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My self-summary
cue Raphael Saadiq singing "Good Man"

I come from deep, black Southern roots steeped in Ukrainian tradition. The European / Southern mix has left me with a few tendencies: I'm a gracious and generous host, don't put my elbows on the table, chew with my mouth closed, say "y'all", and ignore an ending consonant or two. I was the well-read class clown who grew up to be a walking contradiction, a progressive throwback, a warrior-poet, an opinionated introvert, a fountain of Seinfeldian references, yadda yadda yadda.

Guys like me do things like quote obscure movie lines, sing Prince walking from brunch to the park ("How can I stand to stay where I am / Poor butterfly who don't understand..."), ride an hour outside the city for a jar of rhubarb preserves, write a haiku on your leg, and let you keep the sunglasses after you borrow them. I love art, sports, cartoons, music, the sun, and all things academic; I'm addicted to learning and am always taking some sort of class whether in pursuit of another degree or some random hobby.

I value spiritual strength, formal education, emotional intelligence, and physical fitness. Please know that these are absolutely non-negotiable. Every precious moment on this earth is a gift, so I fill each one with things I've always wanted to do: I affect change through the youth, coach and compete in athletics, travel abroad as frequently as possible (Nicaragua most recently), and generally do the things I need to do to be the man I want to be. When I go, I go hard, and while I'm ok with the fact that my busy schedule has left me with a little less spare time than usual, I'm willing to rearrange a few things for the right person.

That's your cue.

*fade out Raphael Saadiq, fade in The Rolling Stones: "Thru and Thru"

You're spontaneous but not reckless, right? An intellectual with humility? Are you kind almost to a fault?

Will you throw your heels in the corner and dance until you sweat if your favorite song comes on? I swear I would if I wore heels. You have favorite things and know how to share without regret. You love competition, but are not a sore loser. You're neat but not obsessed, are ok leaving the house without makeup, tolerant, love your natural hair, and a free-thinker. I used to be such a sucker for smart girls; now it's a requirement, so our conversations will keep the check on the table for quite some time (even though it's paid). You'd be down with starting our own regular "vinyl and red wine night" or something. You know how to be still and can comfortably share a silence when appropriate. You can passionately disagree without becoming angry. You have a history with some bumps and bruises, but they have all healed. You are formally educated and still a lifelong learner. You question, respect, and rebel against authority when necessary. You're thinking about messaging me. I've been looking for you, too.

Fade out Thru and Thru, fade in "I Wonder U" by Prince
What I’m doing with my life
Small business development, guerrilla journalism, strength training and conditioning for young athletes, and manage a soccer league for DC elementary schools. I'm stirring a lot of pots right now!
I’m really good at
Teaching, supporting those close to me, mentoring teenagers, boxing, hitting baseballs, playing goalie, writing stuff that people want to read, peeling back layers of Shakespeare plays and Sopranos episodes, waking up early, wining it up to good riddims, decorating things, and eating breakfast....I LOVE breakfast!
The first things people usually notice about me
Let's talk about this beard thing, shall we? Some love it, some hate it, some automatically think they know something about me because of it, but here it is until it's gone.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
"The Triple Package: How Three Unlikely Traits Explain the Rise and Fall of Cultural Groups in America", "Shambhala: The Sacred Path of the Warrior", "Awakening the Buddha Within", "Life of Pi", "Ishmael", "The Prophet", "Twenty Love Poems and a Song of Dispair", "Africa United: Soccer, Passion, Politics, and the first World Cup in Africa", "The Art of Manliness", "13 Ways of Looking at a Black Man", "Love in a Dead Language", "The Master and Margarita"
Film festivals are one of my favorite parts of life, along with Indian food, Ethiopian food, and of course BREAKFAST!
The six things I could never do without
Food (the good kind), art, morning air, the sun, agua de coco, my family, a good pair of athletic shoes, and two extra spots on this list.
I spend a lot of time thinking about I can focus more on "now".
On a typical Friday night I am
lamenting the fact that there are no dancehall reggae spots in this gentrified city that I used to recognize.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Scary movies really do scare me...but I love them!
You should message me if
you have a big butt and a smile but I can still trust you. And you just laughed because you caught the allusion quickly.