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My self-summary
I was born. Had a childhood I remember a few things from. Had a few years of adolescence/puberty before losing my mind/touch with reality for about 20 years. The drugs started working. Realized reality is what it is, regardless of what I think about it. Realized that somewhere in the dark times, I'd had a daughter, and dedicated myself to that job/privilege, particularly motivated by the words of a friend who'd lost her father. Volunteering at a bike non-profit led to being a partner in a bike shop-cafe in the Bayview. It folded after a year. The landlord asked if I'd be interested in keeping the bike shop portion going under a reduced rent agreement, I gave it a try. It didn't work, I shut it down in March. San Francisco has become so inhospitable to the working class, places like bike shops can't entice anyone to BART over from the East Bay, so finding a job was a breeze. So now I am working to take care of the moderate debt left over from my business, and planning for the future; I might like to try a bike shop again in a better location of MY choosing, or go to UBI to learn frame building, as I find the idea of creating bikes much more attractive than fixing broken ones.
I guess I prefer analog to digital; bikes are entirely mechanical if done right(not enthused about Di2/Etap...). I even prefer bio/nanotechnology to electronic tech, because they are basically just making little machines.
What I’m doing with my life
Plotting a course.
I’m really good at
Being very modest; I won a contest once.

Also, remaining calm when I am injured. One time I was riding my motorcycle on 24th Street, hit a patch of oil with my front wheel while braking for a stop, and went down. After I righted the bike, I realized something in my hand was going crunch-crunch-crunch when I actuated the clutch, so since I was near SF General I rode myself over there, parked my bike, and then lost consciousness because of the pain. Woke up and walked myself in, but never panicked.
Same kind of thing when recently a folding knife closed on my thumb and cut my finger in half lengthwise. Not pleasant, but never felt panic.
The first things people usually notice about me
My empty, blank stare, signifying the futility of life, and our smallness in a vast universe. Then they notice my Luis Vuitton shoes and Rolex.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Procrastination, Why You Do It, What to Do About It. Jane B. Burke PhD and Lenora M. Yuen PhD. Well, actually, I haven't read it yet. Been meaning to. I'll start it tomorrow, I promise.
The Word For World Is Forest,Ursula K. LeGuin The way she makes you inhabit the over-the-top-macho villain's head is both enlightening and unsettling.
A Handmaid's Tale, Margaret Atwood If the GOP had it's way...
Star Maker, Olaf Stapledon; If you have ever looked up at a starry sky and wondered what it is all for, please, please, please, read this book. Bundled with it in the Dover edition is his Last And First Men, a future history of the human race, from the First Men(Us), to the Seventeenth Men, living on Neptune with both they and the planet adapted, billions of years in the future, and facing the certain destruction of mankind. Told as if a member of the 17th Men was reaching back through time to tell one of us the story.
Wicked, Gregory Maguire; The Wizard
of Oz from the Wicked Witch's perspective; if you believe
that history is written by the victors in their favor, this
is for you.
Immortality, Milan Kundera; amazing.
Snow Crash, Neal Stephenson; great Swiftian extrapolation.
Anything by Tim O'Brien
Idoru, William Gibson
Fear and Loathing In Las Vegas, Hunter S. Ok, Ok, Must stop, must stop. I like to read, can you tell? I get the shakes every time I walk in a book store. But one last quote before I quit(last great book YOU read: this profile):
"I look in the paper for a good comic strip to bring Ruth. All of them today would only hurt her feelings. Try this sometime: read the comics as though time were awfully short. You will be hard pressed to find anything funny. You will understand irony. You will put down the paper and look at the way the sun happens to be lighting the sky, and you will be thinking one word: please." Elizabeth Berg , Talk Before Sleep(About a woman whose friend is dying of cancer).
Currently reading: A Canticle For Leibowitz, Walter M. Miller Jr.
First edit in a LONG time: When my daughter was born, my dad sent me a copy of The Hobbit, the 50th Anniversary edition, hardbound faux gold leaf with the slip cover, inscribed "For Stella, when she is old enough, Grampa Ron". Well after years of playing with that neat gold book, she was recently old enough. It became our bedtime story, a bit of a chapter each night. She was sad when it ended, so can you imagine her excitement when I told her there were THREE more books? We just started The Two Towers, and she is giddy because it is now apparent that Gollum will be joining the story again. Her thing right now is to jump down from trees and other things onto all fours, and say in her best Smeagol voice (which is actually pretty good IMHO) "What has it got, in it's nasty little pocketses?" :) I'm so happy to be reading again, and in these circumstances...

