Yes, I have face pics, but I'm selective about sending them.
I am non-monogamous and do have relationships of various types and intensities already in my life. Monogamy is 95% off the table for me; if it's 100% necessary for you, then we're not compatible for dating. Compromise is possible, but if we have to start in a place where I have to do all the compromising, that creates a whole other set of issues. Feel free to message me for potential friendship.
I am looking for new people in my life, but it's not my life's focus. I have a great deal of love, commitment and affection in my chosen family; I'm not filling a void, and I'm not in a hurry. I don't do the online chat thing much if at all, so if I'm interested, I'm much more likely to try to find a time to meet you for coffee or a drink.
OkCupid keeps matching me with people I already know, so I do feel like its system must work.
Note: I am interested in casual sex, but I took it off my list of "looking for" because too many people are clearly just writing to everyone who has that listed.
Just because I am interested in casual sex does not mean I am indiscriminate. I still want to know something about you. Being interested in casual sex is not enough of a common interest to get me interested in you. I have to actually like you enough to have sex with you, so say something interesting.
Being interested in casual sex also does not mean I am *not* interested in anything else.
Other things to know about me: I don't date/play with/fuck people based on their genitals. I consider Social Justice Warrior a compliment.
For a more dynamic sense of who I am, you might check my twitter or tumblr, which are both @amethyst1.
Work, family (biological & chosen), fun, and more work.
I'm a big nerd: comic books, documentaries, Star Trek, etc. except I'm not much of a gamer.
I write a lot.
Books: The Hunger Games, Beloved
Movies: The Avengers, Reservoir Dogs, Clue
Shows: Anything by Joss Whedon or Aaron Sorkin (well, almost anything. I've fallen behind on all the recent stuff. ) Avatar: The Last Airbender
Music: Guster, The Police, Adele, Ben Folds Five, Janelle Monae
Food: Indian, Mexican, Italian, Greek
My phone. (Because it is how I find everything.)
If we have match & friend percentages of less than 80%, you also might want to tell me why you're writing (e.g. we have some particular interest in common or you liked my answer to a particular question.)
If your listed location is not local to me, I am not likely to answer you unless you are frequently in my area. So you should let me know if that's the case.
I hate that I feel compelled to put a series of disclaimers on my profile, but I just waded through a crapton of sucky messages, so here goes:
*One word messages - deleted.
*Messages only containing an emoticon - deleted.
*Messages that call me kitten, princess, or any other cutsey nickname without us having had any conversation - probably deleted.
*Messages that say nothing except how I fit a particular fetish of yours - deleted.
*Messages containing the word Nubian - promptly deleted
*Messages leading with "I've never had sex with a black girl" - definitely deleted.
*Messages written as though someone is charging you per punctuation mark - not necessarily deleted, but gets serious eye rolls.
*Messages written as though someone is paying you per punctuation mark - see above.
*Messages from people not local to me or with lower than an 80% match rate, with no information about why I should ignore those facts - probably deleted.
*Messages about how you're in town for the weekend and would like to hook up - not necessarily deleted, but probably.
Also, I am not a submissive. Seriously, stop asking. Top-leaning switch, if you must know.