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My self-summary
Hi. I've been told that my profile is a bit on the long side but, the way I see it, if you read to the end you have proven yourself to have a real attention span and we probably have real things to talk about. So, ready, set, read...

In an increasingly impersonal world I do what I can to make it a friendlier one. If I have spare change, I give it to the next worthy panhandler. When I dine out (which is far too often) I always leave a 20% tip and tell my server "Thank you." I'll hold the door if I know someone is behind me. Having class is as important to me as is having self-respect and "other"-respect*. (*Trademark pending) Life is too short to be low-budget, mundane or pedestrian. It is why we live here.

Politically left of center, I have no patience for the right-wing hyperbolic nut-jobbery which seems to be the main requirement of conservative elected officials. The only news I can stand to watch on TV is John Oliver and I'll read The New Yorker for print journalism. If you want to see what's happened to local news go to YouTube, search on "Conan local news" and get ready for uncomfortable laughter. Apparently the easter bunny has lost some of the spring in his step.

I understand the whole douche-bag vs nice-guy duality. DB's go for what they want without appology and sometimes that's attractive but then they act like DBs. NGs have manners and treat women with respect which is also attractive but have trouble going for what they want and can wind up being wusses. It's a crazy balancing act to embody both without the downsides but I find I'm getting better at it. However, I have never worn anything involving a popped collar.

I'm looking for a partner in fun for music, film, theater, dining, conversation, wine tasting, traveling, sharing, talk about my day, etc. You know, the fun stuff. I give as well as I get.

I moved to our city to see great film, hear great bands and meet and befriend great people. I sincerely hope the woman I love will also embrace these experiences.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm a software developer with an IT services firm in Midtown that is specializing in the music and media industries.

I've started doing a yearly destination vacation. 3 years ago it was Paris, 2 years ago Hawaii, last year St. Petersburg, Florida (I know, not much of a destination). Looking into Spain, Italy or Germany this year.
I’m really good at
Setting up home audio/video systems. Ok at pairing wine w/ food.
The first things people usually notice about me
is that I've got lots of height and can reach high places. As I get older I've heard from a few that I'm looking more and more like Clint Eastwood. That may be but the only chairs I talk to have people sitting in them.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Pulp Fiction (best film ever made)
Hateful 8
Scott Pilgrim Vs The World
Blue Velvet
Mullholand Drive
The Bitter Tears Of Petra Von Kant

Current TV:
Game Of Thrones
True Detective (Season 1. WTF happened to season 2?)
Big Bang Theory
Peaky Blinders
Black Mirror
John Oliver

Book of Mormon (the musical NOT the book)
Something Rotten (It's so hard to be the bard!)

The Believing Brain
The God Delusion
Richard Dawkins
Christopher Hitchens

The Kids in the Hall
Monty Python
Bill Hicks
Jim Jefferies
Pee Wee Herman

Some fav bands/performers like Velvet Underground, Jimi Hendrix, Charles Mingus, Miles Davis, Flogging Molly and They Might Be Giants. Frank Zappa and Brian Eno are personal heroes.
Some specific genres like psychobilly, obnoxious punk bands, prog rock, jazz and some rap/hip-hop. I'll listen to classical, but only when I have to. No country, disco or opera ever.
On New Years Eve I was at MSG watching a great Phish concert.

single malt scotch served neat

City Winery
Irving Plaza
Bowery Ballroom
Galapagos Art Space (RIP)
930 Club (in Washington, DC)

my Roku box
Galaxy S7 edge
Amazon Prime.

Bottom line: The quirkier the better. Suggestions?
The six things I could never do without
Good friends
Edgy film
Compelling music
Interesting food
Regular peace & quiet (allowing for traffic noise of course)
Public transportation
Quirk in all its sundry forms
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Why do otherwise intelligent people adopt nonsensical belief systems?

Why does cable TV still use channel numbers?

Why are there interstate highways in Hawaii?

So if according to Genesis, God created the earth, the day, the night and only AFTER those created the heavenly bodies INCLUDING the sun, where did the light for day come from?
On a typical Friday night I am
usually traveling somewhere for the weekend.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I've been know to call people "Dude" more than my age would normally allow.
You should message me if
Do you get really seriously bored by things like Twilight, Celine Dion, Justin Bieber or most Disney product (Toy Story and Aladdin excluded)? Do you get seriously excited by gritty New York City? Were you ever a fan of the 80s downtown punk scene (not a requirement but nice if you were)? Do you know the difference between a regular guitar and a bass guitar? Would you rather rock out than mellow out? And finally, have you ever been to a show where you could tell that the band/performer was only there for a paycheck?

I realize that many women on this site may have been traumatized by some of the treatment they have received in the online dating world so let me assure you about some things. I'm socially normal, have lots of friends, have good manners and an actively functioning conscience. My first choice is to do the right thing even when it's the painful option but I won't allow myself to be a doormat. I always pay on the first date and have never been characterized as cheap. But that being said, I'm also human and like all humans I may stumble once in a while. And if I see you stumble, I'll give you the benefit of the doubt and even extend my hand to help. I believe in respect and courtesy so if we meet, I'll always lead with those and not try to "game" attraction through mistreatment. If that all sounds "too nice", you'll need to keep looking.

Like most of us, I'm looking for chemistry. But even at my advanced age, I still find it to be nebulous and mysterious. Like all things that are truly worthwhile, it's difficult to find and not always easy to recognize but I'm willing to do what's necessary to achieve it. So give me a chance. I'll return the favor.

With all of the above we now come to the "not to haves" and "must haves" and we all have those. I respect the vegan/vegetarian lifestyle but it doesn't work with my own. I like my family's and friend's children but I'm child free. And for similar reasons, I generally like dogs but if you have one that won't work for me. If you watch Fox News at all, sorry. I realize the world needs both conservatives and liberals but I'm afraid the right-wing in this country is about to go postal. (Why else would gay marriage bother them so much. And if you voted for Trump, bye-bye.) I have a twice a week gym habit so please have some kind of fitness regime. If you thought the movie Pulp Fiction was too violent, I get that but you won't get me. I'm ok w/ family or friends that have found religion but that isn't where I'm at. My only spiritual belief is what goes around comes around. But most importantly please be gainfully employed and live within the 4 boroughs. (Sorry Staten Islanders. The ferry is a deal breaker.)

And since this is probably the um-teenth profile you've read, here is some comic relief:

What did Sarah Palin get on her SATs?

What's the difference between Kenny G and a machine gun?
A machine gun only repeats itself 30 times.

What's the difference between God and Donald Trump?
God doesn't think he's Donald Trump.

Why do the super religious make such great Trump supporters?
They're already good at believing bullshit.