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My self-summary
I'm polyamorous. I'm in a primary relationship with GloinCameroon I'm open to dating new people, making new friends, meeting other poly people who are single or partnered. I like the word "open" a lot. It encompasses how I see love and relationships.

I'm a dad. I have my daughter 1/2 time. She's a tween and thank the gods she and I are still close.

As a couple, GloinCameroon and I are into exploring with others, men and women. We are also open to the idea of a larger relationship, semi-polyfidelitous, and possibly building a larger family in the future. I think ideally at this time I'd like to find a bi guy who was excited about connecting with both of us.

Other facts, I've traveled the world, I'm a photographer, I have been a lefty political activist, I'm a massage therapist.

I am completely indifferent to all sports. I could be talked into playing a game of this or that. I can even watch others play for a bit to enjoy the athleticism of their efforts, but I don't care who wins when major teams play, and don't follow pro or college sports of any kind. (I include this as a service to all the hard core sports fans for whom this fact about me is a deal killer.)

I am "ethnically Jewish" I don't practice, and never have. Both of my parents were raised Jewish, I was raised Unitarian. At this point I'd say I was "Spiritual not religious." (Ever hear Utah Phillips talk about being run out of town by the Unitarians? They burned a question mark on his lawn.)

I believe strongly in non-violent communication, especially in relationships. (Sometimes I make exceptions in traffic, muttering to other drivers.)
What I’m doing with my life
I've been a photographer for the past 13 years. I like it, and feel very lucky to not have a 9 to 5 office type job.

Photography bookings aren't what they were when everyone was spending the equity on their houses on big lavish weddings, so I am also doing massage therapy. I'm really good too.
I’m really good at
Playing with children.
Thinking (don't laugh, not everyone is)
The first things people usually notice about me
I have no idea. Does this mean I am not self aware? I hope not. You should ask them what they notice about me.

I'm reminded of an interview with Steve Carell. About his character in the office, he says "Everyone knows someone like that, and if you don't, then you probably are that person."

I hope I am not THAT person, but I am still not sure what most people think of me.

Now I'm remembering a funny quote from a teacher of mine. He was making fun of how people always worry "what will they think of me?" He rejoined; "Who had time to think about you?"
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I am a great science fiction fan in movies and books (though there are not that many great science fiction movies in my opinion)

Pardon me while I name authors instead of books.

Neil Gaiman,
Ursula K. Le Guin
Barbara Kingsolver
kurt vonnegut
Peter Carey
Amy Tan
Alice Walker
JK Rowling (reading her to my daughter and loving it)

Music is very important to me. I would not say I like all kinds of music, but my taste are wide, and they get wider all the time. I've spent a life time enjoying crunchy hippie music like Bob Dylan, Joni Mitchell, and KFOG "alternative" type music, but more and more I find myself really pleased by music I used to hate or ignore, like I'm starting to get the appeal of both country AND heavy metal, I'm more into Punk than ever.

Ok, here is an overkill list of some of my favorite music:
Aimee Mann
Alanis Morissette
Alex Heffes
Alison Krauss
Ani DiFranco
Annie Lennox
Azure Ray
Ben Folds Five
Ben Harper
Beth Orton
Bettie Serveert
Blossom Dearie
Bob Dylan
Bonnie Prince Billy
Bruce Cockburn
Carrie Newcomer
Cat Power
Cat Stevens
Cindi Lauper
Count Basie
Counting Crows
The Cranberries
Crosby Stills Nash and Young
Cry Cry Cry
The Cure
Dar Williams
David Bowie
Dixie Chicks
Duncan Sheik
Eddie Vedder
Edie Brickell
Elliot Smith
Erykah Badu
Eva Cassidy
Everything But The Girl
Fairport Convention
Gillian Welch
Greg Brown
Gipsy Kings
Heather Nova
Imogen Heap
Indigo Girls
Iron & Wine
jack johnson
James Taylor
Jenny Lewis With The Watson Twins
Jess Klein
Jimi Hendrix
John Fahey
John Gorka
Johnny Cash
Jonatha Brooke
Joni Mitchell
Jose Gonzalez
k.d. lang
Kasey Chambers
Kate Rusby
Kristen Hersh
Ladysmith Black Mambazo
Lily Allen
Lisa Loeb
Louis Armstrong
Louis Prima
Martin Sexton
Matchbox 20
Mazzy Star
Me'shell Ndegeocello
Mercedes Sosa
Meredith Miller Band
Michael Franti
Miriam Makeba
Natalie Merchant
Nick Drake
No Doubt
Old Crow Medicine Show
Over The Rhine
Patty Griffin
Paul Simon
Peter Gabriel
Pink Floyd
Poi Dog Pondering
The Police
The Postal Service
Rainer Maria
Richard Thompson
Sandy Denny
Sarah McLachlan
Seu Jorge
Shawn Colvin
Sheryl Crow & Stevie Nicks
Sixpence None The Richer
The Smiths
State Radio
Stevie Nicks
Suzanne Vega
Talking Heads
Tegan and Sara
Tom Petty
Tori Amos
Tuck & Patti
Violent Femmes
The Waifs
The Wailin' Jennys
Yeah Yeah Yeahs
Zero 7
10,000 Maniacs

All time favorite: Harold and Maude
other great ones:
Groundhog Day
The Triplets of Belleville
Spirited Away
Six things I could never do without
My daughter
My friends
High Speed Internet
My Cameras
podcasts and audio books
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Making the world a better place.

I want to make enough money so I can travel the world doing self funded freelance photojournalism projects about the good things that people are doing in the world.

People like Wangari Maathai (won the Nobel prize for planting 10 million trees in Africa) or Amory Lovins (knows how to solve global warming while making society a better place for everyone to live in AND making business more money)
On a typical Friday night I am
Sometimes I'm working, photographing a wedding or event. Other-times I am out with friends, but not usually at bars as I'm not a huge fan.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have no sense of smell. I was born without one, like being blind but in my nose.
You should message me if
The word "should" is a little problematic. However, if you've read this far and you'd like to message me, I'd love to hear from you. I'm open to all kinds of connections and relationships.
The two of us