's obviously essential to life.)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to be more kind, thoughtful, understanding, accepting, generous, open, funny, loving....and at peace.
On a typical Friday night I am
Smiling...and likely cooking, getting ready to read or watch a good story, or making dinner for a friend(s) to trade stories over. And then there are moon rises, summer evening walks, some music, a glass of Cabernet, intimate conversation, some stargazing, some snuggling....
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Just about anything. While I appreciate confidences, I keep very few secrets and cherish sharing the most private and intimate thoughts and feelings with those who won't judge and are curious.
You should message me if
You're excited about having a friend/partner who accepts and appreciates you for who you are, and who is kind, honest, loyal, attentive, and appreciates your company. You're open-hearted and open-minded, you appreciate a thoughtful lifestyle, and you're content, healthy, communicative and lovely to be with. And, you're not put off by someone who is joyful, content, expressive and grateful.

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