68 Eugene, United States
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My self-summary
I'm a kind, happy, loyal, open-minded, self-reliant guy who truly appreciates friendships and relationships and the affection, intimacy, understanding and acceptance that goes along with them. I do my best to live a life of kindness and compassion, every day trying not to cause harm and doing what I can to be helpful, leaving as light a footprint as possible on this lovely planet. I appreciate open, honest, caring communication and revel in thoughtful, intimate conversation. I actively focus on a healthy lifestyle (physical, mental, emotional and spiritual) and daily engage in activities that support and encourage that, including great food, exercise, time outdoors in nature, close time with dear friends, a little solitude, a little meditation, an abundance of gratitude and an active sense of humor. It is such a delight discovering that this part of life, with wisdom and compassion and resources, will likely be the sweetest part, and maybe deliriously so....
By the way...about Drugs: "Sometimes" over on the right...I take NO prescription pharmaceuticals, but love my morning coffee, my daily dark chocolate and an occasional evening glass of red wine.... for the lovely taste experiences, the delightful endorphins and the fortunate health benefits.
What I’m doing with my life
Fortunately, I'm retired so my time is my own, and gets spent being with friends, being outside, taking good care of my health, volunteering, reading, writing, being joyful, generous, thoughtful, funny, and always grateful. It would be lovely to share that with a like-minded, open-hearted, accepting and available partner.
I’m really good at
Listening, learning, passion and compassion, thoughtful conversation, empathy, happiness, simplicity, touching, laughing, living in the moment and hopefully, self-awareness.
I'm pretty good at writing, designing and creating living spaces, building and fixing stuff, cooking healthy, living a creative lifestyle, being resourceful and being helpful.
The first things people usually notice about me
I think my eyes and my smile, and then an open, friendly, attentive and accepting attitude.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Thoreau's Walden, Four Agreements (and anything else by Don Miguel Ruiz), anything by Pema Chodren, Quiet by Susan Cain, All About Love by Bell Hooks, Blink by Malcolm Gladwell, the list goes on....
Movies: I love films and story-telling, particularly character-driven stories about competent people with good values triumphing over adversity (Out of Africa, Good Will Hunting, The Contender, Working Girl, Dances With Wolves, Philadelphia, Searching for Sugar many lovely stories to be told...)
TV: not much commercial television, but there are incredible and visually stunning documentaries currently out there.
Music: What a lovely aspect of life. I like all kinds, but lean towards melodic rock, reggae, dance music and coincidentally, love songs: right now...Sam Smith, David Gray, Sarah McLachlan, Sade, Alpha Blondy...and lovely older stuff... Cat Stevens, George Harrison, Al Green, Billy Ocean, Peter Tosh....
Food: Anything healthy and tasty. I lean towards Asian and mostly vegetarian, but appreciate anything someone takes the time and care to prepare for me.
The six things I could never do without
Dear friends: the loveliest part of my joyful life.
Intimacy: conversational, emotional, intellectual and physical.
Nature: in all its grandeur, power, wonder and restorative beauty.
Sensuality: things that look, taste, smell, sound and feel exquisite.
Curiosity: the desire to find out what all this is really all about.
Free Time: to pursue and delight in 1 thru 5 as much as I can stand....
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to be sweet, kind, thoughtful, understanding, accepting, generous, open, funny, loving....and at peace.
On a typical Friday night I am
Likely cooking dinner, getting ready to read or watch a good story, or making dinner for a friend or friends and some lovely sharing. And then there's Artwalk, summer evening strolls, a glass of Cabernet, intimate conversation, some dancing, some stargazing, some snuggling....
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Just about anything. While I appreciate confidences, I hold no secrets and cherish sharing the most private and intimate thoughts and feelings with those who won't judge and are curious. I think it's what we're here for; to love...and then to share what this life feels like to each other.
You should message me if
You're excited about having a friend/partner who accepts and appreciates you for who you are, and who is kind, honest, loyal, attentive, and delights in your company. You're compassionate, open-hearted and open-minded, you appreciate a thoughtful and intentional lifestyle, and you're happy, healthy, communicative, fun to be with, love to laugh and enjoy a warm snuggle. Plus, you're not put off by someone whose happy, content, grateful and expressive.
And let's not forget a sense of humor and a healthy curiosity, which are always very attractive and great fun....