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My self-summary
I'm an artist. I love to read mostly fantasy, but I'll read most things.) I write poetry when I get a passion for it and rants when I get a passion for them--fortunately for the world, they're both rare. I love history and am geeky enough about it to both read it and re--enact some of it, though Renaissance Faire is my favourite so I'm not too uptight about it.

I'm 420 friendly...really, really friendly. ;)

I love being with my friends, especially since most of them may as well be my family as I see them that way. I like people who are quirky (though I hate that word 'cause of it's annoying connotations.)

I'm both spontaneous and well-planned...only one of many of my dichotomies--along with organized and messy, quiet and talkative, passionate and mellow. Don't ask me why, I don't know. I just seem to like the ends better than the middle.

I am currently ethically non monogamous. This doesn't mean, "Wow! Free sex!" Sex without connection is just masturbation by proxy. I genuinely love people and prefer close relationships of any variety, rather than shallow ones. I don't expect an immediate "love-date" connection, I don't expect anything. I prefer relationships to progress how they will, in whatever direction they naturally wish to go. Friends are just as valuable as lovers, and both in one is totally awesome.

And, btw, none of us really likes labels, but how else do we go about describing some of the more amorphous elements of our natures? Suck it up people. You're just a unique little snowflake like the rest of us. Labels are only a problem when they quit being labels and start being identity.

"it takes courage to grow up and become who you really are" --e.e. cummings
What I’m doing with my life
Taking each day as it comes and milking the best out of it, even in the simplest ways. I'm a bit of a wastrel. I really should have been one of those rich Romantic poets who dabbled in everything and specialized in nothing but living life. La dolce far niente.
I’m really good at
A great many artistic and crafty pursuits. I love art in so many forms. Careerwise, I do: acrylic, watercolour, mosaic, picassiette, and ceramics. I also love more crafty things for my own enjoyment, such as sewing and needlework. I'm also a very good cook, which people comment on regularly. I love intellectual challenges at times, but I don't like to be competitive (well, maybe a little.)
The first things people usually notice about me
My sense of humour and warmth. My tattoos. The seemingly endless supply of Converse All-Stars I wear.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I love and hate this section. I love talking about all these things I love, but I also know I'm barely skimming the surface of it all. These are all talking points, but they really don't say as much as they should. I hate this section because it feels limited, constricted, and forcibly scripted. I wanna talk about all of this, but even more I wanna talk about something new and be even more excited.

The Dark Tower series by Stephen King, The Lord of the Rings, The Farseer series by Robin Hobb, The Black Company books by Glen Cook, and anything by Tad Williams. I'm an avid reader, with a huge library of books (1900 or so.)

Movies are hard to narrow down. I love a great many. Everything from When Harry Met Sally to Lock, Stock, and Two Smoking Barrels. I have about half as many movies as I do books, but I think that's reasonable.

I have extremely eclectic music tastes....Tori Amos to Nine Inch Nails to Arcade Fire to the Doors. And that goes nowhere near expressing the true breadth of my musical interests. I know everyone says they are eclectic, but trust me...I'm not kidding.

The more interesting and ethnic a food is, the better. Indian is still my favourite, hands down though. I really love seafood too and wish it were cheap. I am also constantly searching for really good sugar free desserts.
The six things I could never do without
I keep re-thinking no particular order:
1. Water
2. Kindle
3. a pair of black low top Converse
4. Someone who I can talk to and also spend copious amounts of time exploring everything (sex included.)
5. Cats (they're just so damn entertaining)
6. Something creative to do with my hands.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What I want to paint. What's going on with my friends and how I can help them. Anything that randomly occurs in my mind. I love to think, so I suppose nothing is really off limits. I also think about completely random crap.
On a typical Friday night I am
Hanging out with my friends. At home playing games, watching movies, or making art. Or out dining, watching movies, drinking coffee or tea, or clubbing.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'll admit anything. I'm just not sure what I'd feel that private about. I guess that sometimes I'm insecure, but I really do try to fight that. The minute I no longer had family to wonder at the cuckoo in the nest, I no longer felt the need to really keep things private. I'm not out to rent a billboard, but I much prefer being open to keeping things too close to the vest.
You should message me if
I'm looking for:

Someone who respects me, someone who can laugh, someone who can cry, someone who can have fun even with the simplest of stimulus, someone who wants to see the world in all its good and bad, someone whose mind is as open as their heart, someone who can make a family from their friends, someone who knows that sharing doesn't mean losing anything, someone who enjoys sex, but isn't afraid of getting to know someone as a person in order to get there

I love people, but I'll admit to being picky. It isn't a normal picky though. I want people to be themselves, in their myriad, complex oddities. I want to like you because you order everything with extra pickles, not because you can add up 2 + 2.

"Each contact with a human being is so rare, so precious, one should preserve it. " --Anais Nin

First meetings must be in public or (at my discretion) my own home. This is a matter of personal safety for me. If you don't understand or sympathise with this, we're probably not right for one another.