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My self-summary
Ergh I should really delete this profile... and yet I don't....

So I was living in New York for a while and this profile was surprisingly popular there. Not sure how well it will go down now I'm back in England, but I guess we'll see...

*Actually living in Oxford not London, but it's a small enough town that I don't want to set my location there*

As certain elements of my pictures may betray, I enjoy some more creative activities in the bedroom. Specifically we should talk if you enjoy the idea of bondage, submission, or other bdsm related deviances.

Originally I used to have more submissive fantasies, but I have come to like taking control, and the pleasure I can bring in that role. (However, if you prefer be in charge I can certainly work with that)

I consider myself a feminist and I do not specifically find degrading women arousing. Rather I enjoy the exploration of the power dynamics between two people, and how that exchange of power and trust can access something...
...well something fun!

Oh and I usually tend to 'star' before messaging, as I know this profile can be a little controversial. I recommend staring me back if you'd like to hear what I have to say for myself!
What I’m doing with my life
Photography, writing, and collecting B-roll for film projects that will probably never happen... Also a post doc for moneys.
I’m really good at
If I said 'kinky sex' I wonder if you would believe me...
The first things people usually notice about me
My commanding presence...
Or my perfectly chiselled facial features that you will have to ask me to see... ;)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I have not read 50 shades of grey, and I have no intention of doing so.... just thought I'd get that out there.
Six things I could never do without
Your obedience!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Unusual sexual scenarios... and other experiments...
On a typical Friday night I am
I'll leave that to your imagination.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Well there's the fact I'm into kinky sex, you probably got that already. I'm also into food sex and getting into a mess, so there's some more information for you.

The photo of my toy collection got taken down, I have the same username on fetlife if you want to find more information there....

I am also a normal(ish) human, and have a real life that isn't primarily motivated by sex, I'd describe bdsm as more of a hobby than a compulsion... but where is that going to get you on the internet? Normally I start off pretty mild mannered when meeting strangers. I can play Mr domly dom dom if you like, but you'll have to let me know in advance if that's what you want, otherwise I'll just be myself.
You should message me if
You are looking for a safe pair of hands with which to explore those fantasies you have always secretly entertained. I would never force anyone do something they are unhappy with, and I don't expect people to leap straight into sex fantasy mode either. I'm happy to get to know you, and wait until you feel comfortable with me. I can also make small talk like a boss!

Normal dating is fine too, just consider this profile an over the top ice breaker...

I don't mind if you're nervous, unsure, your dating situation is complicated, or if after meeting me you just decide you're not into it. However I do like to know where I stand and be replied to in a timely fashion, so please be upfront and honest and I'll grant you the same courtesy.
The two of us