alanahawk
44Seattle, United States
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My self-summary
I'm an artist. I love to read mostly fantasy, but I'll read most things.) I write poetry when I get a passion for it and rants when I get a passion for them--fortunately for the world, they're both rare. I love history and am geeky enough about it to both read it and re--enact some of it, though Renaissance Faire is my favourite so I'm not too uptight about it.

I'm 420 friendly...really, really friendly. ;)

I love being with my friends, especially since most of them may as well be my family as I see them that way. I like people who are quirky (though I hate that word 'cause of it's annoying connotations.)

I'm both spontaneous and well-planned...only one of many of my dichotomies--along with organized and messy, quiet and talkative, passionate and mellow. Don't ask me why, I don't know. I just seem to like the ends better than the middle.

I am ethically non monogamous. I've explained my view on this many times in many ways, but recently read an article that expresses my way of it very well:

"If you're a person who is dating, sleeping with, or otherwise seeing me, this is what I want you to know. When I look at you like I love you, it's because I probably do — or at least, I'm on my way there. But for me, falling in love doesn't equate to inhibiting your freedoms or my own. When I fall for you, it means you mean something to me, and I ultimately want to be a part of your life that makes you happy and builds you up. I'm not expecting anything from our relationship beyond the present moment, but I'm also not closed to the idea of a deeper connection developing. I want to see what happens when neither one of us is pushing or angling for anything.

I will never lie to you. I will never break my promises. I will never ghost on you. I'll never let insecurities or jealousy affect the way I treat you. I'll never tell you what to do or how to live your life, and I don't expect you to make me a factor in all of your decisions. And I won't be mad at you for having romances and attractions and hot bedroom adventures with other people who make you happy.

All I ask in return is the same level of consideration and respect. You can fall for me right back, and I'll give you warmth and killer sex and romance and laughter and absolutely no bullshit. Not such a bad deal, is it?"

"it takes courage to grow up and become who you really are" --e.e. cummings
What I’m doing with my life
Taking each day as it comes and milking the best out of it, even in the simplest ways. I'm a bit of a wastrel. I really should have been one of those rich Romantic poets who dabbled in everything and specialized in nothing but living life. La dolce far niente.
I’m really good at
A great many artistic and crafty pursuits. I love art in so many forms. Careerwise, I do: acrylic, watercolour, mosaic, picassiette, and ceramics. I also love more crafty things for my own enjoyment, such as sewing and needlework. I'm also a very good cook, which people comment on regularly. I love intellectual challenges at times, but I don't like to be competitive (well, maybe a little.)
The first things people usually notice about me
My sense of humour and warmth. My tattoos. The seemingly endless supply of Converse All-Stars I wear.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I love and hate this section. I love talking about all these things I love, but I also know I'm barely skimming the surface of it all. These are all talking points, but they really don't say as much as they should. I hate this section because it feels limited, constricted, and forcibly scripted. I wanna talk about all of this, but even more I wanna talk about something new and be even more excited.

The Dark Tower series by Stephen King, The Lord of the Rings, The Farseer series by Robin Hobb, The Black Company books by Glen Cook, and anything by Tad Williams. I'm an avid reader, with a huge library of books (1900 or so.)

Movies are hard to narrow down. I love a great many. Everything from When Harry Met Sally to Lock, Stock, and Two Smoking Barrels. I have about half as many movies as I do books, but I think that's reasonable.

I have extremely eclectic music tastes....Tori Amos to Nine Inch Nails to Arcade Fire to the Doors. And that goes nowhere near expressing the true breadth of my musical interests. I know everyone says they are eclectic, but trust me...I'm not kidding.

The more interesting and ethnic a food is, the better. Indian is still my favourite, hands down though. I really love seafood too and wish it were cheap. I am also constantly searching for really good sugar free desserts.
Six things I could never do without
I keep re-thinking this...in no particular order:
1. Water
2. Kindle
3. a pair of black low top Converse
4. Someone who I can talk to and also spend copious amounts of time exploring everything (sex included.)
5. Cats (they're just so damn entertaining)
6. Something creative to do with my hands.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What I want to paint. What's going on with my friends and how I can help them. Anything that randomly occurs in my mind. I love to think, so I suppose nothing is really off limits. I also think about completely random crap.
On a typical Friday night I am
Hanging out with my friends. At home playing games, watching movies, or making art. Or out dining, watching movies, drinking coffee or tea, or clubbing.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'll admit anything. I'm just not sure what I'd feel that private about. I guess that sometimes I'm insecure, but I really do try to fight that. The minute I no longer had family to wonder at the cuckoo in the nest, I no longer felt the need to really keep things private. I'm not out to rent a billboard, but I much prefer being open to keeping things too close to the vest.
You should message me if
I'm looking for:

Someone who respects me, someone who can laugh, someone who can cry, someone who can have fun even with the simplest of stimulus, someone who wants to see the world in all its good and bad, someone whose mind is as open as their heart, someone who can make a family from their friends, someone who knows that sharing doesn't mean losing anything, someone who enjoys sex, but isn't afraid of getting to know someone as a person in order to get there

I love people, but I'll admit to being picky. It isn't a normal picky though. I want people to be themselves, in their myriad, complex oddities. I want to like you because you order everything with extra pickles, not because you can add up 2 + 2.

"Each contact with a human being is so rare, so precious, one should preserve it. " --Anais Nin

First meetings must be in public or (at my discretion) my own home. This is a matter of personal safety for me. If you don't understand or sympathise with this, we're probably not right for one another.
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