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My self-summary
Me, in as small a nutshell as I can manage: Grew up in LA, did stints in Ithaca (with a smattering of NYC in there), San Francisco and now DC. I am very calm under fire, and a protector by nature. I have friends of over 30 years, I lend ingredients to the señora two floors down to make oatmeal raisin cookies, and laugh at children doing silly things in the park. I was honored to give the toast at my parents' 50th wedding anniversary and quoted Neruda and Rumi when talking about love. They taught me to be a strong spirit and raised me right. Familia is critically important to me. I have an old soul, and am proud of it.
I know everyone says they are "easy going" on here, but I'm Latino--we do passion! I am passionate about many things: science, art, literature, music. Most of all, I'm passionate about being a good Single Dad to my 8 year-old little girl. I am extremely proud and protective of her, and am teaching her to be as strong as the rest of the women in my familia. She is with me half the time, and is my everything. (To be very upfront about this: my little girl has a mother who I get along very well with and will not be replaced. I am looking for someone for me, not a new mother for her and you have to get in pretty deep before you will ever interact with the offspring.)
I'm not perfect, but like to think that someone doesn't have to be perfect for the world--they just have to fit. Like Dr. Seuss said: "we are all a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love." I don't just float through life--I try and actually live it. Come have an adventure with me.
What I’m doing with my life
Scientists of the world--unite!

I'm not a lawyer, nor do I work for a non-profit…shocking, I know. (I do work for the gub'ment, though.) I am a senior research scientist at the NIH and very much enjoy being on the bench doing experiments. I was told once that I should write down my stories from the lab as a sitcom a la "The Office." That's the kind of quirky characters I work with. Never a dull moment.

This is my lab in a nutshell: Upturned Microscope pretty much sums up my lab life and the wackos in it.
I’m really good at
Being a good Single Dad. Cooking; photography; playing most woodwinds (have 2 clarinets, an oboe and a bassoon in my house right now that are getting a workout); UNO.
I can weave a good tale, complete with embellished bad accents, hand and arm waving, and a lot of enthusiasm.
The first things people usually notice about me
My eyes, or so I've been told. It's the eyelashes.

I actually think people hear me before they see me...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
In the past I wrote waaaaay too much here, so I am going to parse this down to talking points as best I can.

Books: I enjoy them. My library card gets a workout. Fiction, WWII non-fiction, Sci-Fi, mystery, and even some graphic novels. Currently have a few books in rotation.

Movies and TV: I watch them, although not all that much. Walking Dead, Doctor Who, Big Bang Theory come to mind for TV. Movies lean to old B&W's from the 40's and 50's, especially noir. I do love a good summer blockbuster. Bonus points for liking Mel Brooks and Eddie Izzard. Oh, and I can integrate a Simpsons quote into most any conversation.

Shows can mean so many things: Love the symphony, opera and live jazz. I need some Shakespeare in my life.

Music: This is all over the place. Jazz and classical are top priorities. Rap and Hip-hop, but only prior to 2001. A singer with soul always resonates with me. I want to hear that growl in their hearts. My little girl's last playlist I put together for her consisted of Sam Cooke, Stevie Wonder, Janelle Monáe, Barenaked Ladies, Norah Jones, Jesse y Joy and Bruno Mars. And Vivaldi's Four Seasons. All over the place indeed. (Oh, and I'm digging Postmodern Jukebox right now. Check them out if you haven't.)

Food: I eat. Nothing stops me, except maybe mushrooms. If you can cook Mexican you will win my heart (and the respect of my Mother).
Six things I could never do without
The laughter of my little girl
Music--both playing and listening
My Timbuk2--it's like Felix's Bag of Tricks--with my camera, passport and a good flashlight
Sunshine and the smell of the ocean (I am from Califas, after all)
A good pair of running shoes
Memories of old friends long lost. I keep them close.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How I can explain to my eldest sister that, no, I don't attach human ears to the backs of mice at my work?
Conversely, trying to wrap my head around my sister's theories on resistance and the epistemology of the queer brown body. (She's a professor in California.)
On a typical Friday night I am
I am usually wiped from the week's experiments, so Mexican food and a book or something relaxing. When I don't have my little girl, happy hour with friends.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Ask and ye shall receive. Go know you want to...
You should message me if
I guess I would say if there was something that resonates with you, then drop me a line. Go ahead and throw caution to the wind. Say hello--what harm could it do?
The two of us