Wings of Desire,Fight Club, Brazil, Blade Runner,Shawshank Redemption.Se7en, Usual Suspects

As for television, I did like Six Feet Under, the bits of Battlestar Galactica I've caught have been good, considering the cheesy 70's show it's based on, but if I have the time, I'd rather read, or see a movie.
On the ole iTunes playlist: 120 Minutes,
Vol. 1&2, ACDC, Aerosmith, Aimee Mann, Aphex Twin,
Apocalyptica, Aretha, Beastie Boys, Beatles, Beck, Big
Boi, Bill Hicks, Billie Holiday, Bing, Bjork, Black Crowes,
Black Eyed Peas, Blondie, Blur, Bob Dylan, Bob Marley(Damn
iTunes; can't it recognize a last name to alphabetize?),
J.Cash, Cat Stevens, Cheap Trick, Christina Aguilera,
The Clash, Debussy, Concrete Blonde, Creedence, Crowded
House, The Cure, Cypress Hill, Danzig, Bowie, David Gray,
Dead Kennedies, Deborah Harry, Depeche Mode, (stay tuned
for more....)
PJ Harvey, Nirvana, and Tom Waits stand out as never doing wrong by me...
Six things I could never do without
Professional sports; Giants, 49ers, Raiders, yeah. Wait, NEVER do without? Thought it said things I could do without. Consider sports a distraction from what matters, and a net zero in making any difference in the world. Utterly uninterested. I'm a bike mechanic, and I don't even care for bike races. Pretty much the same for TV.
On a typical Friday night I am
With my daughter. I'm not a big fan of crowded venues, so I tend to go out on off nights and times.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I loathe hunters. And not just because they kill animals for no other reason than to stroke their ego. Because really, they're a bunch of wusses. I perused a hunting supply catalog recently, and cripes, you'd think their adversary was the creature from Alien. Infrared-triggered digital night vision cameras to track feeding patterns while in the comfort of your own home. Artificial sex hormones to attract prey. High velocity hollow points for single shot take downs. It's Bambi, for crissake. And that bear would probably only attack you if you were stupid enough to mess with her cub. You want sport? Try this: Sharpen a good sized stick. Strip down naked, go into the forest, and take on something with claws, tusks, or fangs. When the odds are 50/50, THAT'S sport. And if you win, don't just take the head and a few choice cuts. There's a reason the Native Americans hate us.

Also, I just discovered I have a form of Tourette's, triggered by idiots driving too fast in the rain and slamming into my rearend on the freeway. I'm told no one else curses when that happens.
You should message me if
First and foremost: you want to go for a bike ride. I am very much looking for riding companions. I have just hit 60lbs. off my highest weight, completely from riding again, and I want to keep the momentum going through the dark times of winter.

Just recently I had a dialogue here that really helped gel it for me. It essentially went like this:
Me:So, you know, I feel in the past I've made the mistake of latching on to one person far too soon, and this go I've decided I want to make a decision in a more balanced way. I am not a player, I just want to be sure when the time comes.
Them:I think I understand. I'm not exactly worried about relationship choices right now. I know what you are describing though, from both ends. Human connection is desired but difficult in the modern world.
Me:Yes, finding "The One" would be wonderful, but I also know I've thought I found them many times before. Perhaps a little perspective is in order? Human connection is a necessity, but often bundled with much baggage and caveats; it would be wonderful to have shared experiences that are not concerned with tomorrow, or ten years hence. I really want to have fun and play, be playful without being sleazy, get away to a different reality for a short while.

Partnership is appealing, with the right person. The right kind of mix of "I get you!" and mystery unfolding. I wish for it, but am patient.
The two of us