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My self-summary
*cue Raphael Saadiq singing "Good Man"

My parents wove deep, Black Southern American roots and Ukrainian culture into every fiber of my being. Therefore, the European decorum and Southern manners with which I was raised have left me with a few tendencies: I'm a gracious and generous host, don't put my elbows on the table, chew with my mouth closed, say "y'all" quite a bit, and ignore an ending consonant or two. I was the well-read class clown who grew up to be a walking contradiction, a progressive throwback, a warrior-poet, an opinionated introvert, a fountain of Seinfeldian references, yadda yadda yadda.

Give me art, sports, cartoons, music, books, and the sun...I'll be happy. Oh, and I'm addicted to learning so I'm always taking up some class or new hobby.

When it comes to matters of the heart, mine is sometimes careful, sometimes reckless, but over the years I've learned that struggle is necessary for me to earn what I am worth. These days, I know exactly what I want and find value outside of that. You know...that whole Bruce Lee "Be like water..." thing. I want to meet someone who makes me smile with frustration.

*fade out Raphael Saadiq, fade in The Rolling Stones: "Thru and Thru"

You're spontaneous but not reckless, right? A humble intellectual? Are you kind almost to a fault?

Will you throw your heels in the corner and dance until you sweat if your favorite song comes on? I swear I would if I wore heels. You have favorites, love to share and will let me do the same. You love competition, but are not a sore loser. You're neat but not obsessed, beautiful without depending on makeup, tolerant, wear your hair naturally, and are a free-thinker. I used to be a sucker for really smart girls; now it's a requirement, so our conversations will keep the check on the table for quite some time, even though its been paid. You can disagree without becoming angry. You have a history with some bumps and bruises, but they have all healed. You are formally educated and are a lifelong learner. You can comfortably share silence. You question, respect, and rebel against authority when necessary. You're thinking about messaging me. I've been looking for you, too.

Fade out Thru and Thru, fade in "Call Waiting" by Zap Mama
What I’m doing with my life
Laser-focused on strength...mind, body, soul.
I’m really good at
Teaching, supporting those close to me, mentoring teenagers, boxing, hitting baseballs, playing goalie, writing stuff that people want to read, peeling back layers of Shakespeare plays and Sopranos episodes, waking up early, wining it up to good riddims, decorating things, and eating breakfast....I LOVE breakfast!
The first things people usually notice about me
Let's talk about this beard thing, shall we? Some love it, some hate it, some automatically think they know something about me because of it, but here it is until it's gone.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
"The Triple Package: How Three Unlikely Traits Explain the Rise and Fall of Cultural Groups in America", "Shambhala: The Sacred Path of the Warrior", "Awakening the Buddha Within", "Life of Pi", "Ishmael", "The Prophet", "Twenty Love Poems and a Song of Dispair", "Africa United: Soccer, Passion, Politics, and the first World Cup in Africa", "The Art of Manliness", "13 Ways of Looking at a Black Man", "Love in a Dead Language", "The Master and Margarita"
Film festivals are one of my favorite parts of life, along with Indian food, Ethiopian food, and of course BREAKFAST!
The six things I could never do without
Food (the good kind), art, morning air, the sun, agua de coco, my family, a good pair of athletic shoes, and two extra spots on this list.
I spend a lot of time thinking about I can focus more on "now".
On a typical Friday night I am
lamenting the fact that there are no dancehall reggae spots in this gentrified city that I used to recognize.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Scary movies really do scare me...but I love them!
You should message me if
you have a big butt and a smile but I can still trust you. And you just laughed because you caught the allusion quickly.