ajurebear
55Portland, United States
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My self-summary
In the last few months (a year or so?), I've had quite a few visitors, and a handful of Likes. In all fairness, I have to say that this profile has been woefully out of date. There have been many changes in my life since writing this. I guess it's time for an update.

As of 31 May 2017, at the time of this writing, there are 78 people who have 'liked' my profile. I don't have the 'premium service'. If you like my profile, please send me a message as I can't see who you are. Thanks.

I've been married since 1981, and my wife is my best friend. My rock! I sincerely and openly love her with all my life. Moreover, I'm indebted to her the kindness, patience and charity she has shown me over the decades. In August of 2004, my wife and I decided to have an open, polyamorous relationship. I'm polyamorous by nature, and quite sexual. I've been described as being agressive and passive, gregarious and misanthropic. I'm loyal to a fault with my tribe.

I live with three other people. My wife, my youngest son (an adult), and a roommate who is as a brother to me. This is my tribe. These are the people with who I place my trust. My life.

I was born and raised in Portland, Oregon, and I spent a few years living in North Dakota. I was kicked out of Washington High School in '79, six months before graduation. I spent two years at Portland Community College, but no degree. I joined the Army in '85 and spent some time at Fort McCoy, Wisconsin and Bitburg Air Base in Bitburg, Germany.

I drink coffee and smoke cigars regularly. Though I can enjoy a piss beer now and again, I prefer microbrews and imported beers. I also enjoy whiskey. I seldom drink or do drugs, but to say I do so 'socially' would be misleading.

I am fascinated with history, and consider myself an amateur historian. I enjoy reading, though I read very little anymore. I play table-top role-playing games, and video games. I also enjoy walking through parks and heavily wooded areas.

I've lived in Bitburg, Germany for a year, and I've visited London, England thrice. I would love to travel more. I enjoy street hiking, and walking the streets of London was amazing!
What I’m doing with my life
At this point, I'm trying to figure out who I am and how, or even if I fit into society. I'm retired, though I'm considering returning to the workforce on a part time basis.

As of 11 July 2011, I've answered over 10,000 match questions.
As of 27 March 2012, I've answered 20,000 match questions. I think I'll give it a break for awhile.

On 20 August 2016, I'd cleared my questions, and began anew.
I’m really good at
I've been told I'm really good at writing. I've actually written a few short stories and had a few novels in the making. Most of which are lost on dead computers.
The first things people usually notice about me
My hair, I should think, when it's not tied back. My hair is long, and very thick. I usually keep a beard or goatee and mustache. I've shaved recently, but I will be growing it back in time.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I have read literally hundreds, maybe thousands of books from all different genres. If someone were to ask what my favourite genre is, without thinking, I would say historical fiction. I'm not certain of the veracity of that, I'm not sure I have a favourite genre. Two of my favourite books are 'The Strange Case of Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde' by Robert Lewis Stevenson, and 'The Count of Monte Cristo' by Alexander Dumas. My favourite detective will ever be Sherlock Holmes as written by Sir Arthur Conan Doyle. Though I haven't read many of his books, I can relate with many of the philosophies of Robert A Heinlein. In general, I dislike YA books and romance novels. Though there are exceptions to the former.

Movies:
I'm quite critical of modern movie making, though I can enjoy them well enough. With few exceptions (that I've seen), modern movies are usually poorly written, relying more on hype and glamour to bring in the audience... And the audience buys it. In my opinion, the franchise/sequel has ruined modern movie making.

My favourite movie genre is historical fiction, though they often get it wrong. I'm quite fond of period pieces. After that, I'd say fantasy (not to be confused with science-fiction). I am a Star Trek fan, though not of the Abramsverse. I find movie adaptions of novels I've read to be quite annoying, though I can enjoy it well enough if I read the novel after seeing the movie. I also watch porn, preferring vintage and home made. Generally speaking, I don't like romantic comedies or children's movies. Again though, there are exceptions.

Television:
For the most, I loathe commercial television. Except for religion, I don't think anything stigmatises sex worse. Most television shows I've seen are extremely formulaic and unimaginative. That said, there are a few I enjoy wasting my head on.

Pay television is slightly better. Usually the programs are better written and acted, overall a better production value. Still, they tend to stigmatise sex and tend to be formulaic.

Music:
My favourite song of all time is Moondance by Van Morrison. My musical tastes span rock to jazz to classical to country.

Food:
I think my favourite dish is shepherds or cottage pie. Otherwise, I'm rather a simple meat and potatoes guy. Coffee and tea, good beer and whiskey. Chocolate!
Six things I could never do without
1) My Tribe
2) Books and History
3) Greenspaces
4) Sex
And then the basic necessities of life. I can't think of anything else that I could never do without.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Who I am and how or if I fit into our society. I'm trying to steer away from my concerns regarding the social/political climate in the US, and around the world. There's a match question, 'Which is more important, your country or the world?' My Tribe, and my immediate neighbours. Everything else has become too big.

I also think about travelling, I'd love to see Europe again, and my wife wants to cruise the Caribbean. I think of sex alot.
On a typical Friday night I am
Friday night is Music Night in our home. We listen to CDs or watch music videos, usually late into the early morn.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm a very sexual and touchy person.

In August of 2016, I ended a long-distance, polyamorous relationship. It wasn't a good break up, and it's taken me almost a year to get over it. I'm not sure I really am. During this relationship, per the polyamour's request, I kept my sexual activities between my wife and my polyamour.

My wife and I decided on an open relationship. It is my intent to move forward with that.
You should message me if
Years ago, I came here from Livejournal to take a test. And then I took another... And another... And another. I've answered alot of match questions. Cleared them, and began answering again.

I'm not sure if I'm actually looking for anything. I'm always open to meeting new friends. Perhaps a friend or two with benefits. If you're curious, if you want to get to know me, send me a message. I seldom make first contact.
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