I'm 420 friendly...really, really friendly. ;)
I love being with my friends, especially since most of them may as well be my family as I see them that way. I like people who are quirky (though I hate that word 'cause of it's annoying connotations.)
I'm both spontaneous and well-planned...only one of many of my dichotomies--along with organized and messy, quiet and talkative, passionate and mellow. Don't ask me why, I don't know. I just seem to like the ends better than the middle.
I am ethically non monogamous. I've explained my view on this many times in many ways, but recently read an article that expresses my way of it very well:
"If you're a person who is dating, sleeping with, or otherwise seeing me, this is what I want you to know. When I look at you like I love you, it's because I probably do — or at least, I'm on my way there. But for me, falling in love doesn't equate to inhibiting your freedoms or my own. When I fall for you, it means you mean something to me, and I ultimately want to be a part of your life that makes you happy and builds you up. I'm not expecting anything from our relationship beyond the present moment, but I'm also not closed to the idea of a deeper connection developing. I want to see what happens when neither one of us is pushing or angling for anything.
I will never lie to you. I will never break my promises. I will never ghost on you. I'll never let insecurities or jealousy affect the way I treat you. I'll never tell you what to do or how to live your life, and I don't expect you to make me a factor in all of your decisions. And I won't be mad at you for having romances and attractions and hot bedroom adventures with other people who make you happy.
All I ask in return is the same level of consideration and respect. You can fall for me right back, and I'll give you warmth and killer sex and romance and laughter and absolutely no bullshit. Not such a bad deal, is it?"
"it takes courage to grow up and become who you really are" --e.e. cummings
The Dark Tower series by Stephen King, The Lord of the Rings, The Farseer series by Robin Hobb, The Black Company books by Glen Cook, and anything by Tad Williams. I'm an avid reader, with a huge library of books (1900 or so.)
Movies are hard to narrow down. I love a great many. Everything from When Harry Met Sally to Lock, Stock, and Two Smoking Barrels. I have about half as many movies as I do books, but I think that's reasonable.
I have extremely eclectic music tastes....Tori Amos to Nine Inch Nails to Arcade Fire to the Doors. And that goes nowhere near expressing the true breadth of my musical interests. I know everyone says they are eclectic, but trust me...I'm not kidding.
The more interesting and ethnic a food is, the better. Indian is still my favourite, hands down though. I really love seafood too and wish it were cheap. I am also constantly searching for really good sugar free desserts.
3. a pair of black low top Converse
4. Someone who I can talk to and also spend copious amounts of time exploring everything (sex included.)
5. Cats (they're just so damn entertaining)
6. Something creative to do with my hands.
Someone who respects me, someone who can laugh, someone who can cry, someone who can have fun even with the simplest of stimulus, someone who wants to see the world in all its good and bad, someone whose mind is as open as their heart, someone who can make a family from their friends, someone who knows that sharing doesn't mean losing anything, someone who enjoys sex, but isn't afraid of getting to know someone as a person in order to get there
I love people, but I'll admit to being picky. It isn't a normal picky though. I want people to be themselves, in their myriad, complex oddities. I want to like you because you order everything with extra pickles, not because you can add up 2 + 2.
"Each contact with a human being is so rare, so precious, one should preserve it. " --Anais Nin
First meetings must be in public or (at my discretion) my own home. This is a matter of personal safety for me. If you don't understand or sympathise with this, we're probably not right for one another